Let's talk Patreon -- membership tiers & whatcha get + why I did it!

I’m doing a content blitz tonight on Patreon. Have you checked it out yet? Do it!

https://www.patreon.com/DestinyArchitecture

The purpose of providing life coaching & Reiki on Patreon is to give YOU options for getting involved in this personal development lifestyle I live. Do you love anything metaphysical and want to get your feet wet with anything about chakras & meditation? I’ve got you! There’s a tier for that.

Want to get more serious and start doing some personal development work? I make PDFs and podcasts for that EXCLUSIVE to Patreon! The PDF and podcast I uploaded to the Patron for July is about leveling up your abundance practice and make the podcast all about that. This isn’t stuff I’m posting on here for free or for sale! This is for Patrons only.

Yes, I have that much content to put out into the world. I know things get better with coaching and Reiki. That’s why I want to spread it to the world.

Here’s a brief breakdown of the Patreon membership levels and what they get you:

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$3/mo

*Patron-only blog posts

*Monthly podcast

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$10/mo

All the above plus:

*monthly downloadable coaching PDF exclusive to Patrons.

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$20/mo

All the above plus:

*A thank-you tweet

*Monthly Q&A

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$35/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*The Artist’s Way Course!

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$50/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*A monthly distance Reiki session of 30 minutes!

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$130/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*A private coaching session with me monthly!

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$250/mo

ALL the above, plus:

*The MASTERMIND for Destiny Architects with a monthly teleconference and access to a private Slack group.

The first reason for the Patreon is to offer coaching & Reiki at affordable rates for Patrons.

You give me patronage for my creations in coaching & Reiki — downloadable PDFs, podcasts, blogs, Q&A, and a ton of other content I’m creating. I create, you pay me, and we all reap the benefits. It’s an old idea brought back to life for the current times — that of Patronage.

The second reason for the Patreon is to have support while i write my Reiki ebook

There are so many creators on Patreon making the coolest stuff! I follow writers, YouTube creators, and podcasters, for example.

So I’m going to write a Reiki ebook! You’re going to be a part of it (as much as you want to be). Different tiers on the Patreon give you different benefits for helping me with the book — whether through your patronage, your feedback — or both. Get advance content from the book, acknowledgements, feedback opportunities, and even FREE copies of the book once it’s done.

Your Patronage will help me pay for the book cover, editing, and all the help I need to complete it and get it online. Basically, you’re helping me fund the creation of my book. But you totally benefit! Are you a Patreon or an angel? I consider you both!

I’ve been adding content to the Patreon all night in a “content blitz” I’ve been on for more than just tonight. This month’s download and podcast are up, too. There are also polls you can take. When you do them, you are totally contributing to the book already.

Tomorrow, keep an eye out for a special offer just for Patrons!

Top Destiny Architecture Life Coaching & Reiki blogs of June

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Anyone want some Reiki next week? Hit me up! ~Heather Larson, Life Coach & Reiki Master

Anyone want some Reiki next week? Hit me up! ~Heather Larson, Life Coach & Reiki Master

Top life coaching & Reiki blogs loved by Destiny Architects in June 2019:

As we are halfway through July (and a ghastly Mercury Retrograde), it’s more than past time for me to give you a round up of last month’s posts.

#5: Resiliency!

This first post was #5 on the popularity list, but it was still a big deal when I posted it. I may have to spend a little more time on the subject of resiliency for you, what do you think? Let me know in the comments! 

5. The Bounce Back: How to get out of your own way and become more resilient

Onto popular post No. 4: 

Victimhood wasn’t your friend last month, the month before, this month — get it? NEVER! You cannot live in congruency with your goals of living an abundant life when you play the victim. Recognize it, acknowledge it, and move past it. That’s what we are all about, Destiny Architects — leveling up. Your prosperity will level up when you stop playing the victim. If you aren’t sure if you are…read on: 

4. #LOAMonday No. 13: Victimhood is NOT your friend

Onto #3…Summer lifestyle guide: I won’t say much about this one.

Overnight, the school supplies moved into the stores and my sports nut friends are already talking rabidly about football. But summer isn’t over! I will cling to it for all that’s left! 

