Top Destiny Architecture Life Coaching & Reiki blogs of June

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Anyone want some Reiki next week? Hit me up! ~Heather Larson, Life Coach & Reiki Master

Anyone want some Reiki next week? Hit me up! ~Heather Larson, Life Coach & Reiki Master

Top life coaching & Reiki blogs loved by Destiny Architects in June 2019:

As we are halfway through July (and a ghastly Mercury Retrograde), it’s more than past time for me to give you a round up of last month’s posts.

#5: Resiliency!

This first post was #5 on the popularity list, but it was still a big deal when I posted it. I may have to spend a little more time on the subject of resiliency for you, what do you think? Let me know in the comments! 

5. The Bounce Back: How to get out of your own way and become more resilient

Onto popular post No. 4: 

Victimhood wasn’t your friend last month, the month before, this month — get it? NEVER! You cannot live in congruency with your goals of living an abundant life when you play the victim. Recognize it, acknowledge it, and move past it. That’s what we are all about, Destiny Architects — leveling up. Your prosperity will level up when you stop playing the victim. If you aren’t sure if you are…read on: 

4. #LOAMonday No. 13: Victimhood is NOT your friend

Onto #3…Summer lifestyle guide: I won’t say much about this one.

Overnight, the school supplies moved into the stores and my sports nut friends are already talking rabidly about football. But summer isn’t over! I will cling to it for all that’s left! 

3. Ways to celebrate summer 2019 and make it the best yet

Second most popular is that vlog I did about the Self Journal!

Hey, thanks for voting this one up with your page views! This item is a daily constant in my life. So if this video made you try it, let me know. I would love to know how it made a difference for you in your planning/journaling life. 

I still have a discount for you too: 

https://bestself.co/products/self-journal?variant=18866392563781

Use the code HeatLar for 15% off your purchase! 

(Yes, I benefit if you click through and purchase through my link at no extra cost to you). 

2. Vlog #7: I'm in love with the Best Self Co planner -- The Self Journal

Annnnnnd #1…I can’t even believe it?!

THIS was the one y’all looked at most last month. Which is funny to me because I thought no one would care. And then this happened. And then I booked someone for a Reiki session at White Dove. So Reiki is BACK in Wichita for me, Destiny Architects! Woot! 

The name is still dead though. Ha! It’s no longer “You Deserve Reiki” as I feel led to lay that name to rest and move us into something a little more, shall I say, 2020… 

I’m actually going to make some NEW Reiki flyers to put out at White Dove. (Probably next week). But the new flyers won’t have the new name. For now, I am offering Reiki sessions under the umbrella of “Destiny Architecture.” 

More to come! 

1. .So...I was thinking about starting a Reiki practice again in Wichita

Thanks for voting with your page views. Remember, you can always comment or submit a form to get at me. And yes, this is Heather Larson writing this and reading your comments. This business is still a one-woman show…for now. 

I’m hoping to employ the nieces and nephews in the future (f they want jobs doing e-commerce and social media for Destiny Architecture, that is). 

So please remember this is a woman-owned family business in Wichita, KS. What this means for you is your feedback is appreciated, welcomed, honored, listened to — and treasured!

Thank you for being here. You are literally my first fans and are on the leading edge of something I promise will be huge. I’ve worked on this like a HONEY BADGER for three years now. I know this because I was just sent a reminder that this domain is renewing! 

THREE YEARS! 

Holy wow! Holy special sauce! Thank YOU for being my reader. 

Thank you 1,000 times! 

The best is yet to come for us all! 

Remember, YOU are the architect of your own destiny! 

~Coach Heather 

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The Bounce Back: How to get out of your own way and become more resilient

Resiliency is possible if you let it happen

I have been shattered in the month of May by the loss of my beloved cat, Rupert.

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Rupert.

4/5/17 to 5/18/19.

RIP to my littler stealer of cotton swabs, bedsheets, and hearts.

On May 16, he was fine, I was fine, my other cat was fine too, and life was ALL fine. Then it turned to chaos with a sick Roo on the 17th. Things changed quickly on the 18th and I had to euthanize a cat that was only two years old.

To say he was my "baby" would be an understatement.

To recover from the sudden grief, I zoned out and relaxed the following week. I engaged in self-care which was mostly sleeping.

I was off my game, which is understandable. I had started the month of May with fantastic goals including paying off a stack of bills and doing a "30-days-in-May" fitness challenge at the workout studio I attend. Needless to say, my fitness hit the back burner although I did do OK on the bills considering the extra unplanned expenses (of which there were many, not just the cat). But I did OK on this because I damn miracle fell out of the sky!

It was an expensive month. Starting anything new was shelved. My personal decluttering mission was almost derailed for good when the cat died.

But I am beginning to feel a little like myself again this week. I picked up a project again Wednesday and am uploading Vlog #7 as I write this…

Oh yeah, I started getting into vlogging before my cat got sick. I was posting almost a vlog a day.

I was really feeling overall like I was about to slay the month of May!

Then I crashed physically, mentally, and emotionally. I even caught some kind of cold/allergy/sinus affliction and missed a day at work. I published nothing last week.

