#LOAMonday No. 16: More questioning of LOA beliefs

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Last week, I questioned a couple widely-accepted beliefs that typically fall into the LOA grab bag.

We aren’t the average of the five people we spend the most time with and the world isn’t all bad, right? I may have spoken too soon on the latter, as we’ve hit a new record of mass shootings here in the U.S., where I live. But people are banning plastic bags in whole cities and cleaning up the oceans, so it can’t be all bad…

This week, I thought I would hit the LOA of when bad things happen. Also, let’s question more beliefs!

First, I had a crap morning today. Nothing would go right! I walked into a giant spiderweb in the dark on the way into work. The printer went on the fritz. Everything electronic I touched did something strange. Software burps… Personal brain farts… Accidentally deleted an important email… Butterfinger moments constantly… and all the while…I never stopped trying to get that spider out of my hair all morning! Things improved somewhat when I went to the gym to get out some frustration!

I tried not to focus on my mistakes this morning, but what we focus on expands. Trying NOT to focus on my mistakes means I’m still thinking about them! Talk about a circle of madness. So how to reboot? Take a break! I walk a lap around the building, have a snack, make a tea, or anything that gets me away from the desk.

Back to the idea of how what we focus on expands…

Are we so focused on mass shootings that they are expanding? The literal LOA stuff would dictate a big “yes” here. If we didn’t report them happening, that wouldn’t make them stop. There are far more forces at play. We used to think if we talked more about mass shooting victims than their perpetrators, we’d take the gas out of the shooters’ fire. Wrong again; these people aren’t seeking fame. Rather, they are fueled by hate. Or something. I’m not going to sit around, sane as I am, trying to understand the works of insane men.

Remember when I said last week the world isn’t this horrible place? Can I take that back now? I say this as someone who spends time consuming news — but as someone who is also intuitive and empathic. Could it be that my butterfingery experience this morning was influenced by my consumption of large amounts of tragic and violent news? Was I so focused on the news of mass shootings, that the negativity of it all leaked out into my energy field? Hence, I’m deleting emails by accident, killing printers, dropping stuff, etc?

This is why I tell my Reiki students to consume less news prior to a Reiki class. This crap gets into our energy field. Too much news, social media scrolling, and even empty conversations attracts what exactly into our space?

To really engage LOA properly, we have to engage in higher vibe activities. Walks in nature are better than scrolling Facebook just like eating carrots is better than snarfing donuts.

People love to talk about LOA being about abundance. So many people tout LOA for prosperity. But until you start working consciously with your own energy field, you haven’t cracked the surface. This is part of the reason why I’ve never been a huge fan of The Secret. The film is literally a rambling conversation about LOA without any substance. LOA is so much more than that. I’ve touched on this in a much earlier blog. But I’m not the only one.

Check out the “Throw out Your Vision Board” guy!

Dr. Neil Farber writes a pretty scathing review of LOA here. Will I actually throw out my vision board? No. I love the thing. But I do acknowledge that I — like most people — create a board from a place of comfort. I need to put up much scarier visions & goals on that board, which I am working on. And I agree with this guy that you need an action board more than a vision board. I keep a vision board but put my actions into my Self Journal.

I hate the idea of just cutting out random expensive things to paste on a poster board. Don’t do that!

It just becomes about collecting random material things you’ve cut out from magazines rather than being specific. My vision board is super-specific and I translate it into action by using my BestSelfCo. Self Journal. Follow this link and use the code “HeatLar” for an extra 15% off your purchase.

But check out point #7 here. Dr. Neil Farber writes that, “Challenges are considered negative.” This is where I think the era of The Secret did more harm than good, for sure:

Even talking about challenges and obstacles is an admission of doubt in a law of attraction. Positive and social psychology research have identified many benefits to planning for and encountering challenges. A healthy attitude toward challenges is associated with increased resilience and greater success.

I dug up an early New Thought writer’s writing through Google Scholar you can read for free. William Walker Atkinson wrote the book, Thought Vibration: Or, The Law of Attraction in the Thought World. Like any old book, if you want to read it, I’ll say read with caution. (I couldn’t read Napoleon Hill the first time I picked it up due to the overt racism of it). You can read it online here. He writes that your will doesn’t need training — your mind does.

