How to Break Free of Negative Emotions

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Our next digital download will help you break free of negative feelings.

Introducing our next digital download: How to Break Free of Negative Emotions

The other day I posted “How to Get Out of a Rut,” now here’s the follow-up. It’s a 10-page workbook on how to break free from any negative emotions holding you back so you can create a more positive experience.

Both downloadable PDFs are affordable and easy to do on your own. If you feel you want more guidance from a certified transformational life coach, let me know and we can book a session. You can hook up with me while you are working on these for help, or after you work on them to achieve more clarity.

I have wonderful clients who love personal development! I have been wanting to find new ways to get you involved in the self-help universe in between sessions — or before your first session. I want to be able to provide you with as much coaching & lifestyle help as I can in ways that work for you.

If you have any ideas on what I can do to make the coaching experience better for you, feel free to comment below!

I believe it’s the time of year to let go of all the old gunk. It’s time to clean out body, mind, soul, home, closet, car, office, etc.

How to make a new start in 2019 if we don’t clean up the 2018 mess first? Remember, nature abhors a vacuum. Create the space first and the new things will come.

I have big plans in my life and also in my coaching. We are soon going to move out of this space of dealing with ruts and negative emotions and into a more positive, progressive space.

It’s time in December to rest, relax, and recharge. It’s also time to do vision boards and plan for the new year. I cannot wait until my new planner is delivered on Tuesday! More on that later.

You can purchase this latest digital download below.

Breaking Free of Negative Emotions Workbook
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Get into your negative emotions so you can break free of them. This 10-page workbook will ask you questions. It will also provide you with an awareness exercise for your journal and a meditation.

Put yourself on the path to more positivity. STOP letting your negative emotions and experiences run your life!

Feelings aren’t facts. Emotions aren’t our boss. So stop letting negative emotions run your show!

Introducing Digital Downloads in the Store!

The first download: “How to Get Out of a Rut” downloadable self-help PDF!

As we head into the holidays, my mind is already set on next year. I am already planning out my 2019 goals as 2018 comes to a close. I am looking ahead to what I want to accomplish next year. I am working on my vision board, Reiki box, intentions, meditations, and affirmations. I am preparing for what is, to me, one of the most sacred days of the year — New Year’s Day. That’s the day I set my intentions for the year in quiet meditation and hold space for them. It’s a quiet day. I begin it in a healthy manner. No hangover here — I’ve been sober since 2013.

Best of all, I am excited by all this! I am ecstatic to work on what’s next in my life. I am excited to work to propel myself to the next level. I love this process and look forward to it. I’ve already begun my end of the year cleaning and re-organizing. I throw things out daily. I am changing the look of my home, re-arranging the stuff on the walls, replacing old things, taking inventory of what I do have.

If you aren’t doing this, it’s ok. But as your life coach, I’m here to give you a gentle nudge.

The year is almost over. We’ve already begun to be swept up in the holiday season. Many of us will travel for the holidays — hell, many of us are still trying to get home after that nasty blizzard we had here Sunday in Kansas, where I live.

It’s time to start taking stock. Here’s a downloadable PDF on How to Get Out of a Rut you can purchase in the Destiny Architecture store here (or below).

This PDF asks nine powerful questions to get you to think, feel, and take stock. It will help get you back in touch with your own inner guidance to lead yourself back to truth. This is what a good coach does! I’m happy to give you the tools.

I am going to start uploading more tools like this you can download and use on your own. Let them help you. This one will help you find directions and get to know yourself a little better.

Achieving alchemy: Transforming the negative into a positive

Alchemy definition: 


A power or process that changes or transforms something in a mysterious or impressive way

The key to my life coaching is empowerment.

I always believe YOU have the right answers and, as a coach, my job is to facilitate a healthy space where they can come forth from you. One of the things I love to do is help you get your power back over anything negative. 

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Onward

Ready to move forward? You can turn a negative into a positive. As a coach, I can help with that!

For an example, I am going to use a healing I did in my own life last weekend. 

