As we closed out last week, I mentioned talking about my food fears. Don’t worry, food fears won’t be the theme for the week. No theme this week, actually. I thought we’d meander through and see where it goes!
Listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #16 here and catch up on the rest here.
All the podcasts for this week are up and I’ll be posting the show notes throughout the week. There’s a deep one this week. Just to warn you!
Today, food fears. I am afraid of gluten.
The crap will put me down (in the bathroom) hard for 8 solid hours, then I’ll feel like I got hit by a train, then try to recover for days. I avoid it! I fear it! It’s given me a lot of food anxiety. I hate eating out at new places. Everywhere I eat now was a new place once, but they have to be gluten-free friendly. I dread social situations in which eating is involved. I don’t want to have to talk about it —ugh— again. I hate that I’m the “fragile chick” with the food issue. I hate that people want to ask about it. I’ve had this for over ten years. I’m sick of it and having to talk about it with people who aren’t in my inner circle.
So why am I bringing this up?
Well, my food fears are warranted. While not anaphylactic, I still get sick from certain foods like wheat, eggs, and —apparently— that new fake egg product on the market. (I so wanted that one to work out).
So which fears are Unwarranted?
Fear of failure, fearing, “what will they think?” These are unwarranted. Theses are crappy, copout fears. They won’t make you sick like gluten makes me sick, but they will hold you back. Which is almost as bad — or worse!
So what is the difference? When are you having a legit fear versus when are you having a fear that is just a nagging, crippling one you shouldn’t listen to?
I am afraid to start my new hobby of cross stitch, for example. Why? Because I am afraid I am going to mess it up and won’t know how to fix it. It’s a dumb fear. Like I can’t find some friend to help me if I mess it up (many of my friends knit but I can’t think of a cross-stitcher off the top of my head). So, dumb fear. Not a legit fear. No reason to let that hold me back. So what? I mess it up. Big deal. What if I love this new hobby? What if I have a knack for it? Was anyone perfect at a thing when they started it? Doubtful. No one is good at anything we start out doing. We suck until we keep at it long enough to NOT suck at it.
Legit fear? Walking to your car alone at night after work.
Not-so-legit fear? Starting something new.
Legit fear? The strange spider outside the back door.
Not-so-legit fear? Asking that person out on a date.
Let’s be reasonable here and FACE our fears!