Self-Care Sunday -- Mother's Day 2018

Self-care becomes more important as time goes on like I'm making up for lost time. (I am).

I did not grow up knowing self-care. It is not something you are taught in a family experiencing patterns of addiction and codependency. It was my natural urge as a human being -- yet early in life I was chastised and envied openly for taking any step toward self-care.

As an adult, I shamelessly take the time for me. Often I make it no one else's business.

My mother ached for self-care and always put others first.

It is time we, as a society, stop revering people for this. Especially women.

It is time we stop giving mothers one day a year for them to "do nothing," but to make it a practice as women to just TAKE OUR SELF-CARE and not be waiting for an occasion to let go. We must let go constantly.

It is not a virtue to put others first. It is a sickness.

It is a behavior we call codependency. Being "Co" is just as detrimental to our lives as active addiction to a substance or gambling is.

Let's make a goal to live harm-free lives, starting at home. Let's stop the self-harm and replace it with self-care. Let's replace neediness with independence, codependency with healthy interdependence. Let's show our children we are capable and passionate about filling our well so they grow up to do the same.

I think of my mother, so starved for oxygen as she put the mask on others first -- all the others. She put the needs of her child, her husband, and her parents above her own. She chose not to grow. That was not OK.

That is never OK!

If you are a mother with dreams on the back burner, I give you permission to move forward on them. Get that mani-pedi. Take the day off. Eat the lemon cake. Take that trip. Get the education. Apply for the job. Let others pick up some slack for once.

They will -- if you stop doing everything for them.

It's been nearly 14 years since I lost my mother to CJD. In that time, I've done the work to learn lessons in self-care for both of us. But the difference is I get to experience self-care while I am still alive and breathing. My daughter gets her nails done, goes to the gym, nurtures relationships, and thank God! I doubt she learned it from me, but I am just glad she does it!

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#DA30DayChallenge

Destiny Architecture Self-Care Challenge -- 30 days — 30 minutes a day

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Led by Certified Life Coach Heather Larson in Wichita, Kansas — Long-Distance Online Life Coach (and in person in South Central Kansas).

Let’s do a self-care challenge to kick-off spring. Why not? It was a random idea that just came to me, so I figured it must be a nudge from Spirit.

Here’s the commitment factor involved:

Can you challenge yourself to 30 minutes of self-care each of the next 30 days? Why not? Won’t you gain something from the experience of dedicating yourself to 30  minutes of self-care on a daily basis? As your life coach, I don’t care if you set a timer for 30 minutes and nap. That still counts as all the juiciness of “me time.”

Not to harp on the point, but I don’t think I should have to convince you to partake in a 30-day challenge to spend more time on yourself! “Me time” doesn’t need a hard sell! Self-care shouldn’t ever be an option.

If you agree, keep reading.

Now that we agree on that — here’s the drill. You commit to the process, I provide the materials and inspiration. I will constantly be posting new self-care content here on the site. New rituals, resources and ideas. New inspiration. New podcasts. Yes, we want to engage in that glorious “me time” daily but we also want to keep it fresh. Think of it like dating yourself! Take the time to get to know yourself better. Make that self-care time count.

Let’s be clear, too. This is serious stuff. We aren’t just made of bath bombs and pedicures. (Oh, but DO do those things!) We are made of hard work too. Some days self-care is the bath and pedi. Other days it’s tarot cards, calling your close friend in tears, and journaling or automatic writing to find the answer you are seeking. Sometimes you’re mad and burning sage, other days you can buy yourself flowers and take a trip to a museum (something we call an artist date in The Artist’s Way).

I want us to cover as much of that ground in the Destiny Architecture 30-Day Self-Care Challenge.

Here’s what you can find on the site all month:

*Self-care and “me-time” rituals posted on the site — something new to challenge and freshen up your routine.
* Podcast w/a self-care meditation to kick off the challenge
*Podcast to visualize your desired outcome and set the intention for this month

We will cover the following self-care themes (and then some):

*Spoil yourself
*Strengthen yourself: financially, de-clutter, health, wealth, happiness,
*Meditation
*Culture: music, books, movies, ideas
*Codependency recovery
*Addiction recovery
*Writing, journaling
*Creative Recovery & The Artist’s Way  
*Focusing on what you really want
*Fitness
*Yoga
*Meditation
*Reading

Join me and share with a  friend who needs a little recharge in life. If you’re joining the challenge, use the hashtag #DA30DayChallenge on Instagram and Twitter.

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Tell me in the comments how you plan to recharge your self-care practice.

Back to the #DA30DayChallenge & Why It Was on Hiatus

As often happens, I set the intention to share a #DA30DayChallenge with my clients about self-care -- then found myself in the middle of needing to do that same thing! I needed radical self-care so I went underground for a bit. I took on no clients for Reiki or Life Coaching. I put all my energy into my own care, values, and priorities. Things needed to be realigned in my life.

Also, something major happened to bring this on. I found out there's a new direction in prion disease research that blew me away. Read more about this journey and new direction on my CJD blog.

Then in the middle of April, I went through some other medical stuff (yay, no blood thinners!) that came out totally alright! But whew...the stress level there. The level of emotions to process in the first two weeks of April 2018...was legendary. I won't go through something that amazing in life again any time soon!

The takeaway here is I needed self-care more than you may have. I went offline, didn't blog, didn't coach, didn't do Reiki on others, and basically helped only myself for a bit.

I'm telling you this so you will do this too when the time comes.

It comes for all of us.

There's a time to go within, re-evaluate, re-align, then re-organize.

Like, I totally have to redo my vision board now! There has been other work, too. I've been doing ugly and deep healing work on myself. I continue to do so.

This is what I'm all about -- doing the work. If you have work to do, I'd love to help you with it!

~Certified Life Coach, Heather Larson

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Let's get back to the #DA30DayChallenge self-care fun!