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BounceBack

Resiliency is yours for the taking. Remember who you are and what you want!

But then something amazing happened and I think it’s because I allowed myself the time and grace to crash last week. I began to feel better on Monday; I began to feel more like myself. Tuesday, the cold kicked my butt (and sinuses) again. Wednesday, I felt like I could push through and get back to working on projects.

That something that happened is resiliency.

I didn’t use to have resiliency. I didn’t use to bounce back two weeks after something bad happened to me. I’d get on a pity pot, feel sad and useless. Then I’d feel guilty for taking the time to feel bad, then I’d beat myself up, and then a lot more time than two weeks would pass with no progress being made.

I would get dragged down in negative feelings and minutiae. I’d feel bad for not “getting things done” or “letting people down.” I used to get stuck in grief. I also used to suffer from addiction at different points in my life — sometimes alcohol, drugs, or both. Throw in codependency and it was a huge pity party of paralyzation.

I don’t know how I didn’t learn to bounce back. I don’t quite know how I have learned to become more resilient. I credit age, experience, sobriety, and life coaching. I’m now a personal development chaser rather than a chaser of the always-elusive high.

Part of what I think makes me more resilient is working so hard towards my goals. I know what I want. My goals are clearly defined and I look at them daily. They are written in my planner and I spend time daily looking at my vision board. I understand now that time passes quickly and I don’t want to waste it. I did plenty of that when I was young.

My cats were on my daily gratitude list; my surviving cat still is. I have learned to take nothing for granted — not my cats, my car, my home, food — nothing. I spend time cultivating good habits like a daily gratitude practice and spending time in spiritual study.

I would hate to lose two weeks of time, motivation, and progress towards my goals! I hate losing momentum. I love what I do! I love to create content for my clients and I stay conscious of how much time I was taking away from my creative process in order to heal.

Losing that positive momentum is not OK with me. It’s just not congruent with my goals. I want them so badly, my “why” is quite firm, and I realized I’d have to get back to my work before I felt ready. That’s life. When people tell you, “Take all the time you need,” they don’t really mean for you to take an endless amount of time. Don’t drop off the face of the Earth.

There’s still a house to clean, jobs to do, people counting on me, my upset daughter, my boss, my clients, the car needs gas, I need to eat… You get the picture. Responsibilities don’t go away but we can be gentle while we heal. We can’t ever give up and we can’t lose perspective.

I have learned these things the hard way.

When something happens to extinguish your fire, let it.

Give yourself grace and space. Take that time to be sad, hurt, and then to heal. Get back to it quickly though. Get back to life before you’re ready. People will understand and give you some understanding. They will respect you for trying to keep your crapola together, but don't expect you to! (Anyone with selfish expectations when you go through a rough patch is showing you a red flag).

If you lack focus, you can get lost in a tragedy. You can be overwhelmed by trauma.

So HAVE YOUR FOCUS. Define it. Be clear about what you want. Because I guarantee you, when life turns into a dumpster fire and you get derailed, it’s going to be really easy to wonder, “Why should I go on?” Well, here’s why. Go back to your planner full of goals and your “why.” Go back to your vision board when times are tough. Remind yourself who you are and what you want. You aren’t done yet. Keep going. Maybe you’re tired. Maybe you “mail it in” for a week and sleep a lot. But you’re surviving it. Some days, surviving is all we can do.

You can return to thriving in no time.

But there will be that nasty stage of putting one foot in front of the other. Maybe it lasts a week or a month or a year (depending on the severity of your tragedy or trauma). But as long as we have breath in our lungs, we have to persist.

Don’t give up.

How to live your life while grieving

Life can change in an instant.

Often, it’s the only way we change. Suddenly. Without warning. Life knows we are sluggish to change.

But this is also the way things work in this Universe. It’s best to let go because it’s all out of our human control.

I woke up Friday morning to a very sick cat. As I was about to walk out the door at 7:40 a.m., I realized something was very wrong with him as I saw him struggling to urinate. I rushed him to the vet — ending up at the walk-in vet as FOUR vet offices were booked solid for the day. The walk-in vet treated and released my sweet baby Rupert. He had a bladder infection but I was cautioned to keep vigilant as he could become blocked at any time. The vet taught me how to check for a blockage with a simple exam. With a medicated cat and armload of Hill’s c/d food, we headed home.

The next morning, Rupert was fine when I woke up. Just about two hours later, we were at the emergency vet, which I drove to in a thunderstorm. Ever take a cat to the vet in a thunderstorm? Not fun at all, especially not in the acute panic state I was in. I had felt a blockage in my cat. His bladder was full and hard. He was visibly blocked as well.

I made a tough decision.

I vow that no animal of mine will suffer and so I made the decision, based on what the emergency vet told me, to end Rupert’s suffering. She was not confident we could save him if she tried and he’d be in pain for days. He would suffer and possibly still not make it. Plus, this could happen again. This is what happens with neutered males and their anatomy. But you can’t not neuter! (Prior to his neutering, Rupert had serious behavioral issues which were fixed immediately upon surgery).

The life of an animal lover is hard because our furry friends don’t live forever.