I was badly in need of alchemy. I needed to transform a negative emotion into something positive. I am by no means 100% healed, but it’s a step in the right direction. This is something no therapist has been able to give me! 

I have struggled with emotions surrounding my cousin’s death since 1991. She died in a house fire. On Thanksgiving. My uncle died two weeks later of an unrelated health problem. Needless to say I have been triggered by fire, smoke, and Thanksgiving ever since. 

In addition to being a life coach, I’m also a journalist.

I left my home Saturday with only intentions of running errands and no intention of being a journalist in that moment. But I saw thick, black smoke a mile or so away. It ended up being a two-alarm fire. Before I knew this, my journalistic curiosity got the better of me. I arrived on scene despite feeling triggered. I thought I may just snap a photo and run, but then a bystander yelled at me from across the street, ‘The flames are over there!” 

Now I had to go in deeper to look for the full story.

Someone had seen me with my branded news vehicle. So I wandered in until I found people gathered around a burning building. Smoke was everywhere. I could feel my chest tightening. The smell was pungent; nothing smells like a fire. Once you’ve been near one you take the smell with you. I walked until I found some people. They assured me everyone got out alive. This made me happy, sad, and jealous all at the same time. 

I knew I would have been inconsolable if the person in that apartment had died.

I’ve learned over 27 years that I badly want every fire victim to survive. I don’t want more deaths like my cousin’s — but I will always wish she’d been one of the lucky ones. So I left, feeling triggered, feeling choked up. I needed to do my job but I needed to cry too. 

I did my job. I didn’t let the tears flow. I tried, but they evaporated somewhere within me in a broken space that needs healing. That dry space just needs a little precipitation now and then. Not much. 

I went to Ulta after the fire. I bought Zoella body spray to douse the smell of smoke. I bought the moisturizer I needed. (It was my original errand running plan that day). 

Then what?

It seemed fitting to stop at Firehouse Subs! Not even kidding you. As soon as I walked into that place I felt healed. I felt like I was standing within a tangible homage to hero firefighters. I realized I can inhibit a space in which I can feel pain and gratitude at the same time. I faced a painful trigger and then rewarded myself with positives. 

It wasn’t the first time I tried to face a fire and turn it into something positive. 

In college radio, at KOHL in Fremont, California, there was a fire in the hills behind our station. This was at Ohlone College, itself built into the side of a hill with what felt like 10,000 steps. I stubbornly refused to leave the radio station the night those hills were on fire. I loved radio and I refused to let a fire take away one more of my loves.

I watched that fire come to the crest of that hill behind me that night like it was coming at me and then I watched it change course. I felt victorious! That fire wasn’t about to take my radio show away from me!

The next morning I realized what an idiot I was as I couldn’t breathe and felt sick from breathing in so much smoke from the night before. But I felt like I’d taken something back from that house fire in 1991. I felt like I was less powerless. Fire couldn’t take two of us, now could it? Those would just be cruel odds? (I didn’t have the best thinking at 18 years old).

Last Saturday’s victory of being able to cover a fire as a journalist allowed me to feel empowered once more. I can never have my beloved cousin back, but I can let go of some of my baggage. I can keep recovering pieces of myself back from 1991 and that is a beautiful thing. 

I understand now I’ll never be completely healed, neither will my family.

Start a fire near me indoors and you’re dead to me. The current fires in my home state of California (Woolsey, Camp) are heart wrenching and I can only stomach slight bits of the coverage. Self-care is censoring that type of news right now. I’m still healing from one person I lost 27 years ago. I can’t imagine 79 dead and 700 still missing. (At the time of this writing). The level of trauma being left behind on that burned and scarred map…it’s overwhelming. There are literally thousands of people like me who will heal slowly and forever from these fires. 

If that is you, you will find your healing in time. Now isn’t the time to begin to perform the type of self-alchemy that took me years to get to. When I say you will find your healing in time I stress this “time” is measured in decades, not months. We all heal differently. Each path to healing will be unique. The beginning stage of grief work isn’t the time for this. 

