Fearless 5 Podcast #15 Show Notes

The Fearless 5 Podcast…

…is 5 episodes a week of 5 (or likely more) minutes each designed to give you a fearless way to start your day. All the podcasts are uploaded for the week on Sundays and the show notes are posted on weekdays. You can listen to it on Anchor here.

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Really big fears

Talk to your fears — and don’t be nice.

Listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #15 here.

What is holding you back from applying for the job you want? This is where we can really dig into “Fear in the Field.” No matter what your field is — mine is obviously media — I am betting you have some fears. 

We aren’t going to talk about the petty stuff, like, “What will this job change mean for my schedule.” 

Let’s talk about the really big fears. 

You aren’t applying for that job because the constructs of society tell you you’re not enough. You have too many gaps in your resume or you need a college degree to get ahead… Which, honestly — means nothing in modern life and today’s economy. I wish I could return my college degree and get my credit score back. We all have gaps in our resumes and they are easily — and confidently — explained with some coaching. (I did this daily with clients when I did social work). 

I have literally coached ex-cons and former drug dealers on how to deal with such questions in job interviews. Ever been a drug addict on the streets for years? Selling crack isn’t a job skill. Sales managers aren’t going to hire you for that. Even Jay-Z knew that, hence he became a rapper. But we all can’t be Jay-Z. 

So when it comes to getting on your feet and getting rid of the Fear in the Field, talk to it. Say, “Hello, Fear. I see you’re hanging around. But you’re full of lies. I don’t believe you. I will prove you wrong, or at least try to. I AM good enough, I do have enough experience, and even if I don’t — I’m applying for this job. I am going to the audition. In fact, I’m going to leave you at home now, bye.” 

Then do your thing. Do it imperfectly. What’s the worst thing that can happen? So what if you do it wrong? They aren’t going to eat you or take away your first born. ALL that matters is you learn from the process of trying. Learn from the audition or job interview. I started vlogging and don’t know a thing about it. We can all laugh about that at a later date… Point is, I tried. And I keep trying. I hope you do, too. 

Fearless 5 Podcast #14 Show Notes

I know so many people who want to know all the answers before taking action. Life doesn’t work that way. 

You truly have to do things, screw them up, and then try again. 

I’m being serious. Listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #14 here.

Fear of doing it wrong means you’ll just never do it. You’re so afraid to do it because you think you have to have it perfect the first time out. If you wait for you to know how to do it perfectly, you may as well kiss it goodbye. Perfection keeps you stuck. 

The topic this week is “Fear in the Field.” Keep the perfection out of the field. 

Most of us who are entrepreneurs have no idea what we are doing or how we are going to do it. I don’t bring the fear into the field, whether it’s when I’m coaching, reporting, or running my business. If I don’t know how to do something, I reach out to someone, Google it, YouTube it, or buy a damn book about it. Or I just do it and screw it up and learn from it. I mess it up until I get it right. There are no mistakes — unless you don’t learn from it. 

One year, I applied for 92 jobs before I landed the 93rd one. It took me ALL of 2010 to get that job. I started it in January 2011 — and that was coming out of some bad economic times. But it changed my life in all the ways I wanted it changed. So it was worth it. 

I’ve coached a lot of job searchers. Let’s get into that tomorrow… 

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There is NO

such thing as perfect.

There now, do you feel better?

Fearless 5 Podcast #11 Shownotes

Check out the Fearless 5 Podcast Shownotes on the blog every Monday-Friday! The blog uploads on Anchor on Sundays. I upload ALL the episodes for you for the entire week so you can use them how you wish!

You can also listen on Spotify, Google Podcasts, RadioPublic, and PocketCasts (at this time with more to be added soon).

~Coach Heather Larson — Certified Transformational Life Coach

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Week 3

It’s already week 3 of the Fearless 5 Podcast! Here’s episode #11!

Fearless 5 Podcast #11

This week’s topic is, “Fear in the Field!” 

Do you want a random topic each day, or do you like this “topic of the week” format I did last week and am doing again this week? Which do you prefer? I may mix it up next week… Let me know in the comments!

“Fear in the Field” is inspired by real-life events. Talking about fear on the Fearless 5 podcast is one thing, but what happens when the podcast is over and you walk out the door? What happens when you are taking action steps towards your dreams? FEAR. And this is cheesy and cliche, but fear has a couple meanings: Fear Everything And Run — or — Face Everything And Rise. 

So which is it? Which one do you want it to be?

There’s also False Evidence Appearing Real. (Enough with the acronyms now).

I’m not saying your fears aren’t valid. I’m just saying feel the fear but do it anyway. Don’t let your fears win. Don’t let them run you or make you feel like you are less than. Make the voice of your higher self stronger than the voice of your fears. Your fears are full of lies anyway. 