3. Ways to celebrate summer 2019 and make it the best yet

Second most popular is that vlog I did about the Self Journal!

Hey, thanks for voting this one up with your page views! This item is a daily constant in my life. So if this video made you try it, let me know. I would love to know how it made a difference for you in your planning/journaling life. 

I still have a discount for you too: 

https://bestself.co/products/self-journal?variant=18866392563781

Use the code HeatLar for 15% off your purchase! 

(Yes, I benefit if you click through and purchase through my link at no extra cost to you). 

2. Vlog #7: I'm in love with the Best Self Co planner -- The Self Journal

Annnnnnd #1…I can’t even believe it?!

THIS was the one y’all looked at most last month. Which is funny to me because I thought no one would care. And then this happened. And then I booked someone for a Reiki session at White Dove. So Reiki is BACK in Wichita for me, Destiny Architects! Woot! 

The name is still dead though. Ha! It’s no longer “You Deserve Reiki” as I feel led to lay that name to rest and move us into something a little more, shall I say, 2020… 

I’m actually going to make some NEW Reiki flyers to put out at White Dove. (Probably next week). But the new flyers won’t have the new name. For now, I am offering Reiki sessions under the umbrella of “Destiny Architecture.” 

More to come! 

1. .So...I was thinking about starting a Reiki practice again in Wichita

Thanks for voting with your page views. Remember, you can always comment or submit a form to get at me. And yes, this is Heather Larson writing this and reading your comments. This business is still a one-woman show…for now. 

I’m hoping to employ the nieces and nephews in the future (f they want jobs doing e-commerce and social media for Destiny Architecture, that is). 

So please remember this is a woman-owned family business in Wichita, KS. What this means for you is your feedback is appreciated, welcomed, honored, listened to — and treasured!

Thank you for being here. You are literally my first fans and are on the leading edge of something I promise will be huge. I’ve worked on this like a HONEY BADGER for three years now. I know this because I was just sent a reminder that this domain is renewing! 

THREE YEARS! 

Holy wow! Holy special sauce! Thank YOU for being my reader. 

Thank you 1,000 times! 

The best is yet to come for us all! 

Remember, YOU are the architect of your own destiny! 

~Coach Heather 

The time has come to focus on research-supported Reiki information & more

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Hard work often includes 2/3 of the above pictured items when it comes to this blog.

My goal as a coach and Reiki Master with a journalism background is to always bring you the best content I possibly can. 

From this point forward, I am going to start sharing any and all research on Reiki I can find. 

I'll be offering Scientifically-supported Reiki teachings from this point forward. I've done a ton of Reiki sessions and shares. I've taught Reiki to many. But not one of those classes or sessions mentioned science. 


So let's change this. 

Science is important to me. Science is life. Literally. 

In 2004, my life was forever changed when my mother died. Not only was her passing explosive, but what further blew my life apart was finding out she was killed by a genetic neurodegenerative disease there is no cure for (yet). It's called Cruetzfeldt-Jakob Disease, or CJD. I was so shook by this experience, I began a very uncensored internet presence about it and then a blog.

In 2013, I chose to get sober. I had quit using drugs in 2001, but this time I was going to quit drinking booze for good. And I did. I have succeeded. I've been sober since 7-1-13. But I didn't go to treatment, or "rehab" as many call it. I attended 12-step programs and hired therapists. I went to church. I began to know God. I tried Christianity, Buddhism, NA, AA, and Refuge Recovery. I was the biggest 12-stepper and Al-Anon freak you ever would have met six years ago.

But there was absolutely no scientific basis behind any of my recovery. 

What I know from the past several years is Reiki works. Abstinence from mind-altering substance use/abuse works (for me). Not using mind-altering substances and changing my behavior works. Adopting new ways of living and coping to be healthy works. I'm happier, more productive, and successful than I have ever been in my life. 

But what I can't tell you is how all this stuff works! 

This needs to change. No one should be giving out information that isn’t proven to work by science. So today, I threw out my AA “Big Book,” into the trash, where it belongs. Happy independence day to me!

I want to change the lack of science and proof in the Reiki/coaching field from here on out. I want to share what is scientifically supported for both Reiki and sobriety (I hesitate to use the word “recovery” as I am currently reading The Freedom Model). 