My above examples of myself are a bit extreme in that my story is deeply emotional and traumatic. This also comes after years of professional therapy. Please DO seek professional help if you are being triggered by fresh traumas. Life coaching is NOT a replacement for proper mental health care.


The type of alchemy I can do to turn your negatives into positives are: 


(Axamples bullet pointed) 


*Fear of taking a leap of faith (or any fear holding you back) 

*Getting rid of the negative voice in your head that says “you can’t” do what your heart desires 

*Changing horrible self-talk into a positive, life-affirming, GAME-CHANGING way of life

*Learning to train yourself to think more positively in daily life 

*Turning off life’s biggest distractors so you can have more creative time 

*Stop telling yourself you’re “not creative” and become the artist you were meant to be

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Healing.

There will always be more opportunities to heal.

It's small business Saturday so I'm extending my life coaching/Reiki gift card sale!

Happy holidays from the life coaching & Reiki world!

I hope your Thanksgiving holiday was excellent. I also hope your holiday season is off to an amazing start filled with family, friends, and food.

I’m using the season of sales to pick up just a few things I need. The kiddos are probably all getting slime from Old Aunt Heather…haha.

When I say I am getting a few things I need, those things are simple:

  • A travel yoga mat.

  • A new Self-Journal planner (my new fave).

  • Activated charcoal toothpaste.

  • Courses

  • Books

The thing to do right now, for me, is to gather some personal development resources. Just the sale on Kindle books was amazing yesterday! I do support my local bookstore as well — Watermark Books. They are amazing and I attended a friend’s book signing Monday night. Got some Wichita stickers too from Heartlandia, which I love. (See that on my Instagram @heatherlarson).

Stock up on your personal development tools and prepare for a solid 2019 now!

With this spirit in my mind, I have gift cards on sale in my Square Market for 50% off of gift cards $50 or more.

Just in case you want to give them to other people instead of keeping them for yourself, I made sure to have a zillion designs for different occasions.

Purchase them here.

Sale! 50% off life coaching & Reiki purchases of $50 or more

Early sale!

I couldn’t wait to put this sale up in my Square Market. Why wait for Black Friday?

You can get two life sessions for $100 right now, which you can totally use now or later. Use one now heading into Thanksgiving, use another one to debrief after all the stress has passed…use it however you want!

Why an early sale?

  • It’s never to early to get a jump on holiday shopping.

  • But I hate shopping in stores, so you can do this from your couch.

  • Start your 2019 game plan right now with me — your professional, certified, transformational life coach!

  • We can totally dig into your next vision board now.

  • If you’re like me, you don’t do Thanksgiving but you like a half-off sale. Here it is!

  • You can use it for yourself or give a gift — I’m not here to judge!

  • Buy Reiki sessions to help you through the holidays with your family and all the stress/pressure that comes along with…

  • This is an excellent time to turn within and revisit your goals, take stock of the year’s progress, and decide where to go next.

  • It’s Mercury Retrograde, so it’s the best time for a Reiki session and/or a coaching session.

 Gratitude is a year-round event for Destiny Architects. It’s a daily practice. Let’s move forward with excellent coaching and Reiki sessions this holiday season!

Gratitude is a year-round event for Destiny Architects. It’s a daily practice. Let’s move forward with excellent coaching and Reiki sessions this holiday season!

Exciting News! I will be adding additional coaching hours soon! 

I’m working on some things that will expand my coaching hours so I can serve you better. It’s been eight years since I took a huge leap of faith — which turned out amazing. I am feeling called to make a jump again. 

I’m available now evenings and weekends for life coaching and distance Reiki sessions. (No more early morning hours at this time). You can schedule with me in my available times here on the scheduling page or at this link. These show my currently available times.

Expanding my availability for you to have more coaching sessions 

Here’s the only catch right now. I don’t know when my schedule will open up further. I also don’t know what days/times will become available. As much as I am the architect of my own destiny…I have to wait on a few things to move. And they will. 

Guess what else this means? 