Rupert was the best friend we could have had. We loved and appreciated him so much in his two short years. I am thankful for the gift I was given. After my cat of 11 years, Alcatraz, passed away in February 2017 passed away — also suddenly — my friend’s cat became pregnant. “Roo” came from that litter. I’ll spare you endless stories of how special he was.

I still have an elderly female cat we refer to as HRH Meeko, a.k.a “The Queen” or “The Boss.” She is heartbroken, naturally. I am awake checking the weather as it will be a storm chasing night with threat of a tornado outbreak here in the Midwest. How can I sleep at a time like this? HRH was asleep though — having a nightmare as evidenced by the noises she was making in her sleep. My sweet baby girl…

I am worn out on all levels. I am grieving. I wish I understood why the loss of a pet is so deep and painful. I’ve sobbed over losing pets much worse than I have for humans in my life. I’ve had many losses; I am used to death. But the soul and bone-shaking sobs I experience now (and with previous pet losses) are like no other grief. Maybe it’s because animals can’t talk. Maybe it’s because the bond we have with them is so unique and special.

But life does go on.

I still have goals and things I want to be doing other than this grief crap. It’s really inconvenient. I am still committed to self-mastery and enhancing my skills daily. I am still committed to my vlog-a-day challenge but now you know why I haven’t vlogged. If you saw the few Instagram stories I did post yesterday, you already know I’m just too sad for the vlog. It’s LOA Monday here and I just kinda sorta came up with a blog post then blew it off to write this one.

I’m therefore not going to go against the flow of things. It’s going to be a big self-care week. I am trying to rest but feeling restless. I’m eating well and taking my supplements in order to care for my physically exhausted body. I cried five hours straight on Saturday. My eyes, sinuses, and headache will have to heal. But if you’ve ever lived in Tornado Alley, you know my headache won’t go away until the storms do. We are on track for a possible outbreak of tornadoes here in Wichita today. I work for the severe weather radio station here. It’s going to be a long day. (At the time of this writing it is 3:00 a.m.)

I’ll keep my haircut appointment and continue eating right. That’s about all I know for now as far as self-care plans. Life cannot stop for grief and I wish I’d known that when I was younger and suffering much bigger losses in my life. I still worked Saturday night as we had a risk of severe weather in our area. But my team is awesome and totally supported me in that choice. I only work with awesome people!

I’ve worked really hard in the month of May and I don’t want to lose that momentum. But I may be a little quiet this week. I may or may not vlog. I may or may not contribute content to Destiny Architecture and hop on the Patreon… I may listen to sappy 1980s power ballads. I don’t know.

But I wanted to blog about what’s going on. I see a lot of people post a blog…then go silent for three months. I just want you to know I’m here. I’m engaged. I may be scarce for a moment. Between feeling my feelings and covering severe weather, it could be quiet around here today. YOU, my community, are still top of mind. If you want to book out next week or beyond, that’s fine. I don’t plan on being too present to coach others while I feel depleted myself. (Though I still have previous commitments I’m keeping this week).

Thank you for your love and support!

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Now offering an 8-session life coaching package with a pay-as-you-go option

To better serve my clients, I keep coming up with all kinds of stuff…

How about a package of 8 life coaching sessions? Here you go! It is now live. This will allow you to sign up for a low price and spread out payments over an 8-week period while you are receiving 1-2 coaching sessions per week. Use them all up in a month or spread them out! Buying the package of 8 coaching sessions will help you really commit to doing the work. Then when I give you homework between sessions (as I often do), you will be much more invested in the overall process.

You can pay upfront too, which will save $50.

Please allow 90 minutes to two hours for each session — especially the first session as I’ll be getting to know you. If you have any questions, please let me know! Either ask in the comments or email me at destinyarchitecture@gmail.com.

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New sale for May: 5 coaching sessions for $50 off

For the month of May, you can purchase five life coaching sessions for just $400 — that’s $50 off!

Also, that gives you a chance to have a session a week all month! (If you want). Or spread them out all summer.

I can coach you on life changes, career changes, creativity, and getting unstuck in life in general!

What do you want to change? What does your ideal life look like? What do you want less of? I’d love to get to know you and begin asking questions to help bring you clarity!

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You are ready to take the leap forward and schedule 5 transformational life coaching sessions into your life! You want and demand more of this life you're living. You want more peace, balance, and happiness in your life!

I specialize in coaching on:

  • Creativity

  • Career changing, which includes resume building, cover letter editing, and mock interviews.

  • Need to make a change? Not sure where to begin? I will help you find clarity.

  • I will not tell you what you want to hear. I’ll tell you what you need to hear.


Each transformational life coaching session will include an affirmation we create for you together, plus a graphic of it I will make and send to you so you can use it as a screensaver on your phone as a reminder. We can work on goal setting + an action plan; seeking balance; or whatever you want to work on!

I will bring the tools to your sessions, but please let me know if any of the downloadable PDFs in the store are calling to you. Those are FREE with your sessions.


I will follow up with you after each session as we decide, whether by email, text, and/or phone.

How to book:

Purchase here on this site and fill out the required fields (name/phone/email/) and tell me in the blank space what your preferred time is to have a session.