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I would be remiss to say I agree with all Dr. Farber’s points. His point #10 mentions that LOA provides, “no support groups.” I’ll take issue with his mention of Alcoholics Anonymous simply because the idea that addicts needs other addicts to “recover” is a social construct created by AA. There is an alternative out there, called The Freedom Model, which can be purchased on Amazon here. I would never recommend anyone go to AA simply due to the liability of what can happen to a person there (I’ve personally been harassed by AA members in my past, and after 4.5 years of social work I have seen the program’s success rate to be low). I didn’t want anyone to think my linking to Dr. Farber’s article would be an endorsement by me of AA in any way.

I did want to link to his article to show some critical thinking about the law of attraction. It goes well with my post from last week where I was questioning the “you are an average of five people” idea. You are NOT an average. You are so much more than that.

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#LOAMonday No. 14: This isn’t about greed — it’s about abundance

By now, we’ve talked 13 times about the Law of Attraction and we’ve barely cracked the surface, Destiny Architects! 

I want to shift gears into something I don’t see very often in mindset coaching around LOA. 

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You are enough.

You have enough!

Everyone tells you it’s all about attracting money in — but what about managing what we already have? 

Seriously! 

I used to think that I had to get money, all the money, as much as possible. I used to fantasize about winning the lottery, which is a nasty money lesson taught to me by my grandfather. The man was devoted to few things — gambling, beer, lotto tickets, and the weekly National Enquirer. (How I grew up to be a journalist in that family is beyond me). 

There’s a cacophony online of people telling you that you need more.

They sell you and idea that you can do it! You can attract more wealth! Get more! Be greedy! No “thing” is too much for you to have! Put it on your vision board! Act “as if!” Idolize money! Make your vision board/stacks of cash your screen background on your phone! 

Ok, I actually do have that as my phone lock screen most days — haha. I can laugh at myself. (I just switched it to a scene of Venice, Italy, a city I really want to travel to). 

Not all of those coaches would be wrong, either.

I am all about LOA and attracting abundance — but without sounding cringey or disconnected from reality. It cannot be about “getting money” all the time. That’s exhausting. 

So let’s give thanks for the abundance we already have. I just uploaded a gratitude PDF worksheet to the FREE STUFF page for you. 

Then let’s do something radical — let’s properly manage what we already have. 

I saw a statistic recently about how most Americans live paycheck to paycheck and would be broken by a simple household expense of around $400 as they have NO money in savings. 

This tells me maybe the “abundance movement” has gone a little too far into one direction — the “get money” direction. Which inevitably puts a lot of people right back into the feeling of lack, which is not the place to create abundance from. Not. At. All. 

So a few basic questions today for your consideration: 

  • Do you budget for savings? For emergency expenses? 

  • Do you have a retirement account you put money into — and then don’t touch it? 

  • Do you live on less than you make? 

  • Do you have at least some change in a jar in your house? An envelope of cash under your mattress? Something?

These are the logical and basic tenets of money management you don’t often hear from those who spout LOA right and left. 

Also, let me say I am a transformational life coach — NOT — a financial coach, teacher, manager, or advisor. This blog isn’t meant to give advice. What I do want you to do is think critically about the information you’re receiving. 

I’ve recently made a game of saving in the past couple weeks.

I’m even keeping a savings diary. I’m heavily into my apps like Ibotta, Stash, and Ebates. I’ve been challenging myself to save as much as I can when I shop for groceries at Whole Foods — because you can now! 

Did you know you can actually save money at Whole Foods? 

Here’s how:

  • Get an Amazon Prime membership for those Prime Member deals. 

  • Use your Square cash card for 5% off each visit (up to $7.50 each hour)

  • Ibotta totally has deals at Whole Foods — I never knew until two weeks ago! 

I am always looking for savings now.

I think it comes from my recent decluttering obsession in which I came face to face with all the crap I owned. I’m trying to steer myself more and more towards minimalism as time goes on. It’s been a “Kon Mari” party in my home for a while. This weekend, I got rid of even more junk I’d been “saving” because “I may need it.” 

Who wants a house full of “just in case” stuff? Not me. I want to live with purpose, like I mean it.

More importantly, I want to enjoy the abundance, security, and stability of a savings account along with a retirement fund. I was a party girl in my 20s and 30s so I lost a lot of years of being able to save money. It’s never too late! Begin where you are and start saving. Nothing can make you feel more abundant daily. 

