Let's talk Patreon -- membership tiers & whatcha get + why I did it!

I’m doing a content blitz tonight on Patreon. Have you checked it out yet? Do it!

https://www.patreon.com/DestinyArchitecture

The purpose of providing life coaching & Reiki on Patreon is to give YOU options for getting involved in this personal development lifestyle I live. Do you love anything metaphysical and want to get your feet wet with anything about chakras & meditation? I’ve got you! There’s a tier for that.

Want to get more serious and start doing some personal development work? I make PDFs and podcasts for that EXCLUSIVE to Patreon! The PDF and podcast I uploaded to the Patron for July is about leveling up your abundance practice and make the podcast all about that. This isn’t stuff I’m posting on here for free or for sale! This is for Patrons only.

Yes, I have that much content to put out into the world. I know things get better with coaching and Reiki. That’s why I want to spread it to the world.

Here’s a brief breakdown of the Patreon membership levels and what they get you:

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$3/mo

*Patron-only blog posts

*Monthly podcast

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$10/mo

All the above plus:

*monthly downloadable coaching PDF exclusive to Patrons.

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$20/mo

All the above plus:

*A thank-you tweet

*Monthly Q&A

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$35/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*The Artist’s Way Course!

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$50/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*A monthly distance Reiki session of 30 minutes!

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$130/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*A private coaching session with me monthly!

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$250/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*The MASTERMIND for Destiny Architects with a monthly teleconference and access to a private Slack group.

The first reason for the Patreon is to offer coaching & Reiki at affordable rates for Patrons.

You give me patronage for my creations in coaching & Reiki — downloadable PDFs, podcasts, blogs, Q&A, and a ton of other content I’m creating. I create, you pay me, and we all reap the benefits. It’s an old idea brought back to life for the current times — that of Patronage.

The second reason for the Patreon is to have support while i write my Reiki ebook

There are so many creators on Patreon making the coolest stuff! I follow writers, YouTube creators, and podcasters, for example.

So I’m going to write a Reiki ebook! You’re going to be a part of it (as much as you want to be). Different tiers on the Patreon give you different benefits for helping me with the book — whether through your patronage, your feedback — or both. Get advance content from the book, acknowledgements, feedback opportunities, and even FREE copies of the book once it’s done.

Your Patronage will help me pay for the book cover, editing, and all the help I need to complete it and get it online. Basically, you’re helping me fund the creation of my book. But you totally benefit! Are you a Patreon or an angel? I consider you both!

I’ve been adding content to the Patreon all night in a “content blitz” I’ve been on for more than just tonight. This month’s download and podcast are up, too. There are also polls you can take. When you do them, you are totally contributing to the book already.

Tomorrow, keep an eye out for a special offer just for Patrons!

Top Destiny Architecture Life Coaching & Reiki blogs of June

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Anyone want some Reiki next week? Hit me up! ~Heather Larson, Life Coach & Reiki Master

Anyone want some Reiki next week? Hit me up! ~Heather Larson, Life Coach & Reiki Master

Top life coaching & Reiki blogs loved by Destiny Architects in June 2019:

As we are halfway through July (and a ghastly Mercury Retrograde), it’s more than past time for me to give you a round up of last month’s posts.

#5: Resiliency!

This first post was #5 on the popularity list, but it was still a big deal when I posted it. I may have to spend a little more time on the subject of resiliency for you, what do you think? Let me know in the comments! 

5. The Bounce Back: How to get out of your own way and become more resilient

Onto popular post No. 4: 

Victimhood wasn’t your friend last month, the month before, this month — get it? NEVER! You cannot live in congruency with your goals of living an abundant life when you play the victim. Recognize it, acknowledge it, and move past it. That’s what we are all about, Destiny Architects — leveling up. Your prosperity will level up when you stop playing the victim. If you aren’t sure if you are…read on: 

4. #LOAMonday No. 13: Victimhood is NOT your friend

Onto #3…Summer lifestyle guide: I won’t say much about this one.

Overnight, the school supplies moved into the stores and my sports nut friends are already talking rabidly about football. But summer isn’t over! I will cling to it for all that’s left! 

3. Ways to celebrate summer 2019 and make it the best yet

Second most popular is that vlog I did about the Self Journal!

Hey, thanks for voting this one up with your page views! This item is a daily constant in my life. So if this video made you try it, let me know. I would love to know how it made a difference for you in your planning/journaling life. 

I still have a discount for you too: 

https://bestself.co/products/self-journal?variant=18866392563781

Use the code HeatLar for 15% off your purchase! 

(Yes, I benefit if you click through and purchase through my link at no extra cost to you). 

2. Vlog #7: I'm in love with the Best Self Co planner -- The Self Journal

Annnnnnd #1…I can’t even believe it?!

THIS was the one y’all looked at most last month. Which is funny to me because I thought no one would care. And then this happened. And then I booked someone for a Reiki session at White Dove. So Reiki is BACK in Wichita for me, Destiny Architects! Woot! 

The name is still dead though. Ha! It’s no longer “You Deserve Reiki” as I feel led to lay that name to rest and move us into something a little more, shall I say, 2020… 

I’m actually going to make some NEW Reiki flyers to put out at White Dove. (Probably next week). But the new flyers won’t have the new name. For now, I am offering Reiki sessions under the umbrella of “Destiny Architecture.” 

More to come! 

1. .So...I was thinking about starting a Reiki practice again in Wichita

Thanks for voting with your page views. Remember, you can always comment or submit a form to get at me. And yes, this is Heather Larson writing this and reading your comments. This business is still a one-woman show…for now. 

I’m hoping to employ the nieces and nephews in the future (f they want jobs doing e-commerce and social media for Destiny Architecture, that is). 

So please remember this is a woman-owned family business in Wichita, KS. What this means for you is your feedback is appreciated, welcomed, honored, listened to — and treasured!