I'm not going to tell you it works and hope you believe me. I'm not a charlatan. I want to find the research that shows what's working and how. I want to stop doing what research isn’t supporting to be true while, at the same time, adding in what science proves to work well.

I want you to get the best here and I never want you to think you're wasting your time. 

I know I get results in what I do as a coach and I know this by experience. Now, I want to find the science to show why it works and I want to apply it. 

This is my promise to you -- that this is going to get better. The quality of information here is going to increase steadily. I don't want you to buy into Reiki and sobriety without knowing how it will benefit you. 

When I say this is happening from this moment forward, I truly mean I am just now starting to look into the research and digest it for you. Reading studies is boring. Why would you? But I, however, am just the sort of geek who will enjoy digging in and regurgitating it to you in a way that doesn't suck. 

Please tell me what you’d love to know about Reiki — and I’ll answer and look for research about it. Let me know in the comments!

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The Reiki Room

At White Dove in Wichita, KS. This is where I do Reiki.

Reasons to join the Destiny Architecture Patreon community

Need a reason to become a Patron? I have a few for you:

  • I’ve made it affordable for you, not just in money — but in time, too. Join for between $3-250/mo. The low tier is for those just starting out and the high tier is for those who want to jump into the mastermind.

  • You get to become a part of the Reiki ebook I am starting to write. Yes, you can have a shout-out in the book. But I really want your opinions and experiences too! (Right now I am in the research and outline phase).

  • You get to be part of a community I am calling in. If you are looking for like minds, I am looking for you. If you love a blend of coaching, Reiki, creativity, LOA, and spirituality, I am your coach!

  • There will be group coaching! I’ve done group coaching for years as a sober coach running pre-treatment groups. I love and thrive in this setting as a coach! Imagine what the group can do for you.

  • Benefit from a coach who has spent a decade honing her personal development practice; who has spent more than four years coaching street addicts; and who is also certified in coaching by the Southwest Institute of the Healing Arts — an actual college certified by the Arizona Board of Regents.

Here’s a price listing so you can see how low you can join for and start up-leveling your life with the coaching I’m creating for you on Patreon.

To learn more about the Mastermind level, check that out here.

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A return to Reiki 

I never really left Reiki in my own life, it’s always been there.

But I did leave my Reiki business. I stopped going to the store where I offered Reiki sessions -- White Dove in Wichita, Kansas. I stopped doing them in person in Wichita at all. I offered them online-only, wanting to concentrate more on my distance Reiki offerings and adding Reiki to my coaching sessions. 

I have never offered Reiki attunements online and firmly believe anyone who does is cheating you. You’ll get a certificate but you’re cheated of the experience. (I’ve already blogged about this years ago here). 

This website/blog and its coaching services have been my focus for almost three years now! 

I decided I’d put all my Reiki energy into writing a Reiki ebook. I figured I’d just stop offering in-person Reiki sessions and classes for a while. Instead, I’d sit on my meditation cushion with my laptop and let the book happen. I wanted to offer something new (and I still will in time) before I would open up my local Reiki business again. 

Make plans, the Universe laughs

But then someone wanted a Reiki session in Wichita, and I said “yes” to the Reiki and to the guidance of the Universe. I just did a session two weekends ago! Yes! 

I asked for a sign, waited, didn’t get it, so I moved on. Then, the Universe reminded me signs are on her timing and not mine… haha 

So I guess I’m offering Reiki again at White Dove! 

This is not to say there won’t be changes up ahead. That’s the adventure of life. 

My schedule is insane at the moment and will likely remain that way through at least half of July, if not this entire month. I’ll keep updating my availability on my Acuity page here

I’m also adding it to the bottom of this post for your convenience as well.

When you purchase a service (Reiki or coaching session) on this website in the store, it doesn’t let you pick a block of time on my schedule like the Acuity link does, so expect some emailing back and forth with me. 

When you purchase a downloadable PDF here on the site, it sends you a link to your download that is good for 24 hours. 

If you are interested in Reiki or Coaching sessions, but have more questions, just let me know. I have some freedom this month, but won’t be able to honor last-minute requests.

This is as close to “making plans” as I’m going to get because the Universe has NOT stopped laughing at me! 

