Fearless 5 Podcast #15 Show Notes

The Fearless 5 Podcast…

…is 5 episodes a week of 5 (or likely more) minutes each designed to give you a fearless way to start your day. All the podcasts are uploaded for the week on Sundays and the show notes are posted on weekdays. You can listen to it on Anchor here.

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Really big fears

Talk to your fears — and don’t be nice.

Listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #15 here.

What is holding you back from applying for the job you want? This is where we can really dig into “Fear in the Field.” No matter what your field is — mine is obviously media — I am betting you have some fears. 

We aren’t going to talk about the petty stuff, like, “What will this job change mean for my schedule.” 

Let’s talk about the really big fears. 

You aren’t applying for that job because the constructs of society tell you you’re not enough. You have too many gaps in your resume or you need a college degree to get ahead… Which, honestly — means nothing in modern life and today’s economy. I wish I could return my college degree and get my credit score back. We all have gaps in our resumes and they are easily — and confidently — explained with some coaching. (I did this daily with clients when I did social work). 

I have literally coached ex-cons and former drug dealers on how to deal with such questions in job interviews. Ever been a drug addict on the streets for years? Selling crack isn’t a job skill. Sales managers aren’t going to hire you for that. Even Jay-Z knew that, hence he became a rapper. But we all can’t be Jay-Z. 

So when it comes to getting on your feet and getting rid of the Fear in the Field, talk to it. Say, “Hello, Fear. I see you’re hanging around. But you’re full of lies. I don’t believe you. I will prove you wrong, or at least try to. I AM good enough, I do have enough experience, and even if I don’t — I’m applying for this job. I am going to the audition. In fact, I’m going to leave you at home now, bye.” 

Then do your thing. Do it imperfectly. What’s the worst thing that can happen? So what if you do it wrong? They aren’t going to eat you or take away your first born. ALL that matters is you learn from the process of trying. Learn from the audition or job interview. I started vlogging and don’t know a thing about it. We can all laugh about that at a later date… Point is, I tried. And I keep trying. I hope you do, too. 

Fearless 5 Podcast #14 Show Notes

I know so many people who want to know all the answers before taking action. Life doesn’t work that way. 

You truly have to do things, screw them up, and then try again. 

I’m being serious. Listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #14 here.

Fear of doing it wrong means you’ll just never do it. You’re so afraid to do it because you think you have to have it perfect the first time out. If you wait for you to know how to do it perfectly, you may as well kiss it goodbye. Perfection keeps you stuck. 

The topic this week is “Fear in the Field.” Keep the perfection out of the field. 

Most of us who are entrepreneurs have no idea what we are doing or how we are going to do it. I don’t bring the fear into the field, whether it’s when I’m coaching, reporting, or running my business. If I don’t know how to do something, I reach out to someone, Google it, YouTube it, or buy a damn book about it. Or I just do it and screw it up and learn from it. I mess it up until I get it right. There are no mistakes — unless you don’t learn from it. 

One year, I applied for 92 jobs before I landed the 93rd one. It took me ALL of 2010 to get that job. I started it in January 2011 — and that was coming out of some bad economic times. But it changed my life in all the ways I wanted it changed. So it was worth it. 

I’ve coached a lot of job searchers. Let’s get into that tomorrow… 

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There is NO

such thing as perfect.

There now, do you feel better?

Fearless 5 Podcast #11 Shownotes

Check out the Fearless 5 Podcast Shownotes on the blog every Monday-Friday! The blog uploads on Anchor on Sundays. I upload ALL the episodes for you for the entire week so you can use them how you wish!

You can also listen on Spotify, Google Podcasts, RadioPublic, and PocketCasts (at this time with more to be added soon).

~Coach Heather Larson — Certified Transformational Life Coach

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Week 3

It’s already week 3 of the Fearless 5 Podcast! Here’s episode #11!

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This week’s topic is, “Fear in the Field!” 

Do you want a random topic each day, or do you like this “topic of the week” format I did last week and am doing again this week? Which do you prefer? I may mix it up next week… Let me know in the comments!