Thank you for being here. You are literally my first fans and are on the leading edge of something I promise will be huge. I’ve worked on this like a HONEY BADGER for three years now. I know this because I was just sent a reminder that this domain is renewing! 

THREE YEARS! 

Holy wow! Holy special sauce! Thank YOU for being my reader. 

Thank you 1,000 times! 

The best is yet to come for us all! 

Remember, YOU are the architect of your own destiny! 

~Coach Heather 

Why are healers always sick? 

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Every master was once a disaster. Every healer was once sicker than hell, at least once or ten dozen times.

Every master was once a disaster. Every healer was once sicker than hell, at least once or ten dozen times.

I know. I ask myself this all the time to the point it’s funny. (To me, anyway). 

Why are healers always sick? 

When is all this Reiki going to start working on you? 

Yeah, Reiki…sure…but you’re sick all the time… 

Just a few examples of the drivel I’ve heard from the skeptics, the one’s who’ve pre-judged, so why would I bother to engage? 

The time has come to write a blog about it. I’m in a “healing crisis,” a term I believe was coined by Diane Stein in one of her Reiki books (and of course I have both of her Reiki manuals and can’t find the quote now). This was brought to my attention years ago by my own Reiki Masters, Conrad and Donna Jestmore

So without finding Stein’s definition, here’s mine: 

A healing crisis is when you keep getting knocked on your ass continually while trying your hardest to be healthy. 

It’s like deciding you’re going to eat super healthy — then you fall ill with a stomach virus. Or you want to start working out but you break a leg. But if you poll my healer friends and I…we’ll tell you we’ve had everything from strokes to all-out near-death experiences. One of my “best” healing crises of all time was getting hit by a red-light runner in November 2014. I literally couldn’t get my poop in a group for two weeks. 

It’s when you’re about to overcome some huge obstacle in life and you’re about to hit the next level — but something injures you or you get sick with some ancient plague resistant to all modern drugs. Or something like that. 

I’m in a healing crisis.

I was (and am still) about to up-level something huge in life that’s been in the works for years. So what happens? I lose my voice and partially lost hearing in one ear. 

WTF? 

What I am learning is I had to lose my voice to find it. (More on that in a future blog, of course). 

Back to the original question though — why are healers always sick? 

I know it would be great if I were this amazing healer who has perfect health who never gets sick. In that case, I’d be on top of a gorgeous hill in some place like Sedona, practicing out of a yurt and wearing flowing white robes, covered in crystal jewelry. You’d be traveling from far and wide to pay me your life savings knowing I’d cure you on the spot. It would be amazing. But I only know one person like this. His name of John of God and he lives in Brazil! 

Sorry, I’m not John of God, y’all. Looks like I need a trip to Brazil myself. <<sips more tea>> 

It’s a simple answer. The Universe tortures us healers so we can take what we learned in hell to bring it to you so you suffer less. (Ever notice many of us are ex-addicts?)

It’s some sort of clandestine deal we make with our angels before we come to Earth. “You’re going to be a healer, so you will have challenges to overcome, but it will make you a better healer, so suck it up,” I imagine my angels told me this before I came here. 

I went to coaching school and learned from my masters how to do Reiki but they could only teach me so much. There are things healers can only learn through hardship — the suffering is optional. I’ve decided in this current healing crisis that I refuse to suffer. Hardship is fine and I can accept it because I know I’m about to learn so many lessons I can bring to you. There are things healers can only learn through experience. What I needed to learn in this life wasn’t going to be found in school or books. 

I’m finding it within. 

So why are healers always sick? 

Because it’s just the deal. It makes us better healers. 

Reasons to join the Destiny Architecture Patreon community

Need a reason to become a Patron? I have a few for you:

  • I’ve made it affordable for you, not just in money — but in time, too. Join for between $3-250/mo. The low tier is for those just starting out and the high tier is for those who want to jump into the mastermind.

  • You get to become a part of the Reiki ebook I am starting to write. Yes, you can have a shout-out in the book. But I really want your opinions and experiences too! (Right now I am in the research and outline phase).

  • You get to be part of a community I am calling in. If you are looking for like minds, I am looking for you. If you love a blend of coaching, Reiki, creativity, LOA, and spirituality, I am your coach!

  • There will be group coaching! I’ve done group coaching for years as a sober coach running pre-treatment groups. I love and thrive in this setting as a coach! Imagine what the group can do for you.

  • Benefit from a coach who has spent a decade honing her personal development practice; who has spent more than four years coaching street addicts; and who is also certified in coaching by the Southwest Institute of the Healing Arts — an actual college certified by the Arizona Board of Regents.

Here’s a price listing so you can see how low you can join for and start up-leveling your life with the coaching I’m creating for you on Patreon.

To learn more about the Mastermind level, check that out here.

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#LOAMonday No. 14: This isn’t about greed — it’s about abundance

By now, we’ve talked 13 times about the Law of Attraction and we’ve barely cracked the surface, Destiny Architects! 

I want to shift gears into something I don’t see very often in mindset coaching around LOA. 

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You are enough.

You have enough!

Everyone tells you it’s all about attracting money in — but what about managing what we already have? 

Seriously! 

I used to think that I had to get money, all the money, as much as possible. I used to fantasize about winning the lottery, which is a nasty money lesson taught to me by my grandfather. The man was devoted to few things — gambling, beer, lotto tickets, and the weekly National Enquirer. (How I grew up to be a journalist in that family is beyond me). 

There’s a cacophony online of people telling you that you need more.

They sell you and idea that you can do it! You can attract more wealth! Get more! Be greedy! No “thing” is too much for you to have! Put it on your vision board! Act “as if!” Idolize money! Make your vision board/stacks of cash your screen background on your phone! 

Ok, I actually do have that as my phone lock screen most days — haha. I can laugh at myself. (I just switched it to a scene of Venice, Italy, a city I really want to travel to). 

