Hey! It’s a new week, new episodes and some news! The Fearless 5 Podcast is now into it’s 7th week and we are on Apple Podcasts now! I thought this day would never get here. Welcome, new listeners. Thanks for being here.
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This week, I’m going to get real. I’ve been saying I’ve been through A LOT since May of this year…everything from my two-year-old cat suddenly getting sick and dying to an illness and job change all at the same time. It’s been A LOT. It’s been more than I can tell you in a Fearless 5 minutes. But I’ll try! It may take all week! Kidding. We won’t spend all the time talking about my story — just the ways you can use it.
About a year ago at this time, I was still working two jobs outside the home and working on DestinyArchitecture.com in whatever spare time was left. I was working around 52 or more hours a week for other people’s businesses. I was going into my third year of having Destiny Architecture as I had started the website when I was still working towards my life coaching certification at SWIHA. I decided I was just DONE working 40 hours a week for others and wanted to spend more time on DA — no matter the sacrifice. I didn’t have a car but I had been saving up for one. I’m telling you this so you know you have NO excuse to NOT chase after a dream. My dream has been to have my own business and make my own way. I didn’t let not having a car for TWO years hold me back. But this time last year, I also didn’t know how to move forward.
Things began to change at my main job though. Things were slowing down and my coworkers and I were getting nervous. I was the only person who had a side job and told my boss if he was thinking of cutting hours to please cut me back. I would still be working the equivalent of a full-time job if he did and I didn’t like our new healthcare benefits — they were horrible. I decided last year in July as I went through a health crisis during our health benefits change that I could do better on my own providing my own benefits. In December of 2018, I took the first step by asking to be made part-time. I told my boss I was burning out and this was true; social work was not a dream job for me. I found it exhausting. I needed to make a change and felt my second job gave me a safety net. So I made the jump in early December 2018 because I saw an opening to keep a roof over my head AND follow my dreams.
This is a long story… OK… So I just told you how I made a big jump into following my dreams for as many hours a week as I could. So did I jump right into running this business with all my extra time? No. I needed rest. I didn’t realize how burnt out I was until I had extra time in my days and weeks to breathe. So I rested quite a bit those first two months.
I’m getting ready to take another huge leap after something I’ve always wanted which is why I’m bringing this story up. Due to the culmination of stuff I’ve been through in the past 5 months, I see an opportunity shaping up again. This time last year, the opportunity I saw taking shape looked kinda crappy, to be honest. It appeared as though there may be cuts at work. I decided to make myself the “sacrificial lamb” to my boss and asked for less hours. But the truth is, my boss would have let me decrease my hours if I had asked even if we’d been super busy.
I’m going through some crap right now and realized today I am again using it as a catalyst to propel me after something I really want. Again, the truth here is I could go after this dream no matter how things are in my life. I’m just noticing a pattern — I wait for the negative to make a change. But don’t we all?
We only change after we are extremely unhappy, tired, and beaten down.
Notice if you are headed in this direction. Have you had enough of something in life? Do you dream of change?