“Fear in the Field” is inspired by real-life events. Talking about fear on the Fearless 5 podcast is one thing, but what happens when the podcast is over and you walk out the door? What happens when you are taking action steps towards your dreams? FEAR. And this is cheesy and cliche, but fear has a couple meanings: Fear Everything And Run — or — Face Everything And Rise. 

So which is it? Which one do you want it to be?

There’s also False Evidence Appearing Real. (Enough with the acronyms now).

I’m not saying your fears aren’t valid. I’m just saying feel the fear but do it anyway. Don’t let your fears win. Don’t let them run you or make you feel like you are less than. Make the voice of your higher self stronger than the voice of your fears. Your fears are full of lies anyway. 

Last week, as a journalist, I went to interview people at the “American Idol” auditions where I live — in Wichita, KS. I’ve covered “American Idol” off and on since 2002; I attended the finale shows in 2002 and 2003. This show was a HUGE deal then — back when we had crappy Nokia phones, texting was new, and Twitter was still a twinkle in Jack Dorsey’s eye. BUT — I had never gotten to go to American Idol auditions as a reporter before, so 2002 Me was psyched! 

Knowing I’d want to talk to people in line about the subject of fear for this podcast, I asked every single person if they were afraid. Every single person said, “Yes!” How intimidating for a singer and musician, am I right? All your dreams hang on the few minutes you’re about to get before one of the “American Idol” producers! I know there are people who go to “American Idol” auditions and get stage fright. I’m sure if it were me, I’d have the biggest wet circles around my armpits. Gross. (I used to be terrified to sing in front of other people and maybe I’ll tell that story on next week’s Fearless 5 Podcast).

But Kelly Clarkson didn’t didn’t freeze up. She walked up to those producers and tried out like a damn diva and owned her talent. She walked up there empowered, I’m sure. I don’t know this for a fact. But I think it’s pretty obvious things worked out for her. But I wish I could go back to interview early-aughts Kelly and chat about fear… 

This week, let’s talk about conquering your fear in the field. Whether “the field” is an “American Idol” audition, job interview, going on a date, starting something new… We manage our fears in the field. We manage them by taking action, so we manage them in motion. Our feet are off the ground and we are moving. We are either moving forward or we aren’t. 

On podcast 12 (tomorrow), let’s hear from someone who ROCKED their “American Idol” audition… 

Fearless 5 Podcast Shownotes #9: Who are they?

Ok, who are “They?”

This is what we get into in Fearless 5 Podcast #9, which you can listen to here on Anchor. We just got added to PocketCasts; the podcast is also on Spotify, Google Podcasts, and RadioPublic. Not bad for being 10 episodes in! Each Fearless 5 Podcast is a mini-coaching session.

So, seriously, who are “They?”

You tell me! 

What is this, a life coach paradoxical, mind blast, you ask? Meh. Maybe. 

“They” are the voices in your head. 

“They” tell you what you should do, be, have. 

“They” are the voices of the people who raised you. 

“They” are the voices of society that tell you Netflix is a social connector and you’re weird for not having it.

“They” are your bosses or coworkers who are “happy” where they are. 

Chances are, if you’ve found THIS podcast, THIS life coach, and THIS website — 

You’re pretty tired of “them.” 

“They” are advertisers, marketers, and any other media message that tells you to consume. 

(I know, ironic when you realize I have been in the media since the 1990s in some capacity, year after year).

I’m going to tell you to do something different with your time today. I don’t want you to consume today (except for this podcast, ha!) 

Today, I want you to CREATE. 

Create another TV-free day and night. If you aren’t passively consuming for once, who are you? Don’t identify yourself with the labels like, “I’m Marvel not DC,” or “I’m Star Trek not Star Wars,” or “There are two kinds of people, Game of Thrones fans and…” 

Who are YOU? With unlimited time and NO TV, what do you create? Walks in nature? Time for fitness? Are you creating a blog (that’s what I did). Are you creating that business plan for the dream business you own and run that gets you out of working for other people? With evenings free, do you take a class? Any class — a college class, an online class, a class at your local library or recreation center… 

What PASSION do you pursue with extra time? 