Not all of those coaches would be wrong, either.

I am all about LOA and attracting abundance — but without sounding cringey or disconnected from reality. It cannot be about “getting money” all the time. That’s exhausting. 

So let’s give thanks for the abundance we already have. I just uploaded a gratitude PDF worksheet to the FREE STUFF page for you. 

Then let’s do something radical — let’s properly manage what we already have. 

I saw a statistic recently about how most Americans live paycheck to paycheck and would be broken by a simple household expense of around $400 as they have NO money in savings. 

This tells me maybe the “abundance movement” has gone a little too far into one direction — the “get money” direction. Which inevitably puts a lot of people right back into the feeling of lack, which is not the place to create abundance from. Not. At. All. 

So a few basic questions today for your consideration: 

  • Do you budget for savings? For emergency expenses? 

  • Do you have a retirement account you put money into — and then don’t touch it? 

  • Do you live on less than you make? 

  • Do you have at least some change in a jar in your house? An envelope of cash under your mattress? Something?

These are the logical and basic tenets of money management you don’t often hear from those who spout LOA right and left. 

Also, let me say I am a transformational life coach — NOT — a financial coach, teacher, manager, or advisor. This blog isn’t meant to give advice. What I do want you to do is think critically about the information you’re receiving. 

I’ve recently made a game of saving in the past couple weeks.

I’m even keeping a savings diary. I’m heavily into my apps like Ibotta, Stash, and Ebates. I’ve been challenging myself to save as much as I can when I shop for groceries at Whole Foods — because you can now! 

Did you know you can actually save money at Whole Foods? 

Here’s how:

  • Get an Amazon Prime membership for those Prime Member deals. 

  • Use your Square cash card for 5% off each visit (up to $7.50 each hour)

  • Ibotta totally has deals at Whole Foods — I never knew until two weeks ago! 

I am always looking for savings now.

I think it comes from my recent decluttering obsession in which I came face to face with all the crap I owned. I’m trying to steer myself more and more towards minimalism as time goes on. It’s been a “Kon Mari” party in my home for a while. This weekend, I got rid of even more junk I’d been “saving” because “I may need it.” 

Who wants a house full of “just in case” stuff? Not me. I want to live with purpose, like I mean it.

More importantly, I want to enjoy the abundance, security, and stability of a savings account along with a retirement fund. I was a party girl in my 20s and 30s so I lost a lot of years of being able to save money. It’s never too late! Begin where you are and start saving. Nothing can make you feel more abundant daily. 

So go shake those couch cushions… 

Here are some money managing and saving ideas to start with — before you get into a dead end of LOA I see so many jump into: 

Join Ibotta (and if your’e so inclined use my referral code: “acmsron.”) You’ll earn cash back while you shop in the app and then you can cash out or get a gift card. 

Are you Doshing? 

You link your cards in the Dosh app and then earn cash back when you shop at certain places. The app will tell you where to go and even has a map to help you out. For example, I can earn 4% cash back today at Dunkin Donuts! I just started and haven’t used it yet but did earn $5 just for setting up a debit card with Dosh. (Here’s my code if you’re into it: HEATHEL289). 

Don’t shop without Ebates! 

Ok, I hate shopping. But when it’s inevitable I go to buy shoes or clothes, I am checking my Ebates app first. For example, there’s an 8% cash back deal right now on Tarte cosmetics, Hotwire, and up to 10% cashback on Travelocity. I actually haven’t used it yet (because I really do hate shopping) but I may give it a whirl this weekend. 

The Square cash app is my secret weapon. 

I’ve had a Square cash card forever as I’ve been accepting payments through the service for years, ever since I started my Reiki business. Square offers “boosts,” which you have to manually switch before you swipe your card. But in addition to the 5% off at Whole Foods, there’s also $1 off at any coffee shop (which I use way too much), and they just added Door Dash for 15% off each order. 

I think they key here is to remember you’re going to save a little bit here and there. There are a good number of “cash back” shopping options above. 

I am also getting into my Stash app, which earns me “stock back” for my retirement fund.

It’s not a knockout punch. I earned one cent last week running my card on a $5 purchase. But you can automate your savings on Stash so you don’t have to think. Before I knew it, I had $35 in my savings.

My key move right now is to focus on saving tiny bits here and there to train myself to save more. Like any other lifestyle change, my goal is to make saving a longterm habit that I just get better at. 

I’m working to eliminate and and all forms of instant gratification out of my life. What’s the antidote to instant gratification? Creating a long-term savings plan!

I know absolutely nothing about personal finance nor was I taught anything healthy about money growing up. I’m currently rehabbing that — so guess where LOA Monday is going for a little while? 

We are going to start working on rehabbing negative money lessons! Part of this is because I listen to T. Harv Eker almost daily. Another part of this is I’m not the only person cleaning a negative money story. Now that I’ve been working so hard on mine, it really jumps out at me when friends say something crazy.

Next week, we are going to unpack some of those crazy things we say that we actually believe about money. They aren’t true, real, or logical. But we believe them anyway! 

Want a jump start until then?  Then I highly recommend T. Harv Eker’s “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,” or Jen Sincero’s “You Are a Badass at Making Money.” 

Vlog #7: I'm in love with the Best Self Co planner -- The Self Journal

Back to life, back to reality! (90s kids will get this).

I’m deep into preparing my new planner for my next 13 week jaunt into goal-crushing paradise! I’m a very nerdy life coach, can you tell?

If you are interested in purchasing the Best Self Co. planner, aka the Self Journal, visit their website and order online with my code “HeatLar” for a 15% discount!

I show it off in the video, you can see how many I’ve had and why I love them! Enjoy!

The Bounce Back: How to get out of your own way and become more resilient

Resiliency is possible if you let it happen

I have been shattered in the month of May by the loss of my beloved cat, Rupert.