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How to reprogram your subconcious mind 

How to reprogram your subconcious mind with this new, downloadable PDF worksheet

Reprogramming Your Subconscious Mind Downloadable PDF Worksheet
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This downloadable PDF worksheet will help you along your personal development journey by helping you become conscious of negative thinking patterns that are holding you back. Then it will help you change them into positive ones.

There are six questions in this worksheet for you. I’ve also written a blog to help you with this idea.

Once purchased, you will receive a link to download the PDF. That link will be active for 24 hours.

I recommend downloading it and printing it out so you can write on it. Or, you can save paper (and trees) by keeping it on your computer or tablet. Then you can write in a journal on it, or journal by computer. I personally like to journal on my computer because I can write faster by keyboard.

Half of this worksheet will be recognizing your negative subconscious thinking patterns. The other half will be creating new patterns that are more beneficial to what you want to create in your life.

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Thank you for joining me on this path of healing work. You’re going to do great. There are many “a-ha moments” ahead of you! Let’s get to work. 

Ask yourself, “What pre-programmed subconscious messages do I deal with?”

Let’s get into a niche here because to mine the negative subconscious messages from the entire mind is a tad overwhelming. 

Which niche would you like to work on? 

  • Money/finances 

  • Health/beauty/body image/exercise 

  • Creativity 

  • Career and/or job search/job changing 

  • Personal life 

Remember, this healing work is endless and you can always come back to this tool to work on different areas at different times. 

Let’s use trust as an example. 

I catch my subconscious being weird abut trust all the time, but this doesn’t mean that in these fleeting moments I am doing anything about it. I am merely becoming conscious of the fact that I catch glimpses of my lack of trust. What is it I don’t trust? I start asking the questions so the work can begin. 

How does this message hold me back? 

I know from life experience that taking a leap of faith works for me. I am a risk taker by nature. Perhaps that’s why I don’t trust well…sometimes I take a leap of faith that is well-planned out. Those are the ones that work. Impulsive leaps, however, do NOT work! I think those few unplanned leaps and subsequent failures embedded in me a lack of trust tied into a feeling of failure. There were also many personal relationships with friends, family, and love interests which also fed my lack of trust. 

But let’s dig a little deeper, using myself as an example. 


What is behind that lack of trust? 

Fear. 

What am I afraid of? 

That’s a good question! Is it failure I am scared of? No. It’s more the fear of putting myself out there. There’s a fear of vulnerability. I can own my failures, mistakes, and the embarrassment from them. But at least I am doing something. Some people never do anything. They let the fear paralyze them. I am afraid often of being seen and feeling vulnerable. 

I’ll leave out all the “psych 101” reasons why as I’m a life coach and I’m not interested in the past. A good coach moves forward, not back. (To deal with past issues, early childhood memories, and family of origin issues, please see a qualified therapist). 

So we’ve decided I will work on my personal life and general fear for the purpose of this example.

What is the opposite of fear? Love!

Let’s find a way for me to attract more love into my life! If love is the opposite of fear (and it is) then I want to attract things like courage and trust into my life. 

This is where the affirmations come in. 

  • “I love and trust life!” 

  • “I trust the Universe if always working in my favor.” 

  • “I trust in life, I am trustworthy and operate with integrity so I attract people who are trustworthy to me.” 

  • “I am worthy of trust and only attract trustworthy people into my life.” 

Play with these affirmations and tailor them to your own life. 

So now we know I have some pre-programmed messages about lack of trust embedded in my subconscious. Perhaps that came from my parents always saying things like, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.” We also know these pre-programmed messages caused me harm as they hold me back from being able to be vulnerable to others. 

Therefore, we begin to turn it around by asking: 

What do I want to attract into my life? 

Then we tailor affirmations for what we DO want in our life. Because, remember: 

What you focus on expands! 

If you want less of it, DO NOT concentrate on it! 

There are three more questions to engage you on this path in this worksheet. 

Often I find when I am doing this work, I start with six questions and end up asking myself 30. The questions beget more questions. The more armor you take off, the more you can ask yourself and the more you can free up! 


A word about these downloadable PDF worksheets by Destiny Architecture

I design these worksheets for you to use by printing them out. You can then write on them or write in a journal to answer questions. Of course, you can save paper by downloading the worksheet to your device and then journaling on a laptop. Whatever you prefer! 

I also design these worksheets for self-study. But I am here for coaching sessions if something comes up that you’d like to work on further. 

You can also join the Patreon community for support from the group! One of these worksheets will come with the $10 membership tier each month. 

Also, please take your time when working on these. They are for YOU! They are for your personal growth and development. Tie them into your yoga, meditation, or writing practice. Diffuse some essential oil, put on some music, cut out distractions, and use these in your self-care time. You’ll be glad you did. 

Announcing: The Destiny Architecture Coaching & Reiki Community is now on Patreon

What!?!!? I can snag me some life coaching and Reiki with Destiny Architecture on Patreon? SCORE!

I know, not my usual headline but after a week of allergy hell (normal life in the Midwest) I am feeling 75% more human today! So let’s just have some fun with this!

I am creating a life coaching and Reiki community on Patreon here.