I am hoping to come up with Reiki hours at White Dove so that I can become consistent in my offerings there. I just have no idea what they will be or when that will start. I’m going to just say I hope to make them afternoon hours…Is that broad enough? 

More to come…

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Sale! 50% off life coaching & Reiki purchases of $50 or more

Early sale!

I couldn’t wait to put this sale up in my Square Market. Why wait for Black Friday?

You can get two life sessions for $100 right now, which you can totally use now or later. Use one now heading into Thanksgiving, use another one to debrief after all the stress has passed…use it however you want!

Why an early sale?

  • It’s never to early to get a jump on holiday shopping.

  • But I hate shopping in stores, so you can do this from your couch.

  • Start your 2019 game plan right now with me — your professional, certified, transformational life coach!

  • We can totally dig into your next vision board now.

  • If you’re like me, you don’t do Thanksgiving but you like a half-off sale. Here it is!

  • You can use it for yourself or give a gift — I’m not here to judge!

  • Buy Reiki sessions to help you through the holidays with your family and all the stress/pressure that comes along with…

  • This is an excellent time to turn within and revisit your goals, take stock of the year’s progress, and decide where to go next.

  • It’s Mercury Retrograde, so it’s the best time for a Reiki session and/or a coaching session.

Gratitude is a year-round event for Destiny Architects. It’s a daily practice. Let’s move forward with excellent coaching and Reiki sessions this holiday season!

Gratitude is a year-round event for Destiny Architects. It’s a daily practice. Let’s move forward with excellent coaching and Reiki sessions this holiday season!

Exciting News! I will be adding additional coaching hours soon! 

I’m working on some things that will expand my coaching hours so I can serve you better. It’s been eight years since I took a huge leap of faith — which turned out amazing. I am feeling called to make a jump again. 

I’m available now evenings and weekends for life coaching and distance Reiki sessions. (No more early morning hours at this time). You can schedule with me in my available times here on the scheduling page or at this link. These show my currently available times.

Expanding my availability for you to have more coaching sessions 

Here’s the only catch right now. I don’t know when my schedule will open up further. I also don’t know what days/times will become available. As much as I am the architect of my own destiny…I have to wait on a few things to move. And they will. 

Guess what else this means? 

I’ll be expanding my entire coaching business! This means more content will become available to you soon. There will be more classes, more distance Reiki sessions, more podcasts, more lives on Instagram and Facebook for you… 

If you love personal development, get ready to have an expansive 2019 with Destiny Architecture! 

I’ve long told my clients to take the leap of faith.

It worked for me before and I’m about to do it again. I love it. I love the rush, I love following my heart, and I love listening to Spirit lead me. I’m telling you this to take you along on the trip. (The word “journey” is overused and, if you’ve met me, you know everything is a “trip.” I’m a trip, life is a trip). 

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Book online with me! I added new coaching & Reiki services!

New for summer

I wanted to make coaching more simple and affordable for summer break as I was inspired by an educator friend who has the summer off and wants to make the most of her time.

I created options for those who really want to grow with multiple sessions -- but who are on a budget.

A life coaching session a week for an entire month won't cost more than $250. If you want two sessions a week of coaching for a month, it's $600. That is it! If you want to get intense and have unlimited coaching and Reiki all month long, it's going to be $1,000, which is a great price for those who want 8 coaching sessions plus a Reiki session or more each week.

Start with a $49 introductory session. I have these set up for two-hour blocks -- but always plan for a session to last at least an hour, maybe 90 minutes. I take my time and listen. I can't can the experience into just one hour.

If you've already done your introductory life coaching session at $49 and want another session, just one at a time as you go, my regular sessions are $100. I made it pay off for you to buy several and keep on working on yourself with coaching and Reiki!

See the new offerings below!

I'm not available this Saturday due to tons of graduations and Mother's Day stuff. Usually, I am available on Saturdays.

Back to the #DA30DayChallenge & Why It Was on Hiatus

As often happens, I set the intention to share a #DA30DayChallenge with my clients about self-care -- then found myself in the middle of needing to do that same thing! I needed radical self-care so I went underground for a bit. I took on no clients for Reiki or Life Coaching. I put all my energy into my own care, values, and priorities. Things needed to be realigned in my life.