So go shake those couch cushions… 

Here are some money managing and saving ideas to start with — before you get into a dead end of LOA I see so many jump into: 

Join Ibotta (and if your’e so inclined use my referral code: “acmsron.”) You’ll earn cash back while you shop in the app and then you can cash out or get a gift card. 

Are you Doshing? 

You link your cards in the Dosh app and then earn cash back when you shop at certain places. The app will tell you where to go and even has a map to help you out. For example, I can earn 4% cash back today at Dunkin Donuts! I just started and haven’t used it yet but did earn $5 just for setting up a debit card with Dosh. (Here’s my code if you’re into it: HEATHEL289). 

Don’t shop without Ebates! 

Ok, I hate shopping. But when it’s inevitable I go to buy shoes or clothes, I am checking my Ebates app first. For example, there’s an 8% cash back deal right now on Tarte cosmetics, Hotwire, and up to 10% cashback on Travelocity. I actually haven’t used it yet (because I really do hate shopping) but I may give it a whirl this weekend. 

The Square cash app is my secret weapon. 

I’ve had a Square cash card forever as I’ve been accepting payments through the service for years, ever since I started my Reiki business. Square offers “boosts,” which you have to manually switch before you swipe your card. But in addition to the 5% off at Whole Foods, there’s also $1 off at any coffee shop (which I use way too much), and they just added Door Dash for 15% off each order. 

I think they key here is to remember you’re going to save a little bit here and there. There are a good number of “cash back” shopping options above. 

I am also getting into my Stash app, which earns me “stock back” for my retirement fund.

It’s not a knockout punch. I earned one cent last week running my card on a $5 purchase. But you can automate your savings on Stash so you don’t have to think. Before I knew it, I had $35 in my savings.

My key move right now is to focus on saving tiny bits here and there to train myself to save more. Like any other lifestyle change, my goal is to make saving a longterm habit that I just get better at. 

I’m working to eliminate and and all forms of instant gratification out of my life. What’s the antidote to instant gratification? Creating a long-term savings plan!

I know absolutely nothing about personal finance nor was I taught anything healthy about money growing up. I’m currently rehabbing that — so guess where LOA Monday is going for a little while? 

We are going to start working on rehabbing negative money lessons! Part of this is because I listen to T. Harv Eker almost daily. Another part of this is I’m not the only person cleaning a negative money story. Now that I’ve been working so hard on mine, it really jumps out at me when friends say something crazy.

Next week, we are going to unpack some of those crazy things we say that we actually believe about money. They aren’t true, real, or logical. But we believe them anyway! 

Want a jump start until then?  Then I highly recommend T. Harv Eker’s “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,” or Jen Sincero’s “You Are a Badass at Making Money.” 

#LOAMonday No. 12 -- Manifesting Through Sound

For today's #LOAMonday, let's talk about manifesting through sound.

What?

Yes -- sound! Say it out loud with me! (Insert personal affirmation here).

I've been going through some tough life stuff that was leaving me feeling like my life was a money pit and not at all like I was attracting abundance. I had a ton of unusual expenses in the past month like a huge electric bill, new contact lenses, dental problems, oral surgery, and vet bills. Sadly, my kitty wouldn't make it and I had to make a tough choice to euthanize him rather than have him suffer.

I've said it before on my #LOAMonday blogs -- the most important thing we can do to be better manifesters is to grab hold of the right feeling. I can repeat the affirmations all I want but I still have to become an energetic match for what I want to attract into my life.

I was feeling pretty low in the middle of all this when a friend told me I needed to listen to a specific audio recording with the right frequency to attract abundance.

She sent me the link to this video and I listened to it:

And I listened to it. And I listened some more. I started to listen to it while I slept. It's exactly 11:11:11 long, for those of us angel numbers geeks.

Within a week of listening to this, I attracted in a decent windfall that was better than I even asked for!

It was life-changing.

It brought me out of the doldrums immediately and not just for the dollar amount. I felt loved and taken care of all at once. What I'd been stressing about since mid-April with one expense popping up after another was totally eliminated.

It was a great reminder that stress is always unnecessary and the Universe always provides.