It’s a brand-new community I am birthing this spring. I’ve wanted to do this for a long time and Patreon gives me a great plug-and-play type of way to do this. (Patreon is a membership community led by creators. So you help me make money and meet goals in return for amazing content).

I’ve posted on the Patreon page about what the community is about and I’ve also uploaded an exclusive, Patrons-only life coaching worksheet for the $10/mo+ tiers. It’s about how you can reprogram your subconscious mind, which is so revealing. But at the same time, it will help you create a better way for yourself. Yes, we have some subconscious program we want to let go of — but we also have to program in the new!

I’ll be posting a worksheet once a month like this for Patrons. You’ll also be able to get a podcast, coaching, access to a mastermind, and more.

The worksheet is up, the “what this is all about” post is up, and some other “for everybody” content you can read.

If you’ve been a fan of this blog, you’re going to love it.

Yes, you can join for free!

The benefits kick in at the $3/mo tier. It goes all the way up to the $250/mo mastermind level. I have a post on there about this, but it isn’t just about the money commitment to the community. It’s also about what time you have to give to the community — and more importantly — to your own personal growth.

Above all, it’s about your energy!

Bring your energy to the community. Participate. Consume some, give back some. How much energy do you have for personal development right now? Pick that tier. Do that.

I chose Patreon because the site is full of amazing creators. I’ve been a Patron of others there for one year now and it has changed my life! I’ve been a patron of some anti-racism educators and social justice activists in the past year. Where else can you find people creating such amazing content for affordable monthly prices?

Of course, I am adding in a ton of premium content. I want there to be something for everyone while —at the same time— keeping the mastermind people in their own Slack group. I don’t want you to join that (even if that’s affordable to you) if you don’t have the energy to bring. Being in the mastermind will require work on your part. There will be reading and giving knowledge to others.

So check it out. More to come!

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Online Coaching & Reiki community with several subscription tiers available!

Achieving alchemy: Transforming the negative into a positive

Alchemy definition: 


A power or process that changes or transforms something in a mysterious or impressive way

The key to my life coaching is empowerment.

I always believe YOU have the right answers and, as a coach, my job is to facilitate a healthy space where they can come forth from you. One of the things I love to do is help you get your power back over anything negative. 

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Onward

Ready to move forward? You can turn a negative into a positive. As a coach, I can help with that!

For an example, I am going to use a healing I did in my own life last weekend. 

I was badly in need of alchemy. I needed to transform a negative emotion into something positive. I am by no means 100% healed, but it’s a step in the right direction. This is something no therapist has been able to give me! 

I have struggled with emotions surrounding my cousin’s death since 1991. She died in a house fire. On Thanksgiving. My uncle died two weeks later of an unrelated health problem. Needless to say I have been triggered by fire, smoke, and Thanksgiving ever since. 

In addition to being a life coach, I’m also a journalist.

I left my home Saturday with only intentions of running errands and no intention of being a journalist in that moment. But I saw thick, black smoke a mile or so away. It ended up being a two-alarm fire. Before I knew this, my journalistic curiosity got the better of me. I arrived on scene despite feeling triggered. I thought I may just snap a photo and run, but then a bystander yelled at me from across the street, ‘The flames are over there!” 

Now I had to go in deeper to look for the full story.

Someone had seen me with my branded news vehicle. So I wandered in until I found people gathered around a burning building. Smoke was everywhere. I could feel my chest tightening. The smell was pungent; nothing smells like a fire. Once you’ve been near one you take the smell with you. I walked until I found some people. They assured me everyone got out alive. This made me happy, sad, and jealous all at the same time. 

I knew I would have been inconsolable if the person in that apartment had died.

I’ve learned over 27 years that I badly want every fire victim to survive. I don’t want more deaths like my cousin’s — but I will always wish she’d been one of the lucky ones. So I left, feeling triggered, feeling choked up. I needed to do my job but I needed to cry too. 

I did my job. I didn’t let the tears flow. I tried, but they evaporated somewhere within me in a broken space that needs healing. That dry space just needs a little precipitation now and then. Not much. 

I went to Ulta after the fire. I bought Zoella body spray to douse the smell of smoke. I bought the moisturizer I needed. (It was my original errand running plan that day). 

Then what?

It seemed fitting to stop at Firehouse Subs! Not even kidding you. As soon as I walked into that place I felt healed. I felt like I was standing within a tangible homage to hero firefighters. I realized I can inhibit a space in which I can feel pain and gratitude at the same time. I faced a painful trigger and then rewarded myself with positives. 

It wasn’t the first time I tried to face a fire and turn it into something positive. 

In college radio, at KOHL in Fremont, California, there was a fire in the hills behind our station. This was at Ohlone College, itself built into the side of a hill with what felt like 10,000 steps. I stubbornly refused to leave the radio station the night those hills were on fire. I loved radio and I refused to let a fire take away one more of my loves.

I watched that fire come to the crest of that hill behind me that night like it was coming at me and then I watched it change course. I felt victorious! That fire wasn’t about to take my radio show away from me!

The next morning I realized what an idiot I was as I couldn’t breathe and felt sick from breathing in so much smoke from the night before. But I felt like I’d taken something back from that house fire in 1991. I felt like I was less powerless. Fire couldn’t take two of us, now could it? Those would just be cruel odds? (I didn’t have the best thinking at 18 years old).