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Get more fearless

Pursue your passion.

Because pursuing passion takes time. It takes energy. Maybe it’s a local softball team or a salsa dance class. Maybe you need a trip to Guitar Center. Maybe you want to go back to school. 

Do that thing you want to do and stop letting the constructs of society hold you back. 

How will you spend your evening tonight? 

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It’s a scary amount isn’t it? 

Time is money, and money is energy. 

You just figured out how much of YOURS goes to sitting and consuming. Sitting and watching. 

Now TV isn’t the enemy and we all have guilty pleasures. I’m not saying TV is the devil. Once in a while, I watch YouTube, but I am conscious about what I consume. I like to watch independent artists like myself, people who can benefit from me clicking “subscribe” or “thumbs up,” and people like myself who CREATE and aren’t household names and who I can support on Patreon even. 

Does Jennifer Aniston or Andrew Lincoln need my support? Nope. Does Ali Spagnola? YES! And you’ll love her videos too, if you go check them out. 

So now that we know how much time, money, and energy goes to your TV habit…and maybe even you went a night without TV or Netflix and didn’t die, let’s really get some things figured out. 

Were you shocked by how much TV or screen time you spend? 

Can we agree you can probably cut back a few hours a week? 

And can we also agree that — in order to be fearless — you can not only cut back a few hours but DEDICATE those hours to something better? Like following a DREAM!?!?!?!?!?!

See, they want you to be numb. They don’t want you to follow your dream. They want you to be numbed with addictive screen behaviors, binge watching, and Standard American Diet eating…they want you to work your 40-hour-a-week job you hate with benefits. They want you sleeping. They want you complacent. They don’t want you putting your energy towards your dreams or pushing against the walls that hold you in. And yes, TV is one of those walls. It boxes you in and they like it that way. 

Who is “they?” We’ll identify “them” tomorrow. 

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Fearless 5 Podcast #7 Show Notes

So since it’s Tuesday, technically this would be the day of this week you would listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #7 — IF you are listening to them each weekday as I designed them.

But, it’s totally OK if you do them all in a day, skip a day, or whatever. I make them for you to use however you want for your own personal growth. We know personal development doesn’t happen on schedule. It happens when you’re moved to make it happen. It happens when you make space for it. So, you do you, Destiny Architect. Just remember — YOU are the architect of your own destiny.

If I posted all the show notes at once like I do the podcast, the blog would be a hot mess. It’s also time consuming. So I’m posting them 1-2 per day during the week.

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This week

The Fearless 5 Podcasts should make you think, make you mad, and challenge you.

Here’s the show notes for Fearless 5 Podcast #7:

Listen to it here, on Anchor.

Hello, there. How did your TV-free night go? How did you fill your time? Did you work on your dream instead? Did you catch up with a friend? Did you sleep or go to the gym to escape a quiet house? Did you spend time with loved ones? Did you “watch a movie” because, “Technically, that’s not something Coach Heather said I had to give up…” HA! 

How you responded to the challenge says a lot about where you are, what you’re ready for, and what you’re willing to do in order to live a fearless life. Sit with that today. Did you dive in or did you make an excuse? Did you whine? Did you give a cop out? You know what you did. You know how you responded. Now what? 

Most people can’t sit with the silence of not having a TV on or Netflix to watch. Most of society works, comes home, eats the Standard American Diet, and thing binge watches something on a screen until bed time. Now, it’s multiple screens. You’ve got Netflix on while you surf on your iPad and “connect” via social media. 

If you’re the person who eats the SAD and goes full-zombie in front of a TV nightly, I may not be the coach for you. Unless you’re tired of that life, in which case, I am EXACTLY the coach for you. 

Society has pressured you into that lifestyle where you are over-connected and yet feeling completely unconnected and not at all fulfilled. I realized this last week, when someone asked me if I watch Netflix. I said no, I don’t watch TV. You should have seen their face! They looked at me like I was a lepper! Like they were thinking, “OMG what a puritanical crazy woman!” 