Also, something major happened to bring this on. I found out there's a new direction in prion disease research that blew me away. Read more about this journey and new direction on my CJD blog.

Then in the middle of April, I went through some other medical stuff (yay, no blood thinners!) that came out totally alright! But whew...the stress level there. The level of emotions to process in the first two weeks of April 2018...was legendary. I won't go through something that amazing in life again any time soon!

The takeaway here is I needed self-care more than you may have. I went offline, didn't blog, didn't coach, didn't do Reiki on others, and basically helped only myself for a bit.

I'm telling you this so you will do this too when the time comes.

It comes for all of us.

There's a time to go within, re-evaluate, re-align, then re-organize.

Like, I totally have to redo my vision board now! There has been other work, too. I've been doing ugly and deep healing work on myself. I continue to do so.

This is what I'm all about -- doing the work. If you have work to do, I'd love to help you with it!

~Certified Life Coach, Heather Larson

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Let's get back to the #DA30DayChallenge self-care fun!

Animals LOVE Reiki!

    It’s as though every Reiki table comes with a cat attached to it. Animals love Reiki! All I do I bring out the Reiki table to work on a friend or family member in my home and a cat appears attached to it.
    There are some who will say cats just like to get into things. But ask any Reiki practitioner and you will likely hear a similar story about a completely different cat in a completely different home. The common denominator is the same. It’s the Reiki.
    I think we can all agree cats are finicky creatures. It’s the same with Reiki as it is with food. The cat is still picky about what feeds it. While Reiki is spiritual food for us all, the cat is not so certain. So what is it cats love about Reiki?
    Perhaps it’s a commonality. Studies say cats’ purrs operate at a level of hertz that is healing. Studies show having a cat companion is good for our health. It’s good for our hearts and our kids’ immune systems. Cats are healers. They are also savage killers, manipulators and ever-starving food beggars! But they have healing powers — if and when they choose to use them.

    I had a beautiful black cat for 11 years named Alcatraz. He was a husky boy at about 26 pounds in his treat-loving prime. He was a fan of Reiki — but only just so much Reiki. He wasn’t a cat who enjoyed Reiki sessions at length. He liked to receive Reiki for maybe a minute, same as being brushed. But he like to be a part of the Reiki sessions in my home. He loved Reiki so much he demanded to be a part of all Reiki sessions — and a chunky cat seemed to get his way. This gentle giant enjoyed lounging on the Reiki table during sessions, often laying on my clients. Thank goodness these clients were close friends and family who already knew and loved him! If I was the one receiving the Reiki, he preferred to be close to me during the session. Often he would lay directly beneath my heart chakra below the table.

When I first learned Reiki, my Masters told me of how they liked to do it on their dogs and how their dogs loved it. I decided I needed to experience doing Reiki on some dogs, so I headed out to the country to see my parent’s pack. My choices were the black labs, Betty and Wilma, or I could work on the cat, Bam Bam. I thought for sure the girls would love it. They ended up kind of indifferent but not as indifferent as that cat! Surprise. My new little buddy, Oreo the rescue cocker spaniel, however, was just the dog to turn into a Reiki junkie.
My father had adopted him and he had a few behaviors. But by this time, he was fitting in nicely with his new sisters and feline brother. Perhaps the Reiki gave him some love, warmth and peace he had craved during his old life. But I’ve never seen an animal so completely surrender to Reiki like Oreo did! He didn’t want me to stop. It was how I built a foundation of friendship with that dog. Today, my dad tells me you’d never know he ever had issues.