Last Saturday’s victory of being able to cover a fire as a journalist allowed me to feel empowered once more. I can never have my beloved cousin back, but I can let go of some of my baggage. I can keep recovering pieces of myself back from 1991 and that is a beautiful thing. 

I understand now I’ll never be completely healed, neither will my family.

Start a fire near me indoors and you’re dead to me. The current fires in my home state of California (Woolsey, Camp) are heart wrenching and I can only stomach slight bits of the coverage. Self-care is censoring that type of news right now. I’m still healing from one person I lost 27 years ago. I can’t imagine 79 dead and 700 still missing. (At the time of this writing). The level of trauma being left behind on that burned and scarred map…it’s overwhelming. There are literally thousands of people like me who will heal slowly and forever from these fires. 

If that is you, you will find your healing in time. Now isn’t the time to begin to perform the type of self-alchemy that took me years to get to. When I say you will find your healing in time I stress this “time” is measured in decades, not months. We all heal differently. Each path to healing will be unique. The beginning stage of grief work isn’t the time for this. 

My above examples of myself are a bit extreme in that my story is deeply emotional and traumatic. This also comes after years of professional therapy. Please DO seek professional help if you are being triggered by fresh traumas. Life coaching is NOT a replacement for proper mental health care.


The type of alchemy I can do to turn your negatives into positives are: 


(Axamples bullet pointed) 


*Fear of taking a leap of faith (or any fear holding you back) 

*Getting rid of the negative voice in your head that says “you can’t” do what your heart desires 

*Changing horrible self-talk into a positive, life-affirming, GAME-CHANGING way of life

*Learning to train yourself to think more positively in daily life 

*Turning off life’s biggest distractors so you can have more creative time 

*Stop telling yourself you’re “not creative” and become the artist you were meant to be

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Healing.

There will always be more opportunities to heal.

Sale! 50% off life coaching & Reiki purchases of $50 or more

Early sale!

I couldn’t wait to put this sale up in my Square Market. Why wait for Black Friday?

You can get two life sessions for $100 right now, which you can totally use now or later. Use one now heading into Thanksgiving, use another one to debrief after all the stress has passed…use it however you want!

Why an early sale?

  • It’s never to early to get a jump on holiday shopping.

  • But I hate shopping in stores, so you can do this from your couch.

  • Start your 2019 game plan right now with me — your professional, certified, transformational life coach!

  • We can totally dig into your next vision board now.

  • If you’re like me, you don’t do Thanksgiving but you like a half-off sale. Here it is!

  • You can use it for yourself or give a gift — I’m not here to judge!

  • Buy Reiki sessions to help you through the holidays with your family and all the stress/pressure that comes along with…

  • This is an excellent time to turn within and revisit your goals, take stock of the year’s progress, and decide where to go next.

  • It’s Mercury Retrograde, so it’s the best time for a Reiki session and/or a coaching session.

Gratitude is a year-round event for Destiny Architects. It’s a daily practice. Let’s move forward with excellent coaching and Reiki sessions this holiday season!

Gratitude is a year-round event for Destiny Architects. It’s a daily practice. Let’s move forward with excellent coaching and Reiki sessions this holiday season!

Career Coach Corner: Avoiding Resume Black Holes -- Whether You Are a Career-Changer or Not!

Coaching for career changers can help you focus on priorities and values which will help you concentrate on what you really want to create in the future of your life’s work. But it still won’t stop your resume from ending up in some company's black hole — a digital garbage can where your resume is never seen by human eyes.

My career coaching is private and one-on-one. You can make an appointment with me for that here. But here’s some information to help everyone being coached on career direction that doesn’t need to be kept private or done one-on-one.

Your resume is likely to fall into a black hole.

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I think — or hope anyway — that we all know that. If you don’t, let me awaken you.

Did you know your resume is already digitally pre-judged by machines before it even has a chance to make it to human eyes? The larger the company you apply to, the truer this is! Applying for a mom & pop company means you’re less likely to encounter the Automatic Tracking System for applicants — or ATS. Use of keywords makes the ATS your friend. For some reason, the ATS threw me to the customer service and sales wolves years ago. I have no clue what on my resume did that! (Possibly my liberal arts degree?)

If you’re struggling with wanting a career change and needing coaching on it, I’m here to help. We will take stock of where you’ve been already in your career. What are your accomplishments? What skills and talents do you bring to an organization? What kind of education do you have, what certifications do you hold, and what kind of teams have you led? We will take a look at the past that brought through your career so far.

Then we will work on where you are headed. What are you passionate about? What have you done before that can be used to your advantage in where you are going? For example, I had to use skills acquired in radio broadcasting and journalism for jobs I applied for outside the field. No one cared about my audio editing experience. But I could translate some skills over. I had done social media marketing, interviewing, writing, editorial, and press releases. I learned that personal connections were the best way for me to get hired. Through my network, I obtained part-time employment that turned into full-time.