Perhaps, I am actually the sane one here. Here’s 3 steps to take: 

  1. How much are you paying for cable, internet, and “services” like Netflix. Write down the total dollar amount. 

  2. Now, look at how much your job pays you and how much you have to work to pay for the above. 

  3. Next, total up how much time you spend watching and consuming. How much time on screens. Are there two screens at once? More than that? 

That’s today’s challenge. Evaluate how much time, energy, and money goes into your “TV” habit. 

Listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #7 here.

At this time, it’s on Anchor, Spotify, RadioPublic, and Google Podcasts.

Reflecting on the end of my 30s

You will read nothing more LEO than this today — here I am, waxing poetic about the end of another decade, and wishing myself a happy birthday on my website. Thanks to everyone who participated in the Destiny Architecture birthday sale a few weeks ago. That was madness and so fun!

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Truth is, I’ve felt 40 for a while and that’s a good thing.

I am just getting started! As much as I wish I could go back to my young self and shake her awake, she had to go through all that to get to where she is today. Also, Tuesday was #NationalRadioDay, and it’s been 21 years in broadcasting for me.

21 years!

I had to think about that later. Has it really been that long? Wasn’t it longer? I was driving and had to do the math again…. It started because I made a video for Instagram with my work buddies Tuesday in which we were all counting the years we’ve been broadcasting.

So here we are! 40!?!!?

I honestly didn’t think I’d make it this far. Years of addiction and dangerous living…I didn’t really have a plan… But if I do say so myself, I’m loving 40-year-old me. She takes no shit, she knows what she wants, she’s disciplined, focused, and experienced. Word to my younger sisters — develop a gym habit, stay hydrated, focus on nutrition and self-care. And dump the losers. All of them! If you don’t have a group of crazy girlfriends who will do clothing swap parties and vision boards with you — get new friends. Good girlfriends — of all ages — will get you through the tough times.

New stuff coming

So, we had the Destiny Architecture birthday weeks ago. This website is 3 years old! Yay!

But with birthdays comes growth and it cannot be fought. The vision I had for this website started it off three years ago and has served me well. But it is time to grow and evolve the content to serve you better. Part of the first vision for this website was built around me working 40-hour weeks in social work plus going to school online at SWIHA to work on my coaching certification. The content I started back then was easier to keep up on, like the #LOAMonday posts I’ve done. But I’m not a money mindset or manifestation coach. It was just something fun I started that I think I can let go of now. It muddies the waters of what I do. If enough of you miss it, I can bring it back, but it would be monthly rather than weekly.

Instead of that…

I just launched a FREE ebook you can download on August 9. I HAD to get it up THAT DAY and I didn’t know why until someone told me about the Lion’s Gate. BOOM! That was why! It had to come out THAT DAY, but I didn’t have to promote it then. The Universe gave this Leo some other fish to fry.

Now is the time to start promoting my free ebook I wrote for YOU! Let me set it right here:

In addition to the FREE e-book, I want to launch a podcast and get more coaching-oriented. And yes, back to more vlogs! So expect more audio and video content. Expect more blogs that will be centered around coaching and waking up to your spiritual self. Expect more — much more — about Reiki. Expect an online summit very soon because it’s not just me… I have friends also doing amazing work and I want to see what happens when I bring all these women together in an online space to teach you!

And can we get the Patron page rocking? Because that is going to be an amazing community when it gets rolling! The free e-book is available there too. But there’s also a ton of content there that’s Patreon-specific. Much of it is free, some is paid. It’s where I’ll be posting updates about the Reiki ebook I’m working on. That book is the current purpose of that Patreon. Check it out!

In Wichita and beyond

As always, I am in Wichita to offer you coaching, Reiki sessions, and Reiki classes. I also offer coaching and distance Reiki online. I do NOT teach Reiki 1, 2, or 3 (Master) courses online as you cannot be properly attuned over the web. But I’ve taught some Reiki-related classes online before and I’m thinking of doing it again.