I’ll be expanding my entire coaching business! This means more content will become available to you soon. There will be more classes, more distance Reiki sessions, more podcasts, more lives on Instagram and Facebook for you… 

If you love personal development, get ready to have an expansive 2019 with Destiny Architecture! 

I’ve long told my clients to take the leap of faith.

It worked for me before and I’m about to do it again. I love it. I love the rush, I love following my heart, and I love listening to Spirit lead me. I’m telling you this to take you along on the trip. (The word “journey” is overused and, if you’ve met me, you know everything is a “trip.” I’m a trip, life is a trip). 

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LOA Monday #7: It's book club time, can we become millionaires in a minute?

Just a quick #LOAMonday today!

I am blogging on my lunch break. I just started a new (to me) book last night that a friend loaned me. It’s called The One Minute Millionaire.

The book talks about “ahas” or what we called in my coaching classes at SWIHA, “A-ha moments.” If you’ve been coached by me, you know you get to have LOTS of a-has moments!

The book has a website that lists the ahas if you want to check it out.

If you study the law of attraction as I do, you may have heard of some of these before. My favorite over the years was taught to me by my Aunt Lori, who is a religious science minister. That one is the phrase and belief that, “I am a money magnet!” I say this whenever I receive money, even pennies.

Especially pennies!

I’ll blog more on those a-ha moments later. I’m thinking of doing either some Instagram or Facebook lives as well. If you’re reading the book you can join in! Follow me on Twitter & Instagram @heatherlarson. The Facebook page is here.

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A-ha!

You mean I can become a millionaire in a minute? Get the book here.

#LOA Monday #6: Ruminations on spiritual paths — can LOA be akin to 12-step routes to wellness?

LOA is meant to be a spiritual path.

Why? Because we start thinking of something larger than ourselves. We start to work with spiritual tools / ideas like faith, tithing, “paying it forward” and surrender.

I’ve seen it all the time working in the addiction field where people come in wanting to change and many tell me they feel spirituality is the only way they can do it. In this way, choosing LOA as a way to live is similar to choosing a 12-step or church-oriented program in order to obtain and sustain recovery. 

In both cases, it is choosing a spiritual path to create lasting change.

Isn’t that what we are doing when we engage in law of attraction activities? In LOA, we want to change our thinking. That’s the same task we undertake in addiction recovery — we have to change our thinking. LOA gives us a spiritual path with spiritual tools to do that. 

I wouldn’t recommend LOA for addiction treatment. (Duh!) But most people do want a way to change their way of thinking. We want to change our habits — either we want to create new ones of our choosing or eliminate those that no longer serve us. Habit change requires a thinking change. Changing our brains is never easy. It takes work. 

So in addiction recovery we are choosing to eliminate addictive behaviors like obsessive sex, shopping, gambling, eating and substance abuse. (Or any combo thereof). The way is clear: addiction is bad, living clean is good. 

What are we trying to get rid of then when we choose to engage in the law of attraction? Poverty and lack. 

Isn’t it all the same? 

Could LOA be our spiritual path to recovering from poverty and and a lack mindset? Meaning LOA is to poverty and lack as spirituality is to addiction? 

I’m asking because I’m meditating on this today. If we didn’t want to make changes in our lives, there wouldn’t be books about habits, addiction treatment centers, and a sea of information online about how to attract better things into our lives through LOA. 

I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments! 

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What do you think?

Sound off in the comments!

LOA Monday #4: Law of Attraction in practice — creating an LOA Journal for yourself

Journaling is my favorite thing to do in my downtime for self-care. I’m so obsessed with bullet journaling, stickers, washi tape, stencils, fine liner pens and brush pens for lettering… My mom was into calligraphy when I was little, so maybe I’m turning into my mother.

My LOA journal started simply and I’m going to share it with you how here.

The two things you need are some kind of pen and a notebook — it doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive to start out. I got my current one at Michael’s (2 for $5) and a set of fine liner pens for less than $20 with a coupon (and a super rad cashier).