Very little of my radio skills were useful in the field of addictions I entered after radio. But I learned new skills. The person who hired me at the time knew me because I’d done charity work for her at the non-profit that became my employer. She had seen something in me she thought would be great for the job working for her in the recovery center. Then I was thrown into a variety of trainings for my job. Eventually, I put my new skills to work full-time in a new position.

That was more than three years ago and I learned so much! The skills I have now can probably get me into a variety of places in the social work and non-profit field. I also used to think I wanted to learn grant writing. After all, it was writing, wasn’t it? Now that I’ve worked in the field and seen friends go through grant writing courses in college, I realized that isn’t the work for me.

This is the number one reason to go take any job. It’s automatic field research into what you don’t —and do— want to do for work. Career changes don’t have to be scary! It also shows you what exactly your strengths and weaknesses really are.

 

Book online with me! I added new coaching & Reiki services!

New for summer

I wanted to make coaching more simple and affordable for summer break as I was inspired by an educator friend who has the summer off and wants to make the most of her time.

I created options for those who really want to grow with multiple sessions -- but who are on a budget.

A life coaching session a week for an entire month won't cost more than $250. If you want two sessions a week of coaching for a month, it's $600. That is it! If you want to get intense and have unlimited coaching and Reiki all month long, it's going to be $1,000, which is a great price for those who want 8 coaching sessions plus a Reiki session or more each week.

Start with a $49 introductory session. I have these set up for two-hour blocks -- but always plan for a session to last at least an hour, maybe 90 minutes. I take my time and listen. I can't can the experience into just one hour.

If you've already done your introductory life coaching session at $49 and want another session, just one at a time as you go, my regular sessions are $100. I made it pay off for you to buy several and keep on working on yourself with coaching and Reiki!

See the new offerings below!

I'm not available this Saturday due to tons of graduations and Mother's Day stuff. Usually, I am available on Saturdays.

#DA30DayChallenge

Destiny Architecture Self-Care Challenge -- 30 days — 30 minutes a day

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Led by Certified Life Coach Heather Larson in Wichita, Kansas — Long-Distance Online Life Coach (and in person in South Central Kansas).

Let’s do a self-care challenge to kick-off spring. Why not? It was a random idea that just came to me, so I figured it must be a nudge from Spirit.

Here’s the commitment factor involved:

Can you challenge yourself to 30 minutes of self-care each of the next 30 days? Why not? Won’t you gain something from the experience of dedicating yourself to 30  minutes of self-care on a daily basis? As your life coach, I don’t care if you set a timer for 30 minutes and nap. That still counts as all the juiciness of “me time.”

Not to harp on the point, but I don’t think I should have to convince you to partake in a 30-day challenge to spend more time on yourself! “Me time” doesn’t need a hard sell! Self-care shouldn’t ever be an option.

If you agree, keep reading.

Now that we agree on that — here’s the drill. You commit to the process, I provide the materials and inspiration. I will constantly be posting new self-care content here on the site. New rituals, resources and ideas. New inspiration. New podcasts. Yes, we want to engage in that glorious “me time” daily but we also want to keep it fresh. Think of it like dating yourself! Take the time to get to know yourself better. Make that self-care time count.

Let’s be clear, too. This is serious stuff. We aren’t just made of bath bombs and pedicures. (Oh, but DO do those things!) We are made of hard work too. Some days self-care is the bath and pedi. Other days it’s tarot cards, calling your close friend in tears, and journaling or automatic writing to find the answer you are seeking. Sometimes you’re mad and burning sage, other days you can buy yourself flowers and take a trip to a museum (something we call an artist date in The Artist’s Way).

I want us to cover as much of that ground in the Destiny Architecture 30-Day Self-Care Challenge.

Here’s what you can find on the site all month:

*Self-care and “me-time” rituals posted on the site — something new to challenge and freshen up your routine.
* Podcast w/a self-care meditation to kick off the challenge
*Podcast to visualize your desired outcome and set the intention for this month

We will cover the following self-care themes (and then some):

*Spoil yourself
*Strengthen yourself: financially, de-clutter, health, wealth, happiness,
*Meditation
*Culture: music, books, movies, ideas
*Codependency recovery
*Addiction recovery
*Writing, journaling
*Creative Recovery & The Artist’s Way  
*Focusing on what you really want
*Fitness
*Yoga
*Meditation
*Reading

Join me and share with a  friend who needs a little recharge in life. If you’re joining the challenge, use the hashtag #DA30DayChallenge on Instagram and Twitter.

Sign up for the newsletter below and never miss an update or Destiny Architecture Challenge!

Tell me in the comments how you plan to recharge your self-care practice.

Back to the #DA30DayChallenge & Why It Was on Hiatus

As often happens, I set the intention to share a #DA30DayChallenge with my clients about self-care -- then found myself in the middle of needing to do that same thing! I needed radical self-care so I went underground for a bit. I took on no clients for Reiki or Life Coaching. I put all my energy into my own care, values, and priorities. Things needed to be realigned in my life.

Also, something major happened to bring this on. I found out there's a new direction in prion disease research that blew me away. Read more about this journey and new direction on my CJD blog.

Then in the middle of April, I went through some other medical stuff (yay, no blood thinners!) that came out totally alright! But whew...the stress level there. The level of emotions to process in the first two weeks of April 2018...was legendary. I won't go through something that amazing in life again any time soon!