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Rupert.

4/5/17 to 5/18/19.

RIP to my littler stealer of cotton swabs, bedsheets, and hearts.

On May 16, he was fine, I was fine, my other cat was fine too, and life was ALL fine. Then it turned to chaos with a sick Roo on the 17th. Things changed quickly on the 18th and I had to euthanize a cat that was only two years old.

To say he was my "baby" would be an understatement.

To recover from the sudden grief, I zoned out and relaxed the following week. I engaged in self-care which was mostly sleeping.

I was off my game, which is understandable. I had started the month of May with fantastic goals including paying off a stack of bills and doing a "30-days-in-May" fitness challenge at the workout studio I attend. Needless to say, my fitness hit the back burner although I did do OK on the bills considering the extra unplanned expenses (of which there were many, not just the cat). But I did OK on this because I damn miracle fell out of the sky!

It was an expensive month. Starting anything new was shelved. My personal decluttering mission was almost derailed for good when the cat died.

But I am beginning to feel a little like myself again this week. I picked up a project again Wednesday and am uploading Vlog #7 as I write this…

Oh yeah, I started getting into vlogging before my cat got sick. I was posting almost a vlog a day.

I was really feeling overall like I was about to slay the month of May!

Then I crashed physically, mentally, and emotionally. I even caught some kind of cold/allergy/sinus affliction and missed a day at work. I published nothing last week.

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Resiliency is yours for the taking. Remember who you are and what you want!

But then something amazing happened and I think it’s because I allowed myself the time and grace to crash last week. I began to feel better on Monday; I began to feel more like myself. Tuesday, the cold kicked my butt (and sinuses) again. Wednesday, I felt like I could push through and get back to working on projects.

That something that happened is resiliency.

I didn’t use to have resiliency. I didn’t use to bounce back two weeks after something bad happened to me. I’d get on a pity pot, feel sad and useless. Then I’d feel guilty for taking the time to feel bad, then I’d beat myself up, and then a lot more time than two weeks would pass with no progress being made.

I would get dragged down in negative feelings and minutiae. I’d feel bad for not “getting things done” or “letting people down.” I used to get stuck in grief. I also used to suffer from addiction at different points in my life — sometimes alcohol, drugs, or both. Throw in codependency and it was a huge pity party of paralyzation.

I don’t know how I didn’t learn to bounce back. I don’t quite know how I have learned to become more resilient. I credit age, experience, sobriety, and life coaching. I’m now a personal development chaser rather than a chaser of the always-elusive high.

Part of what I think makes me more resilient is working so hard towards my goals. I know what I want. My goals are clearly defined and I look at them daily. They are written in my planner and I spend time daily looking at my vision board. I understand now that time passes quickly and I don’t want to waste it. I did plenty of that when I was young.

My cats were on my daily gratitude list; my surviving cat still is. I have learned to take nothing for granted — not my cats, my car, my home, food — nothing. I spend time cultivating good habits like a daily gratitude practice and spending time in spiritual study.

I would hate to lose two weeks of time, motivation, and progress towards my goals! I hate losing momentum. I love what I do! I love to create content for my clients and I stay conscious of how much time I was taking away from my creative process in order to heal.

Losing that positive momentum is not OK with me. It’s just not congruent with my goals. I want them so badly, my “why” is quite firm, and I realized I’d have to get back to my work before I felt ready. That’s life. When people tell you, “Take all the time you need,” they don’t really mean for you to take an endless amount of time. Don’t drop off the face of the Earth.

There’s still a house to clean, jobs to do, people counting on me, my upset daughter, my boss, my clients, the car needs gas, I need to eat… You get the picture. Responsibilities don’t go away but we can be gentle while we heal. We can’t ever give up and we can’t lose perspective.

I have learned these things the hard way.

When something happens to extinguish your fire, let it.

Give yourself grace and space. Take that time to be sad, hurt, and then to heal. Get back to it quickly though. Get back to life before you’re ready. People will understand and give you some understanding. They will respect you for trying to keep your crapola together, but don't expect you to! (Anyone with selfish expectations when you go through a rough patch is showing you a red flag).

If you lack focus, you can get lost in a tragedy. You can be overwhelmed by trauma.

So HAVE YOUR FOCUS. Define it. Be clear about what you want. Because I guarantee you, when life turns into a dumpster fire and you get derailed, it’s going to be really easy to wonder, “Why should I go on?” Well, here’s why. Go back to your planner full of goals and your “why.” Go back to your vision board when times are tough. Remind yourself who you are and what you want. You aren’t done yet. Keep going. Maybe you’re tired. Maybe you “mail it in” for a week and sleep a lot. But you’re surviving it. Some days, surviving is all we can do.

You can return to thriving in no time.

But there will be that nasty stage of putting one foot in front of the other. Maybe it lasts a week or a month or a year (depending on the severity of your tragedy or trauma). But as long as we have breath in our lungs, we have to persist.

Don’t give up.

#LOAMonday No. 12 -- Manifesting Through Sound

For today's #LOAMonday, let's talk about manifesting through sound.

What?

Yes -- sound! Say it out loud with me! (Insert personal affirmation here).

I've been going through some tough life stuff that was leaving me feeling like my life was a money pit and not at all like I was attracting abundance. I had a ton of unusual expenses in the past month like a huge electric bill, new contact lenses, dental problems, oral surgery, and vet bills. Sadly, my kitty wouldn't make it and I had to make a tough choice to euthanize him rather than have him suffer.

I've said it before on my #LOAMonday blogs -- the most important thing we can do to be better manifesters is to grab hold of the right feeling. I can repeat the affirmations all I want but I still have to become an energetic match for what I want to attract into my life.

I was feeling pretty low in the middle of all this when a friend told me I needed to listen to a specific audio recording with the right frequency to attract abundance.