My current habit with my LOA journal is to center on three things:

  • Gratitude
  • Forgiveness
  • Affirmations
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I start by making the gratitude list, then the forgiveness list, and finally the affirmations.

The journal helps me find clarity. Over time, I see the affirmations I am repeating over the days and weeks. I see then what my heart’s truest desires are — and I do the work to honor those. One thing that has manifested for me over the summer is great health. But it did so in the strangest way! One day we thought I was passing a kidney stone, then we suspected cancer, and then it turned out none of those things were true. I’d become a medical mystery to the doctors. But to me, I was at home in my LOA journal affirming over and over, “I AM HEALTHY!”


(At the time, nothing in my life was pointing towards me being healthy. I even began looking into work-from-home jobs and disability).

Ultimately, it turns out my spine is getting the better of my internal organs due to my scoliosis. The human body is amazing like that. It was like my shadow self was trying to convince me I was NOT healthy but I knew in my heart that I AM HEALTHY!

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You can start with the tiniest notebook to make your lists or the fanciest bullet journal you buy — or create. As always, remember LOA is about creating a feeling. It’s about being in the vibration that attracts your desires, which we can get into by visualizing it as if we already have it.

Gratitude, forgiveness, and affirmation lists are great LOA tools. They are part of a muscle we use and flex each day in an LOA practice. It’s like weight lifting — for your vibration. It’s calisthenics for your energy field.

LOA Monday #3: How Can I Use the Law of Attraction?

Welcome to another LOA Monday!

Check out #LOAMonday #1 here and #2 here.

Now that we went over the why, let’s go over the how.

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I like to refer to the Law of Attraction as a practice.

I feel like everything has a learning curve. To implement lifetime changes that will stick, we need to practice. Practice implies consistent and repeated action to the best of our ability. It will get easier over time.

We will get better over time.

I also want to offer a word of caution. I think I already made my point clear about how The Secret may do more harm than good when interpreted incorrectly. I want to make it clear today that coaching, spirituality, and spiritual coaching (which is how I coach but not all I do) are all about more than #LOA.

I am providing #LOAMonday as a tool to help inspire you to do the work. It’s when you get into a rut doing the work that you call on me as a coach. The work is not optional — we are all here to do it!

My caution is inspired by recent events with friends online. Friends of mine old and new who have gone in on fraudulent spiritual teachers.  I think I’ll make a separate post on that to honor that appropriately...

Until then, have a great Monday! Believe you already have what you desire -- it's how you change your conscious thought to be in the vibration to attract it!

Career Coach Corner: Avoiding Resume Black Holes -- Whether You Are a Career-Changer or Not!

Coaching for career changers can help you focus on priorities and values which will help you concentrate on what you really want to create in the future of your life’s work. But it still won’t stop your resume from ending up in some company's black hole — a digital garbage can where your resume is never seen by human eyes.

My career coaching is private and one-on-one. You can make an appointment with me for that here. But here’s some information to help everyone being coached on career direction that doesn’t need to be kept private or done one-on-one.

Your resume is likely to fall into a black hole.

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I think — or hope anyway — that we all know that. If you don’t, let me awaken you.

Did you know your resume is already digitally pre-judged by machines before it even has a chance to make it to human eyes? The larger the company you apply to, the truer this is! Applying for a mom & pop company means you’re less likely to encounter the Automatic Tracking System for applicants — or ATS. Use of keywords makes the ATS your friend. For some reason, the ATS threw me to the customer service and sales wolves years ago. I have no clue what on my resume did that! (Possibly my liberal arts degree?)

If you’re struggling with wanting a career change and needing coaching on it, I’m here to help. We will take stock of where you’ve been already in your career. What are your accomplishments? What skills and talents do you bring to an organization? What kind of education do you have, what certifications do you hold, and what kind of teams have you led? We will take a look at the past that brought through your career so far.