The takeaway here is I needed self-care more than you may have. I went offline, didn't blog, didn't coach, didn't do Reiki on others, and basically helped only myself for a bit.

I'm telling you this so you will do this too when the time comes.

It comes for all of us.

There's a time to go within, re-evaluate, re-align, then re-organize.

Like, I totally have to redo my vision board now! There has been other work, too. I've been doing ugly and deep healing work on myself. I continue to do so.

This is what I'm all about -- doing the work. If you have work to do, I'd love to help you with it!

~Certified Life Coach, Heather Larson

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Self-care

Let's get back to the #DA30DayChallenge self-care fun!

Fearless 5 Podcast

It’s the right time to get fearless.

I say this because I delayed releasing this podcast I’d been wanting to release. I’d had an idea of releasing a weekly one that would be more long-form.

But I realized the world doesn’t have a need for that. Not right now. It wasn’t the right idea and still needed to cook a while. I love podcasts, especially motivational ones. But what I realized is I rarely listen to long ones personally. My favorite one is short and well-produced. As a broadcaster, I appreciate the art of it. I feel like it gives me a lot in a short time, which results in me feeling enriched because it it. I even wanted to listen to it again!

I decided I wanted to offer something like that to my audience. I don’t want to give you something I wouldn’t want!

The goal is to keep these around five minutes long. This first one is just under ten. They won’t be longer than that. The topic this first week is about choosing fear over love. There are affirmations in this podcast. I am posting them here for you too, so you can easily access them.

Enjoy!

Fearless 5 Podcast: Choosing Love over Fear Affirmations

I am.
I am love.
I am strong.
I can do whatever I set out to do this week and I can do it well.
I choose.
I choose love instead of fear.
I choose to have a great day.
I choose to have a great week.
I look for opportunities to greet the world with love.
I concentrate now on love and forgiveness.
I choose to meet the people in my life where they are at.
I choose to approach them with love.

Five Steps to Revamp Your Story-Telling in Life

Recovery Month: instead of what are you recovering from, how about a new thought? Leaving the Past Behind and Creating a New Present and Future!

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The above graphic makes me giggle, so I had to post it. I can’t tell you how often someone called the request line in my years of radio to tell me that! What’s funny to me is a radio station has a frequency. We each vibrate our own frequency energetically. (Can you tell I’m a Reiki Master?) So when a radio station plays the same, old, tired song, people tune out when it no longer vibrates to their frequency. They’ve moved on! The same is true about our personal vibrational frequencies and the stories we are telling the world. Read on…

Stories. We all have them.

What is your story? How do you show up to others in the world? What story are you telling them?

I know in my past I used to tell an awful story. People would see my happy, bubbly personality, but my story didn’t match. I used to undercut accomplishments and compliments -- you name it -- without even realizing it. I was telling a story that I was, “less than,” and I am not even sure why!

I had to consciously choose a new story to live from and show the word with my every thought, action and behavior that I wanted to play big. I wanted to tell a story of growth and leveling up. I had to train myself to think different and respond differently. Which first meant I had to become conscious of all the ways in which I unconsciously opted to play small.

That was a lot of work!

But as Destiny Architects, that’s what we are here to do -- the work! The primary factor in what makes us Destiny Architects is that we know we are the architects of our own destiny. We know we are constantly manifesting the future, so let’s make it a future we truly desire.

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First, stop telling the same old story about your past or from your past.

Become conscious of the story you are telling. As a coach, I’m excellent at discovering the story you are telling in our first meeting. Once you become conscious of it, it will become easier over time with practice to become increasingly aware of it. It comes out of your mouth and shows up in your actions or inactions.

Second, just what is that future you want anyway?

Choose it! It’s yours! Don’t be afraid to take giant leaps forward and think big. Prepare to uplevel. Notice whether you are planning your life paycheck to paycheck as though that’s the only possibility you can foresee.

Third,  once you’ve become aware of the story still being dragged into the present, you can begin to train yourself to choose differently so it can stay where it belongs -- in the past.

You start training your thinking and choosing to back it up with new actions congruent to the future you are wanting to create.

Fourth, make that vision clear.

Write down lists of what you want. Keep a journal. Start your vision board, big, bold and in color. (For help and guidance, join my Facebook Vision Boarding group here). Use affirmations. Visualize what it’s like to feel that future coming into being. Feel yourself having that new car, home, job, etc.

Fifth, make it a habit.

Practice your affirmations. Write in that journal regularly. Make a new list each day and then go back to look at what “want in my life” items come up on that list repeatedly. (I have used this method since I was a teenager; I was always a personal development junkie!)

Find a creative visualization meditation you can use daily to motivate yourself into your new ways of living. Make sure you capture the feeling you desire each day. Most of us must recover from our own thinking.
 

Five Steps to Revamp Your Story Telling:

  1. Stop telling your same old story

  2. Choose a new future

  3. Train yourself to tell a new story

  4. Be clear on creating a new vision

  5. Practice it!

*YOUR STORY*

1. Stop telling the same story

2. Choose a new future 

3. Train yourself to tell a new story!

4. Create a clear new vision

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