    Sadly, Alcatraz passed away last year. My remaining cat, Meeko, can care less about Reiki. She’d rather just be constantly petted and cuddled. Her other choice is to play or eat. But lay around and receive energy? Nah, not Miss Meeko. She can lay around and be lazy without the help of Source Energy, thank you very much.
    Enter Roo the kitten. He fell into our life when my friend’s cat got pregnant. We waited for weeks for him to be born. I can assure you, this cat is the most insane animal on the planet. We call him Roo The Ruiner, Viking Cat, insane, savage…you get the picture. This is the cat that makes me never want a kitten again! But in spite of all his behaviors, which are many, he does love to receive Reiki.
    My daughter came to visit and her back was aching so I threw her on the Reiki table. Guess who had to be on the table front and center just like Alcatraz used to? Little Roo! He’s good for a few minutes of lounging on the table during a Reiki session. I’m amazed because nothing gets this cat to be still. He can’t be worn out. He’s non-stop. He climbs up curtains, steals cotton swabs, attacks everyone in the house, and runs in circles. Then he falls into the toilet, chases his tail in the sink, and digs in every litter box. But he wants Reiki. Go figure.
    Reiki doesn’t seem congruent with his personality at all.

    You never know who will gravitate towards Reiki — human or animal.    

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"Reiki Roo"

When he was little and cute...

Self-care weekend wrap-up

Having a self-care weekend all to myself was so energizing, I can’t wait to do it again! I may have gotten too much rest because I woke up at 1am today… But I can’t complain!

I decided Saturday to go with the flow and ended up making a discovery. I took Uber to see my Reiki Master, Donna, for a Reiki Sonics session. After that, I decided to walk across the street the the health food store for some supplies. On the way, I discovered a little foot massage place.

I bee-lined for it. It is so hard to find a place that does just reflexology around here! I was so excited. It turned out to be a not-so-little place that offers all kinds of massage -- chair, body, and feet. They had tons of massage chairs and rooms! It was a lot bigger inside once I went in and they did a great job.

Then I hit the health food store, then went on to get a haircut. Ended up being gifted with “color depositing conditioner” and a Halite (salt) stone.

Once home, I was relaxed and happy I got to accomplish so much self-care! I camped out on the couch and ate my salad and chocolate while watching Netflix. It was so awesome to have downtime after the last couple Saturdays of travel and training!

Sunday, I slept in and then did some more binge watching once I got my spiritual studies done for the day. Then I was off to the Reiki share with a friend, which I was wonderful. I was gifted with a notepad and some household items -- small gifts, yes, but a signal to the Universe that more comes to you when you care for yourself first.

Who doesn't love energies of abundance and manifestation?

Who doesn't love energies of abundance and manifestation?

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Self-Care is So Important!

So I am kicking off my own self-care weekend right now!

Why is self-care so important? I can list off a ton of reasons, some of them cliche:

  • Can’t pour from an empty well (cliche and yet ever-so-true)
  • We need to engage in self-care to set an example for our kids
  • Fights burnout, stress, and poor health
  • Improves self-esteem
  • You deserve it
  • It’s the antidote to codependency
  • Do you take care of someone else? Then you NEED self-care!
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How did we get to this place in society where self-care comes last?

Somewhere in the course of history, self-care took a backseat and we all cosigned on this.

As women became breadwinners as well as equal stakeholders in society (in my grandmother and mother’s generations) they didn’t take any duties off their plates. My grandmother worked at Motorola and gave up few house duties to my grandfather, who loved to mop floors. She cooked for all of us, held huge family dinners, and looked after all her grandchildren.

My mother set aside finishing college to go after her M-R-S degree, support my father in his business, and ultimately to raise me. She never finished college but supported my father in finishing his degree. By then, I was a teenager on my own way to college and she soon moved closer to her parents to take care of them.

Both of these women wore their caretaking as a badge of honor as they put themselves last. Both of these women are no longer with us, plagued by stress and poor health until their final days of degenerative brain diseases -- my grandmother succumbed to Alzheimer’s; my mother fell to CJD.

Personal Development Opportunities Lost

My mother watched countless cooking and travel shows, never once taking that trip or preparing that new recipe. My grandmother had no friends or social life outside our family. Her only hobby was hitting garage sales or flea markets. Needless to say, my mother followed in her mother’s footsteps with her lack of social life and hobbies. The last time I saw my mother have a hobby, it was the late 70s/early 80s when she did “tole painting.” (My mother was an excellent oil painter and I have her leaves tattooed on my arm).

Grandma had no self-care. None. My mother spent her evenings watching TV, reading magazines, and keeping her nails immaculate. Her only splurge in life was a regular haircut and color. No bottle jobs for my mother!

