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Last week, I questioned a couple widely-accepted beliefs that typically fall into the LOA grab bag.
We aren’t the average of the five people we spend the most time with and the world isn’t all bad, right? I may have spoken too soon on the latter, as we’ve hit a new record of mass shootings here in the U.S., where I live. But people are banning plastic bags in whole cities and cleaning up the oceans, so it can’t be all bad…
This week, I thought I would hit the LOA of when bad things happen. Also, let’s question more beliefs!
First, I had a crap morning today. Nothing would go right! I walked into a giant spiderweb in the dark on the way into work. The printer went on the fritz. Everything electronic I touched did something strange. Software burps… Personal brain farts… Accidentally deleted an important email… Butterfinger moments constantly… and all the while…I never stopped trying to get that spider out of my hair all morning! Things improved somewhat when I went to the gym to get out some frustration!
I tried not to focus on my mistakes this morning, but what we focus on expands. Trying NOT to focus on my mistakes means I’m still thinking about them! Talk about a circle of madness. So how to reboot? Take a break! I walk a lap around the building, have a snack, make a tea, or anything that gets me away from the desk.
Back to the idea of how what we focus on expands…
Are we so focused on mass shootings that they are expanding? The literal LOA stuff would dictate a big “yes” here. If we didn’t report them happening, that wouldn’t make them stop. There are far more forces at play. We used to think if we talked more about mass shooting victims than their perpetrators, we’d take the gas out of the shooters’ fire. Wrong again; these people aren’t seeking fame. Rather, they are fueled by hate. Or something. I’m not going to sit around, sane as I am, trying to understand the works of insane men.
Remember when I said last week the world isn’t this horrible place? Can I take that back now? I say this as someone who spends time consuming news — but as someone who is also intuitive and empathic. Could it be that my butterfingery experience this morning was influenced by my consumption of large amounts of tragic and violent news? Was I so focused on the news of mass shootings, that the negativity of it all leaked out into my energy field? Hence, I’m deleting emails by accident, killing printers, dropping stuff, etc?
This is why I tell my Reiki students to consume less news prior to a Reiki class. This crap gets into our energy field. Too much news, social media scrolling, and even empty conversations attracts what exactly into our space?
To really engage LOA properly, we have to engage in higher vibe activities. Walks in nature are better than scrolling Facebook just like eating carrots is better than snarfing donuts.
People love to talk about LOA being about abundance. So many people tout LOA for prosperity. But until you start working consciously with your own energy field, you haven’t cracked the surface. This is part of the reason why I’ve never been a huge fan of The Secret. The film is literally a rambling conversation about LOA without any substance. LOA is so much more than that. I’ve touched on this in a much earlier blog. But I’m not the only one.
Check out the “Throw out Your Vision Board” guy!
Dr. Neil Farber writes a pretty scathing review of LOA here. Will I actually throw out my vision board? No. I love the thing. But I do acknowledge that I — like most people — create a board from a place of comfort. I need to put up much scarier visions & goals on that board, which I am working on. And I agree with this guy that you need an action board more than a vision board. I keep a vision board but put my actions into my Self Journal.
I hate the idea of just cutting out random expensive things to paste on a poster board. Don’t do that!
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But check out point #7 here. Dr. Neil Farber writes that, “Challenges are considered negative.” This is where I think the era of The Secret did more harm than good, for sure:
Even talking about challenges and obstacles is an admission of doubt in a law of attraction. Positive and social psychology research have identified many benefits to planning for and encountering challenges. A healthy attitude toward challenges is associated with increased resilience and greater success.
I dug up an early New Thought writer’s writing through Google Scholar you can read for free. William Walker Atkinson wrote the book, Thought Vibration: Or, The Law of Attraction in the Thought World. Like any old book, if you want to read it, I’ll say read with caution. (I couldn’t read Napoleon Hill the first time I picked it up due to the overt racism of it). You can read it online here. He writes that your will doesn’t need training — your mind does.
I would be remiss to say I agree with all Dr. Farber’s points. His point #10 mentions that LOA provides, “no support groups.” I’ll take issue with his mention of Alcoholics Anonymous simply because the idea that addicts needs other addicts to “recover” is a social construct created by AA. There is an alternative out there, called The Freedom Model, which can be purchased on Amazon here. I would never recommend anyone go to AA simply due to the liability of what can happen to a person there (I’ve personally been harassed by AA members in my past, and after 4.5 years of social work I have seen the program’s success rate to be low). I didn’t want anyone to think my linking to Dr. Farber’s article would be an endorsement by me of AA in any way.
I did want to link to his article to show some critical thinking about the law of attraction. It goes well with my post from last week where I was questioning the “you are an average of five people” idea. You are NOT an average. You are so much more than that.