I have a Reiki 1 class scheduled in Wichita next month. I’ll soon be scheduling Reiki 2 and Master classes!

Let's talk Patreon -- membership tiers & whatcha get + why I did it!

I’m doing a content blitz tonight on Patreon. Have you checked it out yet? Do it!

https://www.patreon.com/DestinyArchitecture

The purpose of providing life coaching & Reiki on Patreon is to give YOU options for getting involved in this personal development lifestyle I live. Do you love anything metaphysical and want to get your feet wet with anything about chakras & meditation? I’ve got you! There’s a tier for that.

Want to get more serious and start doing some personal development work? I make PDFs and podcasts for that EXCLUSIVE to Patreon! The PDF and podcast I uploaded to the Patron for July is about leveling up your abundance practice and make the podcast all about that. This isn’t stuff I’m posting on here for free or for sale! This is for Patrons only.

Yes, I have that much content to put out into the world. I know things get better with coaching and Reiki. That’s why I want to spread it to the world.

Here’s a brief breakdown of the Patreon membership levels and what they get you:

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$3/mo

*Patron-only blog posts

*Monthly podcast

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$10/mo

All the above plus:

*monthly downloadable coaching PDF exclusive to Patrons.

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$20/mo

All the above plus:

*A thank-you tweet

*Monthly Q&A

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$35/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*The Artist’s Way Course!

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$50/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*A monthly distance Reiki session of 30 minutes!

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$130/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*A private coaching session with me monthly!

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$250/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*The MASTERMIND for Destiny Architects with a monthly teleconference and access to a private Slack group.

The first reason for the Patreon is to offer coaching & Reiki at affordable rates for Patrons.

You give me patronage for my creations in coaching & Reiki — downloadable PDFs, podcasts, blogs, Q&A, and a ton of other content I’m creating. I create, you pay me, and we all reap the benefits. It’s an old idea brought back to life for the current times — that of Patronage.

The second reason for the Patreon is to have support while i write my Reiki ebook

There are so many creators on Patreon making the coolest stuff! I follow writers, YouTube creators, and podcasters, for example.

So I’m going to write a Reiki ebook! You’re going to be a part of it (as much as you want to be). Different tiers on the Patreon give you different benefits for helping me with the book — whether through your patronage, your feedback — or both. Get advance content from the book, acknowledgements, feedback opportunities, and even FREE copies of the book once it’s done.

Your Patronage will help me pay for the book cover, editing, and all the help I need to complete it and get it online. Basically, you’re helping me fund the creation of my book. But you totally benefit! Are you a Patreon or an angel? I consider you both!

I’ve been adding content to the Patreon all night in a “content blitz” I’ve been on for more than just tonight. This month’s download and podcast are up, too. There are also polls you can take. When you do them, you are totally contributing to the book already.

Tomorrow, keep an eye out for a special offer just for Patrons!

Exciting News! I will be adding additional coaching hours soon! 

I’m working on some things that will expand my coaching hours so I can serve you better. It’s been eight years since I took a huge leap of faith — which turned out amazing. I am feeling called to make a jump again. 

I’m available now evenings and weekends for life coaching and distance Reiki sessions. (No more early morning hours at this time). You can schedule with me in my available times here on the scheduling page or at this link. These show my currently available times.

Expanding my availability for you to have more coaching sessions 

Here’s the only catch right now. I don’t know when my schedule will open up further. I also don’t know what days/times will become available. As much as I am the architect of my own destiny…I have to wait on a few things to move. And they will. 

Guess what else this means? 

I’ll be expanding my entire coaching business! This means more content will become available to you soon. There will be more classes, more distance Reiki sessions, more podcasts, more lives on Instagram and Facebook for you… 

If you love personal development, get ready to have an expansive 2019 with Destiny Architecture! 

I’ve long told my clients to take the leap of faith.

It worked for me before and I’m about to do it again. I love it. I love the rush, I love following my heart, and I love listening to Spirit lead me. I’m telling you this to take you along on the trip. (The word “journey” is overused and, if you’ve met me, you know everything is a “trip.” I’m a trip, life is a trip). 