I am convinced both of these women could have benefited from mental and physical health services. They could have benefited from personal relationships outside of marriage and family. Each could have benefited from Al-Anon meetings, which I will mention because September is Recovery Month. Neither of them had a spiritual base like a church or a practice of prayer and meditation. Aside from personal grooming, there was no true uninterrupted “me time” for the women who came before me that I would consider “self-care.”

So let’s discuss then what true “Self-Care” really is!

Self-care is putting yourself first. Self-care is making your own needs a priority. I don’t know how we got into this way of life in which, “I’m so busy,” is such a prized statement. Busy is a drug. We use drugs to bury things and/or escape reality. We avoid self-care as an act of avoiding the self in the same way.

Let’s start a self-care revolution.

Let’s promise here and now to take care of ourselves first. This post is primarily aimed at women because I know mostly women who avoid self-care. My male friends seem to have no problems keeping hobbies, relationships, getting haircuts regularly --and most importantly-- saying no.

Self-care is saying no.

Self-care means saying no firmly and realizing the word “no” is a complete sentence. Guess what? Say “no” more often and you free up your time. What do you use that time for? Self-care! Boom! You set a boundary when you say “no” and then you stick to it. You don’t waver. You don’t take it back. You keep your “no” solid. It’s a wall. It’s a message that says, “my time is not for free and I am not on sale.”

Now that you have time for self-care...what to do?

Do you have female friends outside your marriage, family, and job? If that area is lacking, start there. Are you a caretaker for an elderly family member and/or small children? Then you require self-care time. You need quiet time with yourself. Recover your sense of self.

Opening the gates on a self-care weekend

This is my self-care weekend! I have counted the days and hours to it. I recently switched jobs within the company I work for, attended trainings two weekends in a row out of town, and worked overtime for our annual fundraiser. My previous job never, ever went beyond 40 hours a week. To say my routine has been blown out of the water is an understatement as I also had taken on some freelance work in the middle of this. Then my daughter made a surprise visit for 5 days! Whoa! The last month flew by.

Time to pump the brakes!

This weekend is my first weekend I get two days of straight me time! This weekend I have no work, no training, no overtime, no freelance work, and no kid! Self-care means I will indulge in sleep, but not too much. I’ve made plans for my own self-care and private time. I went home last night exhausted and decided to start self-care weekend early with Netflix and takeout. (My take the “Netflix and Chill”). Saturday, someone will do Reiki on ME for a change! Then I am getting the haircut and style I’ve been too busy to get.

Remember when I said, “Busy is a drug?” Being too busy to get a haircut is just plain wrong. It’s like cheating on myself. So that’s over. We all slip sometimes, but we have to reboot and reset! Sunday, I am attending a Reiki share I haven’t been to in ages due to my former work schedule. I had attended so regularly before! I also plan to read and relax. I plan to immerse myself in my study of “A Course in Miracles” and other spiritual texts. I also plan on yoga in my living room! I cannot wait because I know this effort is important to feed my soul this weekend. This is my idea of self-care. This is what works for me.

Do you need ideas on how to create more self-care in your own life? Not sure where to start? I can help; I’m a coach!

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Going Deeper with the Artist's Way Course Coming up!

Top 10 Reasons Why You Need To Take The Artist's Way Course with Me!

  1. Taking The Artist's Way course is transformative. I am ALL ABOUT TRANSFORMATION! I call my course, "Going Deeper withe The Artist's Way," because I offer coaching tools within the course. Traditionally, we take this course and it's a journey of self-exploration. We learn a ton about our creative selves. But as a coach leading you through the class, I'll be there to call you out when you're ready. I'll be there for a gentle nudge, to speak back to you the unspoken I hear come out of you. I'll be there to guide you intuitively so you get to take leaps forward with this course!
  2. This is a group thing -- always. You can read the book on your own. Or you can go through the class with a group to see what others get out of it and to get positive feedback on your own journey. The group holds you accountable and inspires you.
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3. Sign up NOW and be the FIRST TEN to sign up and you'll receive a FREE coaching session immediately! Let's find out what you want to work on BEFORE the course begins! It will help you set an intention for the course and be clear as you step into the journey.