She sent me the link to this video and I listened to it:

And I listened to it. And I listened some more. I started to listen to it while I slept. It's exactly 11:11:11 long, for those of us angel numbers geeks.

Within a week of listening to this, I attracted in a decent windfall that was better than I even asked for!

It was life-changing.

It brought me out of the doldrums immediately and not just for the dollar amount. I felt loved and taken care of all at once. What I'd been stressing about since mid-April with one expense popping up after another was totally eliminated.

It was a great reminder that stress is always unnecessary and the Universe always provides.

So listen to the above audio. Stop stressing and meditate on becoming an energetic match to what you desire! Speak your affirmations out loud. Use your voice and make sounds. It can be a mantra like "om." But it needs to be a nice sound like that...no grunting, groaning, heavy sighing, complaining, or Negative Nancy/Debbie Downer type sounds.

Sound.

What are you vibrating to? What are you listening to? Is it pop music with curse words and talk of guns, violence, sex, and drugs? Or are you listening to something positive? Are you watching a ton of TV and being bombarded with advertisements? Are you watching violent movies? Or are you into more vapid fare like those "housewives" or "keeping up" shows?

If we only spent more time "keeping up" with our own energetic vibration! We can change our circumstances and then ripple out to those around us. Think about it.

That's why I do this...

And no, I don't watch TV. I don't have cable. I don't have a single subscription service to Netflix, Hulu, etc. I really do listen to these audios like the one I shared above. I listen to Reiki music, "spa music," as I call it, ASMR, and Kirtan to keep vibrating high. I also listen to my share of popular music.

Hello! I have worked in radio since 1998! Music is a huge part of my life! I have autographed Korn and Rob Zombie albums hanging on my walls at home. I get it! I love me some Post Malone and Halsey sometimes... But I make sure that's the "dessert" or "junk food." My musical meals will have more substance and my sounds remain wholesome.

Also, I totaled up all my LOA Mondays so far and realized this will technically be the 12th one, so I'll start numbering them correctly from here on out. Hey -- the only numbers I'm good at are angel numbers!

How to live your life while grieving

Life can change in an instant.

Often, it’s the only way we change. Suddenly. Without warning. Life knows we are sluggish to change.

But this is also the way things work in this Universe. It’s best to let go because it’s all out of our human control.

I woke up Friday morning to a very sick cat. As I was about to walk out the door at 7:40 a.m., I realized something was very wrong with him as I saw him struggling to urinate. I rushed him to the vet — ending up at the walk-in vet as FOUR vet offices were booked solid for the day. The walk-in vet treated and released my sweet baby Rupert. He had a bladder infection but I was cautioned to keep vigilant as he could become blocked at any time. The vet taught me how to check for a blockage with a simple exam. With a medicated cat and armload of Hill’s c/d food, we headed home.

The next morning, Rupert was fine when I woke up. Just about two hours later, we were at the emergency vet, which I drove to in a thunderstorm. Ever take a cat to the vet in a thunderstorm? Not fun at all, especially not in the acute panic state I was in. I had felt a blockage in my cat. His bladder was full and hard. He was visibly blocked as well.

I made a tough decision.

I vow that no animal of mine will suffer and so I made the decision, based on what the emergency vet told me, to end Rupert’s suffering. She was not confident we could save him if she tried and he’d be in pain for days. He would suffer and possibly still not make it. Plus, this could happen again. This is what happens with neutered males and their anatomy. But you can’t not neuter! (Prior to his neutering, Rupert had serious behavioral issues which were fixed immediately upon surgery).

The life of an animal lover is hard because our furry friends don’t live forever.

Rupert was the best friend we could have had. We loved and appreciated him so much in his two short years. I am thankful for the gift I was given. After my cat of 11 years, Alcatraz, passed away in February 2017 passed away — also suddenly — my friend’s cat became pregnant. “Roo” came from that litter. I’ll spare you endless stories of how special he was.

I still have an elderly female cat we refer to as HRH Meeko, a.k.a “The Queen” or “The Boss.” She is heartbroken, naturally. I am awake checking the weather as it will be a storm chasing night with threat of a tornado outbreak here in the Midwest. How can I sleep at a time like this? HRH was asleep though — having a nightmare as evidenced by the noises she was making in her sleep. My sweet baby girl…

I am worn out on all levels. I am grieving. I wish I understood why the loss of a pet is so deep and painful. I’ve sobbed over losing pets much worse than I have for humans in my life. I’ve had many losses; I am used to death. But the soul and bone-shaking sobs I experience now (and with previous pet losses) are like no other grief. Maybe it’s because animals can’t talk. Maybe it’s because the bond we have with them is so unique and special.

But life does go on.

I still have goals and things I want to be doing other than this grief crap. It’s really inconvenient. I am still committed to self-mastery and enhancing my skills daily. I am still committed to my vlog-a-day challenge but now you know why I haven’t vlogged. If you saw the few Instagram stories I did post yesterday, you already know I’m just too sad for the vlog. It’s LOA Monday here and I just kinda sorta came up with a blog post then blew it off to write this one.

I’m therefore not going to go against the flow of things. It’s going to be a big self-care week. I am trying to rest but feeling restless. I’m eating well and taking my supplements in order to care for my physically exhausted body. I cried five hours straight on Saturday. My eyes, sinuses, and headache will have to heal. But if you’ve ever lived in Tornado Alley, you know my headache won’t go away until the storms do. We are on track for a possible outbreak of tornadoes here in Wichita today. I work for the severe weather radio station here. It’s going to be a long day. (At the time of this writing it is 3:00 a.m.)

I’ll keep my haircut appointment and continue eating right. That’s about all I know for now as far as self-care plans. Life cannot stop for grief and I wish I’d known that when I was younger and suffering much bigger losses in my life. I still worked Saturday night as we had a risk of severe weather in our area. But my team is awesome and totally supported me in that choice. I only work with awesome people!

