As your coach, I'm glad you asked! As a broadcaster since my teenage years, I know two things:
- The value of a recording is immense as a teaching tool!
The sound of one's own voice is shocking and arresting at first -- but you can get past it.
- The latter is especially true for my cliets who are working hard to build self-esteem, maybe after a major life change, for example. You're already shellshocked, now the coach is throwing the sound of your own voice at you? Sheesh!
Slow down, let's look at what value the recording of your life coaching session brings.
You can at least hear the parts that I say again! Haha, just kidding. It's not about me. It's really about you. I'm sending you a recording so you can hear yourself. You want to hear your words, your tone and your answers. My purpose as coach is to ask questions to make you think. Your reactions to what I ask is what you want to observe as you experience your recording.
A quick story...
I coached a client one day over video chat who was doing great. We were going gangbusters talking about the idea in her life she wanted to coach around. Her posture was straight, her voice was loud and clear. She was coming off as very assertive in her life and with what she wanted to accomplish in it. Then I got to a key question and it all changed as she answered. She slumped before my eyes, losing her strong posture. Her voice lowered and became weak. In the amount of time it took me to ask one question, a whole new person was sitting in her chair! I pointed it out to her. I told her she would benefit from seeing her change in demeanor on screen herself by watching our session later on.
Sometimes it's the subtleties a coach can notice -- even if you don't. That slight twinge of intonation that changes in a voice. The eyes brightening at a new idea. A change in posture. Try to look at your life coaching session recording as a valuable tool for yourself! It's a keepsake of your session with me in case you forget something. It is also something that will give you insight into yourself -- which is what life coaching is all about!
Another method I learned in broadcasting was to NOT listen to my own recordings right after I made them. If I got off the air and had a recording of that show in my hand, I would let it marinate for at least 24 hours before listening back to it. That way I was a little more removed from it. Once I had let it cool, I could listen to it with fresh ears.
How to re-experience your session without anxiety
When you listen back to your coaching session, wait 24 hours to listen/watch it back. You don't have to watch it if you don't want to. Just listen to it. This is best if you feel as though you will experience anxiety by hearing or seeing yourself.
Remember, this recording is a tool that is part of your coaching plan. It's not for you to use to judge yourself in any way. Just observe without judgement as best you can. Your shirt looks good. Your hair is fabulous. Let the self-consciousness go as much as you can. We are our own worst critics. Instead of getting caught up in rating your look or sound, remember your session is about helping you. Stay positive! It's a tool.
What if you don't want to be on video?
That's OK! I want video to work on my end, but it doesn't have to work on yours. I like video to work on my end because I can share my screen with you. It's not mandatory and doesn't happen in every session but it happens for me more often than not. I'm here to meet you where you're at. So if you don't want to be on video, or don't even want a recording, that is fine. You'd be missing out on such a cool tool though! Some clients have done their session at the end of their day when they are in their pajamas and didn't want to be on camera. Whatever works for your schedule is fine with me!