So listen to the above audio. Stop stressing and meditate on becoming an energetic match to what you desire! Speak your affirmations out loud. Use your voice and make sounds. It can be a mantra like "om." But it needs to be a nice sound like that...no grunting, groaning, heavy sighing, complaining, or Negative Nancy/Debbie Downer type sounds.

Sound.

What are you vibrating to? What are you listening to? Is it pop music with curse words and talk of guns, violence, sex, and drugs? Or are you listening to something positive? Are you watching a ton of TV and being bombarded with advertisements? Are you watching violent movies? Or are you into more vapid fare like those "housewives" or "keeping up" shows?

If we only spent more time "keeping up" with our own energetic vibration! We can change our circumstances and then ripple out to those around us. Think about it.

That's why I do this...

And no, I don't watch TV. I don't have cable. I don't have a single subscription service to Netflix, Hulu, etc. I really do listen to these audios like the one I shared above. I listen to Reiki music, "spa music," as I call it, ASMR, and Kirtan to keep vibrating high. I also listen to my share of popular music.

Hello! I have worked in radio since 1998! Music is a huge part of my life! I have autographed Korn and Rob Zombie albums hanging on my walls at home. I get it! I love me some Post Malone and Halsey sometimes... But I make sure that's the "dessert" or "junk food." My musical meals will have more substance and my sounds remain wholesome.

Also, I totaled up all my LOA Mondays so far and realized this will technically be the 12th one, so I'll start numbering them correctly from here on out. Hey -- the only numbers I'm good at are angel numbers!

#LOAMonday No. 9: You don’t need a reason to succeed, but if you insist…  

Here’s the thing: you don’t need a reason to succeed. You don’t need a reason to be OK with attracting all your wildest dreams and prosperity. 

You don’t have to be anything. You don’t have to do anything first. You don’t have to look a certain way. You don’t have to be someone’s expectation. 

You don’t need all that. To get into the Law of Attraction, you simply have to believe you deserve it. You don’t have to be perfect. Conditions don’t have to optimal first. 

But I will give you a reason anyway.

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We need you…

To be you!

Do you want to know what that reason is as to why you can just be alright with attracting ALL the abundance through the Law of Attraction? 

We need you to be OK with it because we need your gifts. It’s not about you. It’s about the world. The world needs your gifts. The world needs you to contribute and will reward you handsomely. 

We have been waiting for you to make the thing. We have been waiting for you to bring your voice. We want the sunlight to shine on your purpose. We want you to win, crush it — whatever you want to call it. 

Change the world with your purpose. People will pay for it. People will buy your thing because they appreciate the problem it solves for them. 

It’s time to share your brilliance with the world. We need it. We need you to get off your ass and share your greatness. The rewards will come… 

LOA Monday #7: It's book club time, can we become millionaires in a minute?

Just a quick #LOAMonday today!

I am blogging on my lunch break. I just started a new (to me) book last night that a friend loaned me. It’s called The One Minute Millionaire.

The book talks about “ahas” or what we called in my coaching classes at SWIHA, “A-ha moments.” If you’ve been coached by me, you know you get to have LOTS of a-has moments!

The book has a website that lists the ahas if you want to check it out.

If you study the law of attraction as I do, you may have heard of some of these before. My favorite over the years was taught to me by my Aunt Lori, who is a religious science minister. That one is the phrase and belief that, “I am a money magnet!” I say this whenever I receive money, even pennies.

Especially pennies!

I’ll blog more on those a-ha moments later. I’m thinking of doing either some Instagram or Facebook lives as well. If you’re reading the book you can join in! Follow me on Twitter & Instagram @heatherlarson. The Facebook page is here.

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A-ha!

You mean I can become a millionaire in a minute? Get the book here.

#LOA Monday #6: Ruminations on spiritual paths — can LOA be akin to 12-step routes to wellness?

LOA is meant to be a spiritual path.

Why? Because we start thinking of something larger than ourselves. We start to work with spiritual tools / ideas like faith, tithing, “paying it forward” and surrender.

I’ve seen it all the time working in the addiction field where people come in wanting to change and many tell me they feel spirituality is the only way they can do it. In this way, choosing LOA as a way to live is similar to choosing a 12-step or church-oriented program in order to obtain and sustain recovery. 

In both cases, it is choosing a spiritual path to create lasting change.