I’ve worked really hard in the month of May and I don’t want to lose that momentum. But I may be a little quiet this week. I may or may not vlog. I may or may not contribute content to Destiny Architecture and hop on the Patreon… I may listen to sappy 1980s power ballads. I don’t know.

But I wanted to blog about what’s going on. I see a lot of people post a blog…then go silent for three months. I just want you to know I’m here. I’m engaged. I may be scarce for a moment. Between feeling my feelings and covering severe weather, it could be quiet around here today. YOU, my community, are still top of mind. If you want to book out next week or beyond, that’s fine. I don’t plan on being too present to coach others while I feel depleted myself. (Though I still have previous commitments I’m keeping this week).

Thank you for your love and support!

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Now offering an 8-session life coaching package with a pay-as-you-go option

To better serve my clients, I keep coming up with all kinds of stuff…

How about a package of 8 life coaching sessions? Here you go! It is now live. This will allow you to sign up for a low price and spread out payments over an 8-week period while you are receiving 1-2 coaching sessions per week. Use them all up in a month or spread them out! Buying the package of 8 coaching sessions will help you really commit to doing the work. Then when I give you homework between sessions (as I often do), you will be much more invested in the overall process.

You can pay upfront too, which will save $50.

Please allow 90 minutes to two hours for each session — especially the first session as I’ll be getting to know you. If you have any questions, please let me know! Either ask in the comments or email me at destinyarchitecture@gmail.com.

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New sale for May: 5 coaching sessions for $50 off

For the month of May, you can purchase five life coaching sessions for just $400 — that’s $50 off!

Also, that gives you a chance to have a session a week all month! (If you want). Or spread them out all summer.

I can coach you on life changes, career changes, creativity, and getting unstuck in life in general!

What do you want to change? What does your ideal life look like? What do you want less of? I’d love to get to know you and begin asking questions to help bring you clarity!

5 Life Coaching Sessions $450
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You are ready to take the leap forward and schedule 5 transformational life coaching sessions into your life! You want and demand more of this life you're living. You want more peace, balance, and happiness in your life!

I specialize in coaching on:

  • Creativity

  • Career changing, which includes resume building, cover letter editing, and mock interviews.

  • Need to make a change? Not sure where to begin? I will help you find clarity.

  • I will not tell you what you want to hear. I’ll tell you what you need to hear.


Each transformational life coaching session will include an affirmation we create for you together, plus a graphic of it I will make and send to you so you can use it as a screensaver on your phone as a reminder. We can work on goal setting + an action plan; seeking balance; or whatever you want to work on!

I will bring the tools to your sessions, but please let me know if any of the downloadable PDFs in the store are calling to you. Those are FREE with your sessions.


I will follow up with you after each session as we decide, whether by email, text, and/or phone.

How to book:

Purchase here on this site and fill out the required fields (name/phone/email/) and tell me in the blank space what your preferred time is to have a session.

You can also reach me at destinyarchitecture@gmail.com

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Distance Reiki sale extended at $18 off!

I decided to extend my sale on distance Reiki into the month of May.

I have not done enough Reiki on people lately!

Also…I lost the past week due to a dead tooth and subsequent oral surgery. (Though I did manage to pick up 3 CEUs while my whole face was still numb! Why? Because why not?)

In the comments, please let me know any questions you have about Reiki!

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Reiki is a traditional Japanese healing technique. It’s hands-on healing but it can also be done over any distance and timeframe. I do distance Reiki sessions by phone or online chat. Reiki transcends time & space, so you can reap the benefits either in person or over the distance! After years of doing only in-person sessions, I’m called now to do distance Reiki so I can reach more people with this beautiful, relaxing energy!

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Some personal reflections for spring so far on health & wellness

I've been somewhat quiet online lately. This is what healers do... We step away, go within, and...well, heal.

Things are running a little late in my Patreon community this month -- which is OK since I (at the time of this writing) have zero Patrons joining in. Good news is, it's only my second month on Patreon. So if you join today, you'll get last month's stuff plus all the stuff I am about to post!

I'm healing my body.

This body of mine has been doing some strange things and I'm not totally sure why except for the obvious like age, hormones, diet, and rest...all of which are a bit erratic.

I've said forever I could do health and wellness without a gym. I stand by that. I didn't join a "gym." I joined a bizarre and different new "studio," shall we say. It's called Hotworx here in Wichita and you do short workouts inside an infrared sauna.

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I am admitting this sounded absolutely psychotic when I first heard of it online. (I believe I first saw them on Facebook). Work out in the heat?

I hated Bikram yoga. HATED it. So at first, I figured this was like that. But it's not! I am glad I tried it. The infrared heat makes exercise easier and this is what I feel I need. My knee is making noise now, I feel terribly inflexible and sedentary...

But I am busy! So I can go to Hotworx and do a 15-minute row in the infrared sauna and it burns around 700 calories. The whole process of getting ready to go work out, driving there, doing the damn thing, and driving home takes me an hour. It's good for time management. I am told Infrared heat is healing...

A word about using the word "calories."

I am NOT a fitness coach or instructor. I'm a life coach and a Reiki Master. I give a sh*t about counting calories. I wouldn't mind losing weight, but it's not my main focus. I want more energy, strength, and flexibility. Plus, I want to feel better. I want to move. I don't vibe with "gym" culture, diet culture, and all that triggering crapola.

I am here for accepting myself as I am and improving my health. I did take my measurements on my second day at Hotworkx so I can measure over time how my body changes -- if it changes. I like metrics and being able to measure what happens here. My blood pressure yesterday was 115/68, so I think I'm doing OK! (It was higher a year ago, MUCH higher).

So I am researching more into this. I am NOT a doctor or medical professional and this blog/website is not meant to diagnose or treat any disease.