Then we will work on where you are headed. What are you passionate about? What have you done before that can be used to your advantage in where you are going? For example, I had to use skills acquired in radio broadcasting and journalism for jobs I applied for outside the field. No one cared about my audio editing experience. But I could translate some skills over. I had done social media marketing, interviewing, writing, editorial, and press releases. I learned that personal connections were the best way for me to get hired. Through my network, I obtained part-time employment that turned into full-time.

Very little of my radio skills were useful in the field of addictions I entered after radio. But I learned new skills. The person who hired me at the time knew me because I’d done charity work for her at the non-profit that became my employer. She had seen something in me she thought would be great for the job working for her in the recovery center. Then I was thrown into a variety of trainings for my job. Eventually, I put my new skills to work full-time in a new position.

That was more than three years ago and I learned so much! The skills I have now can probably get me into a variety of places in the social work and non-profit field. I also used to think I wanted to learn grant writing. After all, it was writing, wasn’t it? Now that I’ve worked in the field and seen friends go through grant writing courses in college, I realized that isn’t the work for me.

This is the number one reason to go take any job. It’s automatic field research into what you don’t —and do— want to do for work. Career changes don’t have to be scary! It also shows you what exactly your strengths and weaknesses really are.

 

Self-Care Sunday -- Mother's Day 2018

Self-care becomes more important as time goes on like I'm making up for lost time. (I am).

I did not grow up knowing self-care. It is not something you are taught in a family experiencing patterns of addiction and codependency. It was my natural urge as a human being -- yet early in life I was chastised and envied openly for taking any step toward self-care.

As an adult, I shamelessly take the time for me. Often I make it no one else's business.

My mother ached for self-care and always put others first.

It is time we, as a society, stop revering people for this. Especially women.

It is time we stop giving mothers one day a year for them to "do nothing," but to make it a practice as women to just TAKE OUR SELF-CARE and not be waiting for an occasion to let go. We must let go constantly.

It is not a virtue to put others first. It is a sickness.

It is a behavior we call codependency. Being "Co" is just as detrimental to our lives as active addiction to a substance or gambling is.

Let's make a goal to live harm-free lives, starting at home. Let's stop the self-harm and replace it with self-care. Let's replace neediness with independence, codependency with healthy interdependence. Let's show our children we are capable and passionate about filling our well so they grow up to do the same.

I think of my mother, so starved for oxygen as she put the mask on others first -- all the others. She put the needs of her child, her husband, and her parents above her own. She chose not to grow. That was not OK.

That is never OK!

If you are a mother with dreams on the back burner, I give you permission to move forward on them. Get that mani-pedi. Take the day off. Eat the lemon cake. Take that trip. Get the education. Apply for the job. Let others pick up some slack for once.

They will -- if you stop doing everything for them.

It's been nearly 14 years since I lost my mother to CJD. In that time, I've done the work to learn lessons in self-care for both of us. But the difference is I get to experience self-care while I am still alive and breathing. My daughter gets her nails done, goes to the gym, nurtures relationships, and thank God! I doubt she learned it from me, but I am just glad she does it!

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Book online with me! I added new coaching & Reiki services!

New for summer

I wanted to make coaching more simple and affordable for summer break as I was inspired by an educator friend who has the summer off and wants to make the most of her time.

I created options for those who really want to grow with multiple sessions -- but who are on a budget.

A life coaching session a week for an entire month won't cost more than $250. If you want two sessions a week of coaching for a month, it's $600. That is it! If you want to get intense and have unlimited coaching and Reiki all month long, it's going to be $1,000, which is a great price for those who want 8 coaching sessions plus a Reiki session or more each week.

Start with a $49 introductory session. I have these set up for two-hour blocks -- but always plan for a session to last at least an hour, maybe 90 minutes. I take my time and listen. I can't can the experience into just one hour.

If you've already done your introductory life coaching session at $49 and want another session, just one at a time as you go, my regular sessions are $100. I made it pay off for you to buy several and keep on working on yourself with coaching and Reiki!

See the new offerings below!

I'm not available this Saturday due to tons of graduations and Mother's Day stuff. Usually, I am available on Saturdays.