Isn’t that what we are doing when we engage in law of attraction activities? In LOA, we want to change our thinking. That’s the same task we undertake in addiction recovery — we have to change our thinking. LOA gives us a spiritual path with spiritual tools to do that. 

I wouldn’t recommend LOA for addiction treatment. (Duh!) But most people do want a way to change their way of thinking. We want to change our habits — either we want to create new ones of our choosing or eliminate those that no longer serve us. Habit change requires a thinking change. Changing our brains is never easy. It takes work. 

So in addiction recovery we are choosing to eliminate addictive behaviors like obsessive sex, shopping, gambling, eating and substance abuse. (Or any combo thereof). The way is clear: addiction is bad, living clean is good. 

What are we trying to get rid of then when we choose to engage in the law of attraction? Poverty and lack. 

Isn’t it all the same? 

Could LOA be our spiritual path to recovering from poverty and and a lack mindset? Meaning LOA is to poverty and lack as spirituality is to addiction? 

I’m asking because I’m meditating on this today. If we didn’t want to make changes in our lives, there wouldn’t be books about habits, addiction treatment centers, and a sea of information online about how to attract better things into our lives through LOA. 

I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments! 

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What do you think?

Sound off in the comments!

LOA Monday #4: Law of Attraction in practice — creating an LOA Journal for yourself

Journaling is my favorite thing to do in my downtime for self-care. I’m so obsessed with bullet journaling, stickers, washi tape, stencils, fine liner pens and brush pens for lettering… My mom was into calligraphy when I was little, so maybe I’m turning into my mother.

My LOA journal started simply and I’m going to share it with you how here.

The two things you need are some kind of pen and a notebook — it doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive to start out. I got my current one at Michael’s (2 for $5) and a set of fine liner pens for less than $20 with a coupon (and a super rad cashier).

My current habit with my LOA journal is to center on three things:

  • Gratitude
  • Forgiveness
  • Affirmations
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I start by making the gratitude list, then the forgiveness list, and finally the affirmations.

The journal helps me find clarity. Over time, I see the affirmations I am repeating over the days and weeks. I see then what my heart’s truest desires are — and I do the work to honor those. One thing that has manifested for me over the summer is great health. But it did so in the strangest way! One day we thought I was passing a kidney stone, then we suspected cancer, and then it turned out none of those things were true. I’d become a medical mystery to the doctors. But to me, I was at home in my LOA journal affirming over and over, “I AM HEALTHY!”


(At the time, nothing in my life was pointing towards me being healthy. I even began looking into work-from-home jobs and disability).

Ultimately, it turns out my spine is getting the better of my internal organs due to my scoliosis. The human body is amazing like that. It was like my shadow self was trying to convince me I was NOT healthy but I knew in my heart that I AM HEALTHY!

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You can start with the tiniest notebook to make your lists or the fanciest bullet journal you buy — or create. As always, remember LOA is about creating a feeling. It’s about being in the vibration that attracts your desires, which we can get into by visualizing it as if we already have it.

Gratitude, forgiveness, and affirmation lists are great LOA tools. They are part of a muscle we use and flex each day in an LOA practice. It’s like weight lifting — for your vibration. It’s calisthenics for your energy field.

LOA Monday #3: How Can I Use the Law of Attraction?

Welcome to another LOA Monday!

Check out #LOAMonday #1 here and #2 here.

Now that we went over the why, let’s go over the how.

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I like to refer to the Law of Attraction as a practice.

I feel like everything has a learning curve. To implement lifetime changes that will stick, we need to practice. Practice implies consistent and repeated action to the best of our ability. It will get easier over time.

We will get better over time.

I also want to offer a word of caution. I think I already made my point clear about how The Secret may do more harm than good when interpreted incorrectly. I want to make it clear today that coaching, spirituality, and spiritual coaching (which is how I coach but not all I do) are all about more than #LOA.

I am providing #LOAMonday as a tool to help inspire you to do the work. It’s when you get into a rut doing the work that you call on me as a coach. The work is not optional — we are all here to do it!

My caution is inspired by recent events with friends online. Friends of mine old and new who have gone in on fraudulent spiritual teachers.  I think I’ll make a separate post on that to honor that appropriately...

Until then, have a great Monday! Believe you already have what you desire -- it's how you change your conscious thought to be in the vibration to attract it!