Falling down the rabbit hole of health research

This new workout had me looking into infrared heat and saunas, then red light therapy...then I find Ari Whitten's writings and get his Kindle book, Red Light Therapy... Then I listen to his podcast with Dr. Trevor Cates...

Here is where I snapped awake!

She brought up a condition I've suffered with for years. NO doctor has been able to help. (I had Dr. Rodan as my dermatologist in my teen years in Fremont, California so you direct sales people back OFF; I have actually met her; I still have acne). Dr. Cates, “The Spa Dr.,” mentions that keratosis pilaris can be (again, this site isn't meant for curing or diagnosing anything) caused by a zinc deficiency! What?! NO ONE ever mentioned this to me before!

So fast forward to now...I am overhauling my diet, reading her book, and dosing up on supplements (again, I don't diagnose or treat anything, y'all, I'm a Reiki Master listening to the guidance of my higher self here). I've got zinc, vitamin A, essential fatty acids, probiotics, and vitamin D. Some of these I already had. But I had to really research and search online for a good zinc supplement. This is the one I selected.

In the process, I saw someone mention in a forum that an IUD can deplete the body of zinc...and I haven't found confirmation on that yet. I have an IUD but it's not made of copper, so I am wondering if that comment was only about copper IUDs? Does anyone know? Let me know in the comments if you do, or use the contact form if you want to be more private.

Switching to all-natural beauty and personal care products

I also found a cool, natural brand with great reviews, called Tree of Life Beauty on Amazon. I've ordered their retinol serum to try and get a handle on this acne. Now I am reading more of Dr. Cates' book and looking into organic skincare products with a pH of 5.5...

So here's a great example of congruency that I talk about often as a coach. Using myself as an example...

How in the hell can I join an exercise studio where I am working on healing through infrared heat and eliminating toxins...and still have a makeup bag, shower, bathroom, and a household full of chemicals?

I can't replace all the crapola overnight. But I am going to work on getting rid of all the harmful chemicals from my life. I'm a tad inspired by all the minimalism videos I've been watching on YouTube lately (more on that for another blog post).

I've touched on this very briefly on my Instagram feed too recently. I decided to work on cutting back on indoor air pollution as I discovered while traveling to Arizona in December that I need to wear a pollution mask to protect myself from PM2.5. I got rid of all my incense and candles for a TRULY smoke-free home. I purchased a sage spray, so I am no longer burning sage to cleanse the energy around me. (I love my spray! I featured it on Instagram).

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So here is the stuff! It’s made by @heritagestorenatural and it’s a sage spray. ⠀ ⠀ This is for those of us who don’t do fire. Or for whom the smell of sage is just too strong for. I actually love the smell of burning sage. I love the ritual. I’ve never been in a spiritual circle where we didn’t burn sage — especially in the Reiki community. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ The other day, my neighbor’s place burnt down. I mean dead ass burned down. I have trauma around fire 🔥 as I lost my cousin in a fire when I was 11. I’ve come to accept that I am still healing this wound — and that is ok. I keep finding myself and/around/affected by fires! Even as a reporter. If I see smoke, I drive the news vehicle toward it, not away. My soul needs the healing. ⠀ ⠀ But in my home, no fire. Also, sage smells like weed 🤣 I haven’t done drugs in 17 years. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ I also have respiratory trouble when there is high ozone and/or high particulate matter. I’ve begrudgingly been working slowly on indoor air pollution as well as wearing a mask on high pollution days. I got super sick in Arizona at Christmas, so I’m finally learning my lesson. ⠀ ⠀ The burning of things inside my home had to stop. For all of the above reasons. So I’m happy to use this sage spray! I used it on the recovery center, the radio station, and my home. I use it before I sit down to write and create coaching/Reiki content for you! ⠀ Much love & blessings!

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This is where I am at now. Heading towards some kind of chemical-free health minimalism that I have yet to deeply define.

I will continue blogging about this journey for you! Maybe it will help someone else. KP sufferers unite & power to the people...not the overly-famous dermatologists...haha.

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In full disclosure -- this is NOT a paid blog post. I am blogging about my own experiences and spending my own money. I am not medically-trained, not a doctor or physician, and this blog/website and my social media accounts are not meant to diagnose or treat any disease.

I used my own money to purchase products mentioned above. Those products have affiliate links so I can earn if you follow/purchase from those links. I purchased all but the Sage Aura Spray from Amazon; that I purchased locally from Sprouts grocery store.

If you like my work, you can support it by making a purchase in the Destiny Architecture store, sharing this blog with others, booking a life coaching and/or Reiki session, joining my Patreon, or making an in-kind donation to my excessive dental care and personal care through Square at: $coachheather.

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How to reprogram your subconcious mind 

How to reprogram your subconcious mind with this new, downloadable PDF worksheet

Reprogramming Your Subconscious Mind Downloadable PDF Worksheet
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This downloadable PDF worksheet will help you along your personal development journey by helping you become conscious of negative thinking patterns that are holding you back. Then it will help you change them into positive ones.

There are six questions in this worksheet for you. I’ve also written a blog to help you with this idea.

Once purchased, you will receive a link to download the PDF. That link will be active for 24 hours.

I recommend downloading it and printing it out so you can write on it. Or, you can save paper (and trees) by keeping it on your computer or tablet. Then you can write in a journal on it, or journal by computer. I personally like to journal on my computer because I can write faster by keyboard.

Half of this worksheet will be recognizing your negative subconscious thinking patterns. The other half will be creating new patterns that are more beneficial to what you want to create in your life.

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Thank you for joining me on this path of healing work. You’re going to do great. There are many “a-ha moments” ahead of you! Let’s get to work. 

Ask yourself, “What pre-programmed subconscious messages do I deal with?”

Let’s get into a niche here because to mine the negative subconscious messages from the entire mind is a tad overwhelming. 