4. This is a program of recovery -- creative recovery. If anyone ever told you something you created sucked and you believed them, we're here to all get over that and heal together. Your confidence will rise. Your desire to create will return. You will realize you've been cheating on yourself by not creating. And you will stop doing that!

5. You will have new tools for your creativity arsenal. You will gain insight into yourself. You will have new ways to function creatively. The Morning Pages are an infamous tool used by people all over the world to help with creativity. I'm a true believer in them, though I don't do them daily. How about Artist Dates? When is the last time you took yourself on a date, all by yourself for at least two hours with no distractions? How has your "me time" been looking lately? If this answer is dismal, this course is for you!

6. This course is for everyone! It doesn't matter if you're a writer, painter, tailor, business person, actor, filmmaker, dancer, etc. This course is for those who create. This course is especially for those who DO NOT. We will address that, yes, you truly are a creative soul. We all are. We will also address why you haven't been creating to your full potential.

I took this course once with a group of writers. That was fantastic for me as I am a writer. I believe you can get something out of this course whether you are George Lucas or a high school student. It doesn't matter if you are a stay-at-home parent, jet-set business deals maker, a construction worker, a musician, or college student. This course isn't about what kind of creative you are or what you do for a living. It's about freeing yourself through creativity. We all are endowed with creativity.

7. Creativity is our God-given right! The world needs our creativity. Not only do you cheat yourself by not flexing your creative muscle -- you cheat the world.

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8. There will be this course for an hour a week. Plus coaching sessions available at deep discount to my students enrolled in the course! You don't have to do extra coaching in addition to the course if you don't want to. But during the course, I will drop my coaching prices to those "Going Deeper with the Artist's Way" students who want to really do the work!

9. This course is about self-care. If you've been wanting to get better at this, now is the time and this is just the project you need to embark on. Self-care is mandatory in The Artist's Way course. I've been a self-care advocate for years, which is why I named my Reiki business in Wichita, "You Deserve Reiki!"

10. You're resisting this course, aren't you? To quote the course/book author, Julia Cameron, "Just remember, in choosing, that we often resist what we most need." I love what this course did for me, which is why I now lead it and offer it. It's going to give us coaching promtps I can coach you around if you so dare. So don't resist. Do it! It will be fun and you will grow! But mostly, we will have FUN!

Sign up now: https://www.learnitlive.com/class/11155/Going-Deeper-with-the-Artist-s-Way

This class will be held in a weekly live webinar on LearnItLive.com (Flash required). You don't have to video chat with us unless you want to -- you can just view the class and participate via chat. As your teacher, I will be available constantly through the 12-week course. You can reach me via email, video conference, phone, or coaching sessions. I will offer one-on-one private coaching sessions outside the course at deep discount! You can do all of this from wherever you are in the world, as long as you have Internet.

Just remember, in choosing, that we often resist what we most need.
— Julia Cameron
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You can take Reiki 2 with me this Saturday in Wichita!

Join my Reiki 2 class, 8/12/17, $180, held at White Dove Wichita, 2947 E. Kellogg from 8am-noon. 

Here's what you learn in the Reiki Level 2 class: 

*Reiki level 2 attunement
*Reiki 2 symbols (there are 3 to learn)
*Practicing Reiki on others
*Meditation
*Theory
*Practice
*Intuition
*Going deeper

Will use the same learning manual used in Reiki 1. If you don't have one, please let me know ASAP so I can order one for you in time for class. 

Taught by Usui Reiki Master Heather Larson.

Sign up here to hold your space! Class is $180 and includes a manual.

Reiki 2 will change you and elevate you on your path towards spiritual development and begin to heighten your intuition. Everyone has a unique experience, so like with any Reiki session, I promise nothing. Some people have that "Burning Bush" experience while others just tell me their atunement was simply relaxing.

Reiki II gets you learning the symbols, which strengthen your Reiki. All you really need to send Reiki is intention, but symbols help. They are part of the tradition and full of meaning. I will explain more in class!

You're also going to learn more about practicing Reiki on others, as in how to do a full session. If you're wanting to be serious and do Reiki on a more professional level, I go into that in Reiki Master class!

I'm actually thinking of offering a class just on how to open a Reiki buisness. If you'd be interested, tell me you are in the comments!

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