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Fearless 5 Podcast

It’s the right time to get fearless.

I say this because I delayed releasing this podcast I’d been wanting to release. I’d had an idea of releasing a weekly one that would be more long-form.

But I realized the world doesn’t have a need for that. Not right now. It wasn’t the right idea and still needed to cook a while. I love podcasts, especially motivational ones. But what I realized is I rarely listen to long ones personally. My favorite one is short and well-produced. As a broadcaster, I appreciate the art of it. I feel like it gives me a lot in a short time, which results in me feeling enriched because it it. I even wanted to listen to it again!

I decided I wanted to offer something like that to my audience. I don’t want to give you something I wouldn’t want!

The goal is to keep these around five minutes long. This first one is just under ten. They won’t be longer than that. The topic this first week is about choosing fear over love. There are affirmations in this podcast. I am posting them here for you too, so you can easily access them.

Enjoy!

Fearless 5 Podcast: Choosing Love over Fear Affirmations

I am.
I am love.
I am strong.
I can do whatever I set out to do this week and I can do it well.
I choose.
I choose love instead of fear.
I choose to have a great day.
I choose to have a great week.
I look for opportunities to greet the world with love.
I concentrate now on love and forgiveness.
I choose to meet the people in my life where they are at.
I choose to approach them with love.

Quick update on what I'm healing, doing etc with this podcast!

It's been an insane two months, but in a good way. I've been experiencing a lot of positive change. Happy to share what's been going on and what's coming up!

My bucket list scooter and quite the bang to start this next year of my life after my belly button birthday! Listen to the podcast to find out what's new...

My bucket list scooter and quite the bang to start this next year of my life after my belly button birthday! Listen to the podcast to find out what's new...

Ahhhh, goals! New month, new goals!

Hard to think about in the summer heat when all we want to do is grill and lay by the pool. I hope you get to do both, by the way!

My goal last month was to write 30 blogs for the month of June. I didn't make it! And that is OK.

Why is it OK to not meet a goal, you ask?

Because I learned from it!

Here's what I learned from making this goal -- and not meeting it last month:

  • I ended up actually taking a full week off from life at one point in the month. I've been going hard starting this business and didn't want to burn out. I took a rest. I never used to do this. But now it's a must.
  • My original thought about 30 blogs in a month would have worked had I not taken the week off. The thought was that I'd go for volume rather than daily discipline. Now I've flipped my opinion on this. I think I'd rather go for daily blog writing discipline rather than a quota. If I miss a day, no big deal. If I miss two days, no big deal. But if I miss two days and I'm trying to hit a quota, I get backed up trying to meet it. For what? It's a self-imposed quota!
  • I decided I'd rather go for quality over quantity anyway. This hit me about halfway through the month. I have my editorial calendar set out, but then I'd get spontaneous creative ideas! I think I'd therefore rather take the editorial plan of Destiny Architecture on a day-by-day basis.

Oh, I still have an editorial calendar! I'm a life coach -- I have three planners total. I love planners. Creating an editorial calendar for this blog you are reading right now is my way of brainstorming and I love it. I'm a lover of a daily brainstorm. I love mind mapping. I love color coding my notes.

Maybe it's a sickness?

Kidding!

So what's the new goal for the month?

I have several. Though there aren't really any I am willing to share. That's OK. I'm going to take what I have learned and move forward.

If my personal values dictate quality over quantity, I shall work towards giving you quality blog posts rather than so many of them just to hit a self-imposed quota which I imposed for no good reason.

That's another thing with goal setting. What's the reason for the goal? What's the why behind it?

If the why isn't strong enough, as in this case, mine was not, you will not be able to push forward all the way to meet the goal.

So remember, goals need to be SMART!

Specific, measurable, achievale, realistic and time-based!

 

The true goal for this month is to work on the Healing with Heather Podcast. I can't wait to bring it to you!

~Certified Life Coach, Heather Larson

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