Which niche would you like to work on? 

  • Money/finances 

  • Health/beauty/body image/exercise 

  • Creativity 

  • Career and/or job search/job changing 

  • Personal life 

Remember, this healing work is endless and you can always come back to this tool to work on different areas at different times. 

Let’s use trust as an example. 

I catch my subconscious being weird abut trust all the time, but this doesn’t mean that in these fleeting moments I am doing anything about it. I am merely becoming conscious of the fact that I catch glimpses of my lack of trust. What is it I don’t trust? I start asking the questions so the work can begin. 

How does this message hold me back? 

I know from life experience that taking a leap of faith works for me. I am a risk taker by nature. Perhaps that’s why I don’t trust well…sometimes I take a leap of faith that is well-planned out. Those are the ones that work. Impulsive leaps, however, do NOT work! I think those few unplanned leaps and subsequent failures embedded in me a lack of trust tied into a feeling of failure. There were also many personal relationships with friends, family, and love interests which also fed my lack of trust. 

But let’s dig a little deeper, using myself as an example. 


What is behind that lack of trust? 

Fear. 

What am I afraid of? 

That’s a good question! Is it failure I am scared of? No. It’s more the fear of putting myself out there. There’s a fear of vulnerability. I can own my failures, mistakes, and the embarrassment from them. But at least I am doing something. Some people never do anything. They let the fear paralyze them. I am afraid often of being seen and feeling vulnerable. 

I’ll leave out all the “psych 101” reasons why as I’m a life coach and I’m not interested in the past. A good coach moves forward, not back. (To deal with past issues, early childhood memories, and family of origin issues, please see a qualified therapist). 

So we’ve decided I will work on my personal life and general fear for the purpose of this example.

What is the opposite of fear? Love!

Let’s find a way for me to attract more love into my life! If love is the opposite of fear (and it is) then I want to attract things like courage and trust into my life. 

This is where the affirmations come in. 

  • “I love and trust life!” 

  • “I trust the Universe if always working in my favor.” 

  • “I trust in life, I am trustworthy and operate with integrity so I attract people who are trustworthy to me.” 

  • “I am worthy of trust and only attract trustworthy people into my life.” 

Play with these affirmations and tailor them to your own life. 

So now we know I have some pre-programmed messages about lack of trust embedded in my subconscious. Perhaps that came from my parents always saying things like, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.” We also know these pre-programmed messages caused me harm as they hold me back from being able to be vulnerable to others. 

Therefore, we begin to turn it around by asking: 

What do I want to attract into my life? 

Then we tailor affirmations for what we DO want in our life. Because, remember: 

What you focus on expands! 

If you want less of it, DO NOT concentrate on it! 

There are three more questions to engage you on this path in this worksheet. 

Often I find when I am doing this work, I start with six questions and end up asking myself 30. The questions beget more questions. The more armor you take off, the more you can ask yourself and the more you can free up! 


A word about these downloadable PDF worksheets by Destiny Architecture

I design these worksheets for you to use by printing them out. You can then write on them or write in a journal to answer questions. Of course, you can save paper by downloading the worksheet to your device and then journaling on a laptop. Whatever you prefer! 

I also design these worksheets for self-study. But I am here for coaching sessions if something comes up that you’d like to work on further. 

You can also join the Patreon community for support from the group! One of these worksheets will come with the $10 membership tier each month. 

Also, please take your time when working on these. They are for YOU! They are for your personal growth and development. Tie them into your yoga, meditation, or writing practice. Diffuse some essential oil, put on some music, cut out distractions, and use these in your self-care time. You’ll be glad you did. 

Announcing: The Destiny Architecture Coaching & Reiki Community is now on Patreon

What!?!!? I can snag me some life coaching and Reiki with Destiny Architecture on Patreon? SCORE!

I know, not my usual headline but after a week of allergy hell (normal life in the Midwest) I am feeling 75% more human today! So let’s just have some fun with this!

I am creating a life coaching and Reiki community on Patreon here.

It’s a brand-new community I am birthing this spring. I’ve wanted to do this for a long time and Patreon gives me a great plug-and-play type of way to do this. (Patreon is a membership community led by creators. So you help me make money and meet goals in return for amazing content).

I’ve posted on the Patreon page about what the community is about and I’ve also uploaded an exclusive, Patrons-only life coaching worksheet for the $10/mo+ tiers. It’s about how you can reprogram your subconscious mind, which is so revealing. But at the same time, it will help you create a better way for yourself. Yes, we have some subconscious program we want to let go of — but we also have to program in the new!

I’ll be posting a worksheet once a month like this for Patrons. You’ll also be able to get a podcast, coaching, access to a mastermind, and more.

The worksheet is up, the “what this is all about” post is up, and some other “for everybody” content you can read.

If you’ve been a fan of this blog, you’re going to love it.

Yes, you can join for free!

The benefits kick in at the $3/mo tier. It goes all the way up to the $250/mo mastermind level. I have a post on there about this, but it isn’t just about the money commitment to the community. It’s also about what time you have to give to the community — and more importantly — to your own personal growth.

Above all, it’s about your energy!

Bring your energy to the community. Participate. Consume some, give back some. How much energy do you have for personal development right now? Pick that tier. Do that.

I chose Patreon because the site is full of amazing creators. I’ve been a Patron of others there for one year now and it has changed my life! I’ve been a patron of some anti-racism educators and social justice activists in the past year. Where else can you find people creating such amazing content for affordable monthly prices?

Of course, I am adding in a ton of premium content. I want there to be something for everyone while —at the same time— keeping the mastermind people in their own Slack group. I don’t want you to join that (even if that’s affordable to you) if you don’t have the energy to bring. Being in the mastermind will require work on your part. There will be reading and giving knowledge to others.

So check it out. More to come!

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Online Coaching & Reiki community with several subscription tiers available!