Last week, as a journalist, I went to interview people at the “American Idol” auditions where I live — in Wichita, KS. I’ve covered “American Idol” off and on since 2002; I attended the finale shows in 2002 and 2003. This show was a HUGE deal then — back when we had crappy Nokia phones, texting was new, and Twitter was still a twinkle in Jack Dorsey’s eye. BUT — I had never gotten to go to American Idol auditions as a reporter before, so 2002 Me was psyched! 

Knowing I’d want to talk to people in line about the subject of fear for this podcast, I asked every single person if they were afraid. Every single person said, “Yes!” How intimidating for a singer and musician, am I right? All your dreams hang on the few minutes you’re about to get before one of the “American Idol” producers! I know there are people who go to “American Idol” auditions and get stage fright. I’m sure if it were me, I’d have the biggest wet circles around my armpits. Gross. (I used to be terrified to sing in front of other people and maybe I’ll tell that story on next week’s Fearless 5 Podcast).

But Kelly Clarkson didn’t didn’t freeze up. She walked up to those producers and tried out like a damn diva and owned her talent. She walked up there empowered, I’m sure. I don’t know this for a fact. But I think it’s pretty obvious things worked out for her. But I wish I could go back to interview early-aughts Kelly and chat about fear… 

This week, let’s talk about conquering your fear in the field. Whether “the field” is an “American Idol” audition, job interview, going on a date, starting something new… We manage our fears in the field. We manage them by taking action, so we manage them in motion. Our feet are off the ground and we are moving. We are either moving forward or we aren’t. 

On podcast 12 (tomorrow), let’s hear from someone who ROCKED their “American Idol” audition… 

Fearless 5 Podcast Shownotes #9: Who are they?

Ok, who are “They?”

This is what we get into in Fearless 5 Podcast #9, which you can listen to here on Anchor. We just got added to PocketCasts; the podcast is also on Spotify, Google Podcasts, and RadioPublic. Not bad for being 10 episodes in! Each Fearless 5 Podcast is a mini-coaching session.

So, seriously, who are “They?”

You tell me! 

What is this, a life coach paradoxical, mind blast, you ask? Meh. Maybe. 

“They” are the voices in your head. 

“They” tell you what you should do, be, have. 

“They” are the voices of the people who raised you. 

“They” are the voices of society that tell you Netflix is a social connector and you’re weird for not having it.

“They” are your bosses or coworkers who are “happy” where they are. 

Chances are, if you’ve found THIS podcast, THIS life coach, and THIS website — 

You’re pretty tired of “them.” 

“They” are advertisers, marketers, and any other media message that tells you to consume. 

(I know, ironic when you realize I have been in the media since the 1990s in some capacity, year after year).

I’m going to tell you to do something different with your time today. I don’t want you to consume today (except for this podcast, ha!) 

Today, I want you to CREATE. 

Create another TV-free day and night. If you aren’t passively consuming for once, who are you? Don’t identify yourself with the labels like, “I’m Marvel not DC,” or “I’m Star Trek not Star Wars,” or “There are two kinds of people, Game of Thrones fans and…” 

Who are YOU? With unlimited time and NO TV, what do you create? Walks in nature? Time for fitness? Are you creating a blog (that’s what I did). Are you creating that business plan for the dream business you own and run that gets you out of working for other people? With evenings free, do you take a class? Any class — a college class, an online class, a class at your local library or recreation center… 

What PASSION do you pursue with extra time? 

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Get more fearless

Pursue your passion.

Because pursuing passion takes time. It takes energy. Maybe it’s a local softball team or a salsa dance class. Maybe you need a trip to Guitar Center. Maybe you want to go back to school. 

Do that thing you want to do and stop letting the constructs of society hold you back. 

How will you spend your evening tonight? 

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It’s a scary amount isn’t it? 

Time is money, and money is energy. 

You just figured out how much of YOURS goes to sitting and consuming. Sitting and watching. 

Now TV isn’t the enemy and we all have guilty pleasures. I’m not saying TV is the devil. Once in a while, I watch YouTube, but I am conscious about what I consume. I like to watch independent artists like myself, people who can benefit from me clicking “subscribe” or “thumbs up,” and people like myself who CREATE and aren’t household names and who I can support on Patreon even. 

Does Jennifer Aniston or Andrew Lincoln need my support? Nope. Does Ali Spagnola? YES! And you’ll love her videos too, if you go check them out. 

So now that we know how much time, money, and energy goes to your TV habit…and maybe even you went a night without TV or Netflix and didn’t die, let’s really get some things figured out. 

Were you shocked by how much TV or screen time you spend? 

Can we agree you can probably cut back a few hours a week? 

And can we also agree that — in order to be fearless — you can not only cut back a few hours but DEDICATE those hours to something better? Like following a DREAM!?!?!?!?!?!

See, they want you to be numb. They don’t want you to follow your dream. They want you to be numbed with addictive screen behaviors, binge watching, and Standard American Diet eating…they want you to work your 40-hour-a-week job you hate with benefits. They want you sleeping. They want you complacent. They don’t want you putting your energy towards your dreams or pushing against the walls that hold you in. And yes, TV is one of those walls. It boxes you in and they like it that way. 

Who is “they?” We’ll identify “them” tomorrow. 

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Fearless 5 Podcast #7 Show Notes

So since it’s Tuesday, technically this would be the day of this week you would listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #7 — IF you are listening to them each weekday as I designed them.

But, it’s totally OK if you do them all in a day, skip a day, or whatever. I make them for you to use however you want for your own personal growth. We know personal development doesn’t happen on schedule. It happens when you’re moved to make it happen. It happens when you make space for it. So, you do you, Destiny Architect. Just remember — YOU are the architect of your own destiny.

If I posted all the show notes at once like I do the podcast, the blog would be a hot mess. It’s also time consuming. So I’m posting them 1-2 per day during the week.

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This week

The Fearless 5 Podcasts should make you think, make you mad, and challenge you.

Here’s the show notes for Fearless 5 Podcast #7:

Listen to it here, on Anchor.

Hello, there. How did your TV-free night go? How did you fill your time? Did you work on your dream instead? Did you catch up with a friend? Did you sleep or go to the gym to escape a quiet house? Did you spend time with loved ones? Did you “watch a movie” because, “Technically, that’s not something Coach Heather said I had to give up…” HA! 

How you responded to the challenge says a lot about where you are, what you’re ready for, and what you’re willing to do in order to live a fearless life. Sit with that today. Did you dive in or did you make an excuse? Did you whine? Did you give a cop out? You know what you did. You know how you responded. Now what? 

Most people can’t sit with the silence of not having a TV on or Netflix to watch. Most of society works, comes home, eats the Standard American Diet, and thing binge watches something on a screen until bed time. Now, it’s multiple screens. You’ve got Netflix on while you surf on your iPad and “connect” via social media. 

If you’re the person who eats the SAD and goes full-zombie in front of a TV nightly, I may not be the coach for you. Unless you’re tired of that life, in which case, I am EXACTLY the coach for you. 

Society has pressured you into that lifestyle where you are over-connected and yet feeling completely unconnected and not at all fulfilled. I realized this last week, when someone asked me if I watch Netflix. I said no, I don’t watch TV. You should have seen their face! They looked at me like I was a lepper! Like they were thinking, “OMG what a puritanical crazy woman!” 

Perhaps, I am actually the sane one here. Here’s 3 steps to take: 

  1. How much are you paying for cable, internet, and “services” like Netflix. Write down the total dollar amount. 

  2. Now, look at how much your job pays you and how much you have to work to pay for the above. 

  3. Next, total up how much time you spend watching and consuming. How much time on screens. Are there two screens at once? More than that? 

That’s today’s challenge. Evaluate how much time, energy, and money goes into your “TV” habit. 

Listen to Fearless 5 Podcast #7 here.

At this time, it’s on Anchor, Spotify, RadioPublic, and Google Podcasts.

Fearless 5 Podcast #6 Show Notes

All the Fearless 5 podcasts are up for the week on Anchor, Spotify, Google Podcasts, and RadioPublic. You can check ‘em out daily this week or all at once — it’s your choice — here on Anchor.

This week, there is a theme. I’m asking you to do something most people can’t or won’t do because they find it terrifying. This is exactly why I hope you do it and play along with me!

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Five minutes (or likely more) of FEARLESSNESS for your workweek!

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Today, we’ll talk about unpacking & dissecting your fears — and your first challenge.

After much thought, I don’t know that I can help you unpack and dissect your fears in five minutes. But since I know I’m an amazing coach, let’s try. I’m making this podcast for the digital age — the no-attention-span-having and yet glued-to-a-screen age. 

Let’s begin with a challenge and the first thing you’re afraid of: SACRIFICE. 

What can you sacrifice in order to make a dream come true? 

I’m not saying you HAVE TO sacrifice anything in order to make your dreams come true. I’m just saying that I do this. It works for me only because I am WILLING to sacrifice certain things I like in order to obtain things I LOVE. I may like having X, but I don’t need it, and if I give it up — even for a bit — it may get me to Y faster. Sacrifice has always worked for me to obtain my dreams. Either I sacrifice money or time, or whatever it is. 

Fact is, we face economic trade offs. 

I prefer to put all my extra money into my business. This turned into me wanting more of that “extra money.” So I decided to give up some things. Sounds simple, right? 

Well, what if I tell you I gave up some things I enjoyed? But in comparison to my dream of being a business owner and, therefore, my own boss, those things paled in comparison? 

I’m talking about watching TV. I gave up watching TV so I could concentrate on my dreams. I’ve gotten amazing results and I don’t give a crap what’s on Netflix. I’ve gotten so much father so much quicker from spending my “TV time” on my business! 

So today, just for today, ONE DAY, I’m asking you to give up TV, Netflix, Hulu, Showtimes, HBO — whatever. Do NOT sit in front of a screen like a zombie tonight. 

Work on your dream instead. 

More on this